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Ask lunaKM – CBT Recommended Information

Hi luna,My Sir has tasked me with researching and carrying out CBT.  I have no experience with it and am looking for a how-to.  Honestly I’m afraid of hurting him and need to be confident when this happens…maybe watch a video so I know what to expect?  I have found some information; do you have [...]

1, July | Leave a comment

Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

This is a guest post by Mina Button. The idea of wearing a butt plug outside the bedroom is an exciting one. It shows up in lots of erotica, especially in connection with the idea of “anal training,” where a submissive learns to open up their ass for their Dominant. It has the potential to [...]

30, June | 2 comments

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

This past winter I ran an educational event through the campus Women’s Center on BDSM in response to Fifty Shades of Grey. With the movie coming out I knew that people would be interested in the topic and consider trying it themselves and I wanted them to be safe about it. I covered the basics [...]

9, June | Leave a comment

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How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. I am sure it could be argued that I still don’t love them, but the mind shift has certainly come a long way in the positive for KnyghtMare. My history with giving oral sex is one I’ve heard from a few of you. Your first experiences were not [...]

9, February | 17 comments

Ask lunaKM – I Want My Boyfriend to be More Dominant in Bed

Hello.. Umm I don’t know how to start this.. You see I’m trying to get my boyfriend to be more dominant in the bedroom. I understand the whole communication part and we communicate great.. About other things.. When I comes to sex and telling him what I like I afraid I might scare him. But, [...]

22, October | Leave a comment

My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

(Disclosure: I first published this on EdenCafe.com. ) My first experience with ass to mouth sex was a huge surprise. I was playing around with someone, and I said something to the effect of, “kiss my ass” as a way to disagree with something he said, and he rolled me over, pinned me down and [...]

11, June | 9 comments

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Ask lunaKM – How Can I Get Less Bruising from Caning?

Ask lunaKM – How Can I Get Less Bruising from Caning?

Hi, I just experienced my first caning, it’s a thin rounded, but oh did it sting, it left welts which is fine, but next morning it is really bruised, bad. Haven’t been able to sit for the last four days…  I like pain, but caning isn’t what I thought, is there anything I can do [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Perspectives: Canes

Perspectives: Canes

This is another post in the series about a submissive’s perspective in play. This one is on canes and caning, but I’ve also written on gags, spanking, flogging and rope bondage. My first exposure to canes was that of some amateur porn I stumbled across and it made me so terrified of canes that I vowed never [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
The 5 Levels of Sub Space In and Out of Playtime

The 5 Levels of Sub Space In and Out of Playtime

for the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/28/15 Sub space is one of the big topics I cover here on the site. So much of what we know about it shifts and changes with our experience that I’m always learning more about how it affects people and what draws people to reaching that sensation in play. If [...]

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
A Discussion of Anatomy: The Vagina

A Discussion of Anatomy: The Vagina

Vagina. Pussy. Cunt. Twat. Poochy. Whoo-ha. Down there. We have a ton of words for the vagina, but the average person knows very little about this aspect of the human anatomy, which is pretty amazing considering how integral it is to your day-to-day life. So I figured that I would write an overview of information [...]

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Cum on Command Training and Manual

Ask lunaKM – Cum on Command Training and Manual

Dear lunaKM, Your articles talk about learning to cum on command, but they never really describe the process or steps to practice etc. Is there a manual? Thanks Hi there, I actually have a 3 part series on Orgasm Training. Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training Orgasm on Command Training – The Process for [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
But I Don’t Like Pain! Learning to See the Eroticism in Pain as Pleasure

But I Don’t Like Pain! Learning to See the Eroticism in Pain as Pleasure

for the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/7/15 I have heard it a thousand times, someone doesn’t like pain so they are not interested in BDSM. In practically every case the person making that statement retracts it once they find out how erotic some pain can be. Pain doesn’t have to be painful, and other stimulus can [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM Quickies – Out of Spit and Can You Toughen Up Nipples

Ask lunaKM Quickies – Out of Spit and Can You Toughen Up Nipples

hi Luna, I am new to this sub world.  Very interested yes.. My question is what do you do when you run out of spit in your mouth for all the blow jobs he wants? My  mouth gets dry bc of meds and i am unsure how to handle this. TY I did have to [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – New to BDSM, where do I find Information?

Ask lunaKM – New to BDSM, where do I find Information?

Me and my boy friend have recently become interested in a D/s relationship I want more information but I’m not sure where to look. Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM. You have at least taken a good first step by encountering Submissive Guide and there [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
Tips for Taking Care of Your BDSM and Sex Toys

Tips for Taking Care of Your BDSM and Sex Toys

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/24/15 Most of us in the BDSM or D/s lifestyle love our toys. Some of us have chests, trunks and even entire rooms dedicated to our tools and toys. I know that KnyghtMare and I have lots of toys and the space they take up keeps growing with each new [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics, Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

This is a guest post by MermaidHooked. The scene is built upon personal limitations and the ability to be self-aware in the midst of dangerous situations we willingly put ourselves in for the goal of receiving and giving pleasure. Finding and voicing limits can often times be the most daunting part of the BDSM lifestyle. It [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics

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