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Ask Submissive Guide: Getting Angry Over Punishment

Hello, I have a question. I’m having a hard time getting past just being angry when my Dom punishes me. Specifically corporal punishment. I understand what I do wrong but it is so hard to just lay there and take it as they say. I don’t want to start a conflict with Sir, I just [...]

5, October | 3 comments

[Freebie] 11 Questions to Ask Your Partner Who Just Came Out Kinky

Here’s the next free download! This freebie is for the vanilla partner that has just been told that their partner would like to explore something in the realm of BDSM or D/s and aren’t sure what to ask to get the answers you need to make an educated decision about your own interests. I worked [...]

2, September | Leave a comment

Some Issues with Consensuality

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/19/16 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Consent: Compliance with or in approval of what is done or proposed by another. We talk about consent a lot. There is a very good reason for [...]

20, June | 2 comments

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It’s Not Just The Size That Matters: Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-30-16 The age-old phrase, “It’s not the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean,” was created, I believe, to give men with average sized penises some sexual confidence. If you ask any woman in private they are more likely to tell you exactly the type of penis [...]

25, July | 5 comments

Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1-9-16 Maybe you’ve been asked to learn about anal training or perhaps you are interested in exploring anal sex yourself. Maybe you are really nervous and want to learn more before taking the plunge. Or maybe anal sex is already a part of your sex routine and you want to [...]

4, April | 3 comments

For People Suffering From Stale Sex

A common topic of conversation among my friends is that after several years with their partners, their sex life becomes stale. The pizzazz and excitement of sex dissipates over time as you exhaust many of the sexual options that you have and learn how to work your partner’s body. Sex becomes mundane and more of [...]

22, September | Leave a comment

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Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Wall: The Wall is one identification of the limit that the mind and body are physically capable of processing. Some submissives will talk about ‘hitting the Wall’ or ‘White Out’. This is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Anyone who has experienced BDSM or tantric massage will know the amount of pleasure it brings. I first dabbled with erotica in my teens and since then, my sexual journey has led me down the path of extreme bliss. The fusing of BDSM and tantric massage has taken sexual energy to greater heights, and for [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Altered Mental States

Altered Mental States

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Venturing into the realms of Altered Mental States should be done carefully. The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion (as witnessed by the recent ‘cult’ suicides in LA). People often have an enormous [...]

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
The Thrill of Knife Play

The Thrill of Knife Play

“I learn in that very first instant the thrill of knife play. I have never encountered anything better able to make my body submit. Fast. As the sharp edge touches my jugular I am terrified to move a single millimeter anywhere on my body. I focus all my mental energy on keeping my physical body [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

This is part two of my Orgasm Control Series. Catch up by reading part one; The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started. At the end of that article I promised we would discuss advanced orgasm control techniques and touch on reconditioning. These topics are great for long-term couples living in some sort of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex
[Report] Subspace Do’s and Don’ts

[Report] Subspace Do’s and Don’ts

I’ve put together a short report on subspace and a few do’s and don’ts when it comes to your altered headspace from play or intense connection. If you’ve never experienced subspace this report might help you also to identify it. Pick it up now for free! Download it Now!

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

Today I’m sharing with you a lovely inforgraphic (huge image with knowledge) for Bondage Beginners. I especially like the music suggestions! Feel free to download and save or share this graphic where ever you’d like as long as you link to the producer of the graphic, Carvaka Sex Toys (https://carvakasextoys.co.uk/).

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
What is Aftercare?

What is Aftercare?

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Affectionate care and attention following any type of traumatic or mentally challenging event. D/s relationships are engaged with a passion and intensity that are often so strong that they can strip away at [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-6-16 How I Came To See The Benefits I am about to do what was once upon a time unthinkable for me: praise the training that is orgasm control. Giving up control of my orgasm was one of the very first pieces of submission I offered my husband. We started [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex
5 Myths About Dominants

5 Myths About Dominants

For the record, I am not a Dominant (and I don’t play one on TV) but I love a Dominant man, and I have learned a lot about him in our time together. There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. There’s no such thing as a perfect Dominant or a [...]

6 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships

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