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BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

3, October | 1 comment

[Free Download] Creating a Drop Kit

Here’s this month’s free download! I’ve put together some of the best suggested things to have on hand and to do when you experience sub drop! I hope it helps you in your times of need. Please download it, print it and share it wherever it may help! Download it here!

29, September | 1 comment

Your Kink is Not my Kink

The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset [...]

5, August | 6 comments

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My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

(Disclosure: I first published this on EdenCafe.com. ) My first experience with ass to mouth sex was a huge surprise. I was playing around with someone, and I said something to the effect of, “kiss my ass” as a way to disagree with something he said, and he rolled me over, pinned me down and [...]

11, June | 6 comments

The Master’s Gift of Orgasm

As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded about the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages [...]

8, October | 9 comments

Ask lunaKM – Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving!

Master and i have been together about a year (known each other for many more). He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Because of past experiences, i have very serious issues with this. i have, of course, shared these issues with Master. Unfortunately, this is something He very much wants. i told Him [...]

8, May | 20 comments

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Ask lunaKM – How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party?

Ask lunaKM – How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party?

Hi.  My slave and I are going to a dungeon together for the first time.  I’m wondering about how she should talk.  She has rules for talking with me.  But not for talking with others in the community.  I know she should be respectful to all.  But how should she address other Masters and slaves? [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Episode 1 – Should my vagina be burning?!

No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Episode 1 – Should my vagina be burning?!

Over at my personal blog, InsatiableDesire.com, I write a series called “No Stupid (Kink) Questions (NSKQ)“. I started it a few years ago because every time I stuck my head in a kink forum, I found serious questions asked by newbies and never really answered by more advanced kinksters. I mean, if you are proficient [...]

1 comment Posted by Rayne Millaray | Posted in: Play and Sex, Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Terrified of BDSM, but Aroused by Spanking?

Ask lunaKM – Terrified of BDSM, but Aroused by Spanking?

I’m absolutely terrified of BDSM. But I’m extremely aroused by the thought of a man bending me over his knee, pulling down my pants, and spanking me. Ease my mind? Thank you. Hello terrified, There is a huge world of kinky things inside that little acronym. I can certainly understand why you are scared. But [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex

How to Care for Bruises and More BDSM Play Recovery Tips

If there’s one topic that comes up time and again on this blog, in readers’ emails to me and online forums is how do you care for bruises and other physical and emotional reminders of play? Since 2009 when I started writing this site I’ve returned to this topic time and again with interesting and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 4 – Endorphins

This is a guest post by Erika McClean. There is a whip in my closet that is an antique.  It’s the kind that Drayers would use on their horse teams when driving a carriage.  When I’ve been particularly bad, or good, Master will unhook that puppy from the rope it’s hanging on.  Those moments, as he [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Play and Sex, Reviews

Consent is Key: SSC and RACK

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/19/14 The Birth of Safe, Sane and Consensual Historically, David Stein is the person who first coined the phrase in 1983 for the Gay Male SM Activists Group that he co-founded. It was then used as the slogan in the SM Rights contingent of the Gay Rights march to the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Newsletter Archive
Ask lunaKM – My Dominant Breaks Down When Punishing Me

Ask lunaKM – My Dominant Breaks Down When Punishing Me

I’ve been with my Master for almost a year now 24/7. At first it was very gentle stuff; spanking, a slap here and there, rough sex, light bondage (Do to i am emotionally/physically weak). But over the last month or so it’s been escalating. He’s “Punishing” me now for even the smallest out of step [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Basics
Processing Pain in Play eBook is Now Bigger and Better – Get Yours Now!

Processing Pain in Play eBook is Now Bigger and Better – Get Yours Now!

I’ve been keeping some exciting news from you but today I’m ready to let you all know my secret. My best-selling ebook on processing pain had an overhaul! I’ve revised it to take out blatant grammatical errors that I’m so embarrassed were in the first edition, added over 10 pages of content sections, a new [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Is He Doing This Just For Me?

Ask lunaKM – Is He Doing This Just For Me?

Dear lunaKM, I have been in a vanilla relationship for quite some time and lately we’ve been trying out sub/dom. I’m a sub but not only in the bedroom. I like to be told what to do and punished if I don’t complete them. I’m the kind of person that needs that punishment because I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex