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Wax Play Review and Thoughts

Let’s share a few, quick, thoughts and bits of advice if you’ve been toying with the idea of adding wax to your toy chest. Explore what wax play is and isn’t, types of wax that are safe to use for this type of play and the variety of ways to go about it!

21, March | 2 comments

BDSM How To: Wax Play

A fantastic little how to get started with Wax Play! Important points include candle temperature and what you need to get going with your own scene.

7, March | 2 comments

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is the comparison of funishment and punishment. Do you have a term you’d like defined? Let me know.

8, February | 1 comment

Sex and Sexuality View All

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

1, May | 1 comment

It’s Not Just The Size That Matters: Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis

Handling an intact penis is different from a cut one, that’s for sure. Here’s what I’ve picked up from the number of penis’ I’ve had intimate connection with a time or two.

25, July | 5 comments

Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

Have no fear, anal play doesn’t have to be scary! Let’s answer some common questions about anal sex before you dive in… hehe.

4, April | 3 comments

Other Articles View All

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, it’s play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Play and Sex
6 Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine

6 Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine

For as important as after care is, it’s really easy to overlook or misinterpret what your aftercare routine should consist of, regardless of the scenes you’re practicing. Here are six easy activities you can add to your routine for smoother transitions after scenes.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Play and Sex

Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky roleplay.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex

How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality – Taking What You’ve Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

So, you’ve come here looking for how to make those fantasies and hot stories something real; something you can experience for yourself. Let’s try to get your training wheels in place so you can go into your first conversation and foray into hot kinky sex with open eyes.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
How To Navigate Public BDSM Play as a Transgender Person

How To Navigate Public BDSM Play as a Transgender Person

Do what makes you feel most comfortable, and you’ll be doing it “right.”

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

This month’s free report is a compilation of essays from Submissive Guide about parenting and BDSM, children in the home and navigating quiet play and so many other concerns about being parents and also in a D/s relationship.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships, Safety

Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

What does it mean to hit the wall? Let’s explore how deep the rabbit hole goes and become more aware of our own limits during play.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

Having a hard time getting past being angry with your Dominant when you’ve been punished? Mrs. Darling provides some great advice on processing your emotions surrounding corporal punishment.

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

The fusing of BDSM and tantric massage has taken sexual energy to greater heights, and for many, it’s an experience that’s more satisfying than anything encountered before.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Altered Mental States

Altered Mental States

The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion. Within the BDSM community, there is a strong underlying foundation for voluntarily focused enthrallment.

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex

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