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Personal Safety Mantra: Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC)

When a novice submissive first learns about BDSM or D/s power exchange it can be a scary place. The first thing I like to help these novices learn is about safety mantras, particularly the widely accepted Safe, Sane and Consensual or SSC. What is SSC? It’s a credo that people in the BDSM community use [...]

26, March | 2 comments

New eBook “Your First Munch” is Launching in 2 Weeks!

If you’re like me, you were scared to walk into the building the first time where the local BDSM munch was happening. You weren’t sure you’d fit in, or that you might be asked to do something or talk about something you weren’t ready to do. Or perhaps you are so shy and confused that [...]

27, January | Leave a comment

What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

26, July | 9 comments

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The Master’s Gift of Orgasm

As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded about the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages [...]

8, October | 7 comments

Ask lunaKM – Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving!

Master and i have been together about a year (known each other for many more). He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Because of past experiences, i have very serious issues with this. i have, of course, shared these issues with Master. Unfortunately, this is something He very much wants. i told Him [...]

8, May | 20 comments

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

BDSM and Sex Sex and BDSM They do not have to go together, did you know that? While much of what we do in the bedroom can be considered sexual or sensual in nature it does not mean that you have to engage in sexual contact during play. Oftentimes during negotiation people will forget the [...]

14, January | 12 comments

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Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 1 – Adrenaline

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 1 – Adrenaline

This is a guest post by Erika McLean. Why do people kneel and let other people order them about and hit them with things?  It’s perhaps the most common thing I get asked when people find out my sexual interests.  Why, why, why?  There are volumes of things written about this but, being as I’m [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play/Scene
What’s That Sound?

What’s That Sound?

This is a guest post by moonlight. No matter how you choose to go about it, kinky or vanilla, we want to keep our fun-loving activities away from our children. However, by their very nature, children are curious little people who can have quite the sneaky side and don’t like missing what everyone is up [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play/Scene, Safety

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play/Scene, Video Posts
You Don’t Have to Be a Porn Star or Fashion Model to Participate in BDSM

You Don’t Have to Be a Porn Star or Fashion Model to Participate in BDSM

You’re sitting at your computer (or tablet, or phone) right now and have wondered for some time about going to a BDSM munch or a party or convention but are afraid that you don’t fit into the image you have in your head of who really is into BDSM. You’ve seen the porn on Kink.com [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play/Scene, Social Norms

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play/Scene, Video Posts

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play/Scene, Video Posts

Get Your Copy of Guide to Your First Munch Now!

Make the next step into the BDSM community an easy one. Let me show you how! There is one huge hurdle that can strike fear into you like nothing else can. You’ve been safe behind your computer, but the next step is clear. You need to meet people face to face.  You will eventually need [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play/Scene
Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas!

Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas!

This is a guest post by sub2JB. Most adults over the age of 21 already know that a trip to Las Vegas can yield any number of experiences, mostly depending on what you’re looking for. Las Vegas is one of the few places in the world where you can literally say “anything is possible.” It’s [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Play/Scene, Relationships
These Aren’t Your Toys!

These Aren’t Your Toys!

This is a guest post by moonlight. Many of us love our kinky toys and the collection just keeps growing the longer you are in the community. Floggers, canes, crops, clothespins, candles, you name it. If you look around my house, those aren’t the toys you will see – it looks more like an explosion [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play/Scene, Safety
BDSM When the Walls Have Ears – 5 Strategies for D/s Play with Kids Around

BDSM When the Walls Have Ears – 5 Strategies for D/s Play with Kids Around

This is a guest post by Erika McLean.My kids get up at just about 6 am like clockwork every day.  They tend to wander out in the middle of the night into the living room because they’ve had a nightmare.  Anyone who has kids, is going to recognize this as how your own life works.  Anyone who doesn’t, [...]

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play/Scene, Submission