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BDSM Fundamentals

You’ll learn a lot about how to explore BDSM from a novice viewpoint, Safety is emphasized here. This category is for the play aspects of kink – the rope bondage, spanking, pain play sensations that we tend to encompass in kinky sex.

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[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

Welcome to a mini-series here on the channel that I’m going to call Define This! In this series you are welcome to ask me to define terms found in the BDSM and D/s lexicon that you don’t know and I will make a brief video defining it for you. Sounds simple enough, right?  I want [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Video Posts
What is a Fetish?

What is a Fetish?

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Fetish. An object of extreme or irrational reverence or devotion. The often pathological displacement of erotic or libidinal interest sufficient to stimulate actions of worship. Often regarded as a fixation of the mind [...]

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Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles

Like in the BDSM lifestyle, there’s a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Like most people, one person usually doesn’t just fit one definition and there tends to be a blending of labels, which is totally cool because I fully [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Beginner Basics, Community
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The Best Resources for Littles, Adult Babies, and Diaper Lovers

About a month ago, I got an email from a reader telling me that she and her dominant are interested in the Daddy/little girl lifestyle and asked me if I knew of any other online resources other than my previous articles that have appeared here on Submissive Guide. Sadly to say, I didn’t have many [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Research Pages
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What an Alpha BabyGirl Is to Me

The more I research BDSM the more I feel at home in the community – I realize that aspects of myself that I always thought were weird and unacceptable are permissive and actually quite normal here. The more I research the more I realize that I epitomize some of these roles without trying. When I [...]

8 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Mindset

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Wax Play Review and Thoughts

Wax Play Review and Thoughts

My Dom and had our first experience with wax play a few months ago, and I wanted to share a few, quick, thoughts and bits of advice if you’ve been toying with the idea of adding wax to your toy chest. What is Wax Play? It’s a form of temperature play, where a special kind [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
BDSM How To: Wax Play

BDSM How To: Wax Play

I love wax play. It’s so much fun and something that is simple to do and also not extremely expensive, which is awesome because we all know how expensive toys can be. So, it’s always great to find a fun activity that isn’t expensive. Not only that, but the more colorful candles you use, it [...]

How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

Hello, I have a question. I’m having a hard time getting past just being angry when my Dom punishes me. Specifically corporal punishment. I understand what I do wrong but it is so hard to just lay there and take it as they say. I don’t want to start a conflict with Sir, I just [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/19/16 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Consent: Compliance with or in approval of what is done or proposed by another. We talk about consent a lot. There is a very good reason for [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

Today I’m sharing with you a lovely inforgraphic (huge image with knowledge) for Bondage Beginners. I especially like the music suggestions! Feel free to download and save or share this graphic where ever you’d like as long as you link to the producer of the graphic, Carvaka Sex Toys (https://carvakasextoys.co.uk/).

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What is Aftercare?

What is Aftercare?

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Affectionate care and attention following any type of traumatic or mentally challenging event. D/s relationships are engaged with a passion and intensity that are often so strong that they can strip away at [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
5 Myths About Dominants You Need To Know

5 Myths About Dominants You Need To Know

For the record, I am not a Dominant (and I don’t play one on TV) but I love a Dominant man, and I have learned a lot about him in our time together. There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. There’s no such thing as a perfect Dominant or a [...]

6 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

Whether you’re brand new to this thing we call BDSM (especially Dominance and submission) or you’ve been around a while, no doubt you’ve heard a few things that make you go, “Hmmmm? Really?” Today, let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you. Myth 1: Submissives are weak. Take it [...]

10 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Resources For CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)

Resources For CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)

Hi luna,My Sir has tasked me with researching and carrying out CBT.  I have no experience with it and am looking for a how-to.  Honestly I’m afraid of hurting him and need to be confident when this happens…maybe watch a video so I know what to expect?  I have found some information; do you have [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

This is a guest post by Mina Button. The idea of wearing a butt plug outside the bedroom is an exciting one. It shows up in lots of erotica, especially in connection with the idea of “anal training,” where a submissive learns to open up their ass for their Dominant. It has the potential to [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex