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[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

Welcome to a mini-series here on the channel that I’m going to call Define This! In this series you are welcome to ask me to define terms found in the BDSM and D/s lexicon that you don’t know and I will make a brief video defining it for you. Sounds simple enough, right?  I want [...]

8, February | 1 comment

Ask Submissive Guide: Getting Angry Over Punishment

Hello, I have a question. I’m having a hard time getting past just being angry when my Dom punishes me. Specifically corporal punishment. I understand what I do wrong but it is so hard to just lay there and take it as they say. I don’t want to start a conflict with Sir, I just [...]

5, October | 3 comments

[Freebie] 11 Questions to Ask Your Partner Who Just Came Out Kinky

Here’s the next free download! This freebie is for the vanilla partner that has just been told that their partner would like to explore something in the realm of BDSM or D/s and aren’t sure what to ask to get the answers you need to make an educated decision about your own interests. I worked [...]

2, September | Leave a comment

Sex and Sexuality View All

It’s Not Just The Size That Matters: Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-30-16 The age-old phrase, “It’s not the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean,” was created, I believe, to give men with average sized penises some sexual confidence. If you ask any woman in private they are more likely to tell you exactly the type of penis [...]

25, July | 5 comments

Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1-9-16 Maybe you’ve been asked to learn about anal training or perhaps you are interested in exploring anal sex yourself. Maybe you are really nervous and want to learn more before taking the plunge. Or maybe anal sex is already a part of your sex routine and you want to [...]

4, April | 3 comments

4 Ways to Reignite Passion When You Are Suffering From Stale Sex

A common topic of conversation among my friends is that after several years with their partners, their sex life becomes stale. The pizzazz and excitement of sex dissipates over time as you exhaust many of the sexual options that you have and learn how to work your partner’s body. Sex becomes mundane and more of [...]

22, September | Leave a comment

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Three Types of Parties Play parties — or dungeon parties — are parties where people in the Leather and BDSM scene can go to play, socialize, and watch. There are [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Play and Sex
6 Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine

6 Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine

One of the things that I think many practiced people of the BDSM community pride themselves on is their ability to positively follow up sex. We like to throw around the word “after care” like it’s vernacular rather than jargon—the way that we also generally assume having a first aid kit with a pair of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Play and Sex

Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex

How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality – Taking What You’ve Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

It’s no secret that 50 Shades of Gray is a huge media success. It’s brought about fame for the author and attracted many people to the theaters to see the film adaptation. But it has also brought curious people to this site and many like it for answers and exploration. Many people first get introduced [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Ask Submissive Guide – Being Transgender and Public BDSM Play

Ask Submissive Guide – Being Transgender and Public BDSM Play

Dear Submissive Guide, I’m new to the scene and realizing I’m very interested in submission and masochism. I’m also gay and transgender (an FtM who is attracted to men). I’m gearing up the courage to go to a play party, and while I might not play at my first one I will want to play [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

This month’s free report is a compilation of essays from Submissive Guide about parenting and BDSM, children in the home and navigating quiet play and so many other concerns about being parents and also in a D/s relationship. I hope you enjoy it. Download Now!

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships, Safety

Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Wall: The Wall is one identification of the limit that the mind and body are physically capable of processing. Some submissives will talk about ‘hitting the Wall’ or ‘White Out’. This is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Anyone who has experienced BDSM or tantric massage will know the amount of pleasure it brings. I first dabbled with erotica in my teens and since then, my sexual journey has led me down the path of extreme bliss. The fusing of BDSM and tantric massage has taken sexual energy to greater heights, and for [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Altered Mental States

Altered Mental States

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Venturing into the realms of Altered Mental States should be done carefully. The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion (as witnessed by the recent ‘cult’ suicides in LA). People often have an enormous [...]

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
The Thrill of Knife Play

The Thrill of Knife Play

“I learn in that very first instant the thrill of knife play. I have never encountered anything better able to make my body submit. Fast. As the sharp edge touches my jugular I am terrified to move a single millimeter anywhere on my body. I focus all my mental energy on keeping my physical body [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

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