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BDSM Fundamentals

You’ll learn a lot about how to explore BDSM from a novice viewpoint, Safety is emphasized here. This category is for the play aspects of kink – the rope bondage, spanking, pain play sensations that we tend to encompass in kinky sex.

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What is a Fetish?

What is a Fetish?

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Fetish. An object of extreme or irrational reverence or devotion. The often pathological displacement of erotic or libidinal interest sufficient to stimulate actions of worship. Often regarded as a fixation of the mind [...]

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Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles

Like in the BDSM lifestyle, there’s a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Like most people, one person usually doesn’t just fit one definition and there tends to be a blending of labels, which is totally cool because I fully [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Beginner Basics, Community
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The Best Resources for Littles, Adult Babies, and Diaper Lovers

About a month ago, I got an email from a reader telling me that she and her dominant are interested in the Daddy/little girl lifestyle and asked me if I knew of any other online resources other than my previous articles that have appeared here on Submissive Guide. Sadly to say, I didn’t have many [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Research Pages
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What an Alpha BabyGirl Is to Me

The more I research BDSM the more I feel at home in the community – I realize that aspects of myself that I always thought were weird and unacceptable are permissive and actually quite normal here. The more I research the more I realize that I epitomize some of these roles without trying. When I [...]

7 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Mindset
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because, it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Relationships

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Ask lunaKM – CBT Recommended Information

Ask lunaKM – CBT Recommended Information

Hi luna,My Sir has tasked me with researching and carrying out CBT.  I have no experience with it and am looking for a how-to.  Honestly I’m afraid of hurting him and need to be confident when this happens…maybe watch a video so I know what to expect?  I have found some information; do you have [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

This is a guest post by Mina Button. The idea of wearing a butt plug outside the bedroom is an exciting one. It shows up in lots of erotica, especially in connection with the idea of “anal training,” where a submissive learns to open up their ass for their Dominant. It has the potential to [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

This past winter I ran an educational event through the campus Women’s Center on BDSM in response to Fifty Shades of Grey. With the movie coming out I knew that people would be interested in the topic and consider trying it themselves and I wanted them to be safe about it. I covered the basics [...]

Ask lunaKM – New to BDSM, where do I find Information?

Ask lunaKM – New to BDSM, where do I find Information?

Me and my boy friend have recently become interested in a D/s relationship I want more information but I’m not sure where to look. Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM. You have at least taken a good first step by encountering Submissive Guide and there [...]

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A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

This is a guest post by MermaidHooked. The scene is built upon personal limitations and the ability to be self-aware in the midst of dangerous situations we willingly put ourselves in for the goal of receiving and giving pleasure. Finding and voicing limits can often times be the most daunting part of the BDSM lifestyle. It [...]

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Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Fifty Shades of Curious is by Bo Blaze, a PCC-certified alternative life coach who specializes in alternative sexual relationships and non-traditional lifestyles. He is also well-known nationally as an expert in the BDSM lifestyle who has spoken at numerous events all over the country. With the popularity of the series “Fifty Shades of Grey”, Blaze [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Reviews
BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

Welcome back to the next part in the BDSM Basics series. In earlier episodes we figured out if we were kinky, what role we are, how to stay safe and how to find a partner. In this article we’ll talk about what your first date might look like. I’ll cover two different situations for a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
Fifty Shades of Grey, Consent and the Media’s Representation of Kink

Fifty Shades of Grey, Consent and the Media’s Representation of Kink

We all knew that the Fifty Shades of Grey movie would bring about a conversation regarding BDSM, non-vanilla relationships, and the nature of consent between adult sexual partners.  I read an article discussing the “impact” of the film, and it got me thinking. In the interests of full disclosure, I will tell you that I [...]

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BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts

BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

In my earlier BDSM Basics videos you learned about being kinky and what roles you might like to try while you explore the great big world of BDSM. Today I’m going to talk about safety. Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So [...]

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