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Current Submissive Journal Prompt
- What ten words would you use to describe … May 16, 2012What ten words would you use to describe yourself to someone? […]
Play/Scene
Explore the different ways to serve during those BDSM playtime moments.
BDSM Basics View All
DIY Toy Instructions Online
I’m crafty. I learned how to make BDSM gear almost within months of my entrance to the lifestyle. I love how easy some of these are. I always get compliments for my work. I’ve started a list of all the places online where you can find instructions for DIY projects to fill your dungeon. Many [...]
What is a Bottom?
This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A person who receives spankings, floggings, or other forms of stimulation in situations which specifically exclude power exchange. For example, a masochist may be interested in receiving some kind of stimulation but [...]
What is a Collar?
This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Considered by some to be the greatest symbol of their surrender, a collar is the outward symbol of their status as someone’s property. Collars are worn to denote submissiveness [...]
Sex and Sexuality View All
How to Talk Dirty
My first experience with anything sex was through porn. The girls of porn taught me how sex might be for me. And so when it came time to have sex for the very first time I tried to copy them. At least their dirty talk anyway. But it was clunky and uncomfortable and odd feeling. [...]
Self Love in a D/s Relationship
Before I entered a D/s relationship masturbation was a regular recreational activity for me. It was also private. Even when I was married I didn’t masturbate in front of him or let him know when I was taking care of myself. It just wasn’t something I shared. Neither did he. And then I committed myself [...]
Masturbation: When It Becomes Not So Private Anymore
Introducing a new contributor here at Submissive Guide: BGtreasure! The views in this article are mine and mine alone unless otherwise stated. So lets start out with the definition of masturbation from the Dictionary.com: the stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals, especially to orgasm; sexual self-gratification. the stimulation, by manual or other means exclusive [...]
Other Articles View All
Perspectives: Flogging
I believe the second kinky activity introduced to me after spanking was flogging. Since then I’ve had a love/love relationship with it. Flogging is when a top uses a multi-tailed whip to strike in a swinging motion, often times rhythmically. The material that the flogger is made of varies as much as the sensation. Suede is [...]
Perspectives: Erotic Spanking
Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that [...]
[Video] Can I Access Subspace Too?
We talk about subspace a lot in our descriptions of play and scenes we may get into. As an experienced submissive I tend to forget that moment early on when I wanted so badly to experience subspace but had absolutely no clue how to get there or if I would know I had reached it [...]
Perspectives: Rope Bondage
Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of [...]
Common Pervertables Around the Home
BDSM can be an expensive hobby or lifestyle. Tools of the trade are rarely cheap and with the many differnet typs you’ll have a struggle limiting yourself. Many BDSM participants suffer from “gotta have it syndrome.” Luckily some of the most fun and innovative tools are also pervertables that you can find in some unexpected [...]
What’s In a Name?
Over the years I have had quite a few online names and aliases. Some have stayed with me, some haven’t. Some should never have existed in the first place because they were just *bad* Choosing a scene name is one thing if it is only ever going to be used online, but it takes a [...]
Research Page: Electrical Play
I’ve scoured the internet for some of the more complete resources to do with a variety of topics. Today’s topic is Electrical play. In this form of play practitioners use violet wands, tens units and other more scary electrical devices in their play to deliver shock to the scene.Websites and Articles A Brief Introduction of [...]
Keeping It Fresh – How to Spice Up Your Kinky Life
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-22-11 You’ve been doing the same ole’ kinky sh*t since the beginning and it’s getting old. Really old. So what do you do about it? Does it mean that you have to just keep replaying the record over and over and that nothing will be exciting again? Hardly. Every relationship [...]
Submitting Is Not Without Responsibility
This post was going to be a video post but since I’m working off of my little netbook for the time being (my laptop died) I was unable to create the video. I promise to get back to doing videos when I have a new laptop. In a play party last night I witnessed a [...]
When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship
This is a guest post by tlbsab. You can find her here on the SubGuide Club. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake; but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is [...]
My name is lunaKM and I’m a full-time stay-at-home submissive in a D/s relationship.
I started blogging when I was exploring D/s online in 2003. I needed advice, mentors and helping hands. Since then I've made it my mission to help novice submissives understand themselves and the services they wish to provide. 
