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BDSM Basics

You’ll learn a lot about how to explore BDSM from a novice viewpoint, Safety is emphasized here. This category is for the play aspects of kink – the rope bondage, spanking, pain play sensations that we tend to encompass in kinky sex.

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Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because, it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Relationships
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

10 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What is a Scene?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A very commonplace word in BDSM discussions is the word ‘scene’ but rarely do we define what that is with novices. Also, experienced people take for granted some of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What are Red Flags?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. When discussing potential dating partners or relationships it is often a common question to ask if there are any red flags about the person that you feel or have [...]

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What is a Collar? What Does it Mean to be Collared?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A common question with novices is what is being collared, what does it mean? Is it like a wedding ring or something more? Something different altogether? First, some basic [...]

21 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

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BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

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BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Video Posts
[Free Download] Creating a Drop Kit

[Free Download] Creating a Drop Kit

Here’s this month’s free download! I’ve put together some of the best suggested things to have on hand and to do when you experience sub drop! I hope it helps you in your times of need. Please download it, print it and share it wherever it may help! Download it here!

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics
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Your Kink is Not my Kink

The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Learn to Submit

Consent is Key: SSC and RACK

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/19/14 The Birth of Safe, Sane and Consensual Historically, David Stein is the person who first coined the phrase in 1983 for the Gay Male SM Activists Group that he co-founded. It was then used as the slogan in the SM Rights contingent of the Gay Rights march to the [...]

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Ask lunaKM – My Dominant Breaks Down When Punishing Me

Ask lunaKM – My Dominant Breaks Down When Punishing Me

I’ve been with my Master for almost a year now 24/7. At first it was very gentle stuff; spanking, a slap here and there, rough sex, light bondage (Do to i am emotionally/physically weak). But over the last month or so it’s been escalating. He’s “Punishing” me now for even the smallest out of step [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Negative Feelings for Dominant After Sub Drop Ends

Ask lunaKM – Negative Feelings for Dominant After Sub Drop Ends

I have recently went through subdrop for the first time. It was frightening for me.  I’m usually pretty good at keeping my emotions together and I have a good head on my shoulders.  For the first time ever I felt completely out of control with my emotions.  I was scared.   My Dom was supportive [...]

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Video Review: Kink for Beginners

Video Review: Kink for Beginners

There are a lot of great resources out there to read online about the lifestyle, but some people tend to learn better visually and there’s not a lot options out there. Mistress Lilith Starr and her slave Uruk Black have fixed that. They have put together an amazing video, Kink for Beginners. Lilith and Uruk [...]

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Everything That’s Wrong with Your Limits List – And How To Fix It

Everything That’s Wrong with Your Limits List – And How To Fix It

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/8/14 Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and [...]

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Humor and Submission:  Service with a Smile (and a laugh or two)

Humor and Submission:  Service with a Smile (and a laugh or two)

This is a guest post by Lazlo Toth. So much of what we do in this lifestyle has an aura of gravity and seriousness about it.  From the clothing and accouterments we choose to wear, to the names we give ourselves, to the things that we do in our relationships and our play.  Dominance and [...]

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Want to get More from Play? The Improved and Expanded Processing Pain in Play ebookTeaches you How!