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Some Issues with Consensuality

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/19/16 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Consent: Compliance with or in approval of what is done or proposed by another. We talk about consent a lot. There is a very good reason for [...]

20, June | 2 comments

[Infographic] Bondage for Beginners

Today I’m sharing with you a lovely inforgraphic (huge image with knowledge) for Bondage Beginners. I especially like the music suggestions! Feel free to download and save or share this graphic where ever you’d like as long as you link to the producer of the graphic, Carvaka Sex Toys (https://carvakasextoys.co.uk/).

3, June | Leave a comment

What is Aftercare?

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Affectionate care and attention following any type of traumatic or mentally challenging event. D/s relationships are engaged with a passion and intensity that are often so strong that they can strip away at [...]

20, May | 1 comment

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It’s Not Just The Size That Matters: Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-30-16 The age-old phrase, “It’s not the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean,” was created, I believe, to give men with average sized penises some sexual confidence. If you ask any woman in private they are more likely to tell you exactly the type of penis [...]

25, July | 5 comments

Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1-9-16 Maybe you’ve been asked to learn about anal training or perhaps you are interested in exploring anal sex yourself. Maybe you are really nervous and want to learn more before taking the plunge. Or maybe anal sex is already a part of your sex routine and you want to [...]

4, April | 3 comments

For People Suffering From Stale Sex

A common topic of conversation among my friends is that after several years with their partners, their sex life becomes stale. The pizzazz and excitement of sex dissipates over time as you exhaust many of the sexual options that you have and learn how to work your partner’s body. Sex becomes mundane and more of [...]

22, September | Leave a comment

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Weekend Giveaway: Creative Humiliation Scene Starter Cards from Princess Kali (1 Winner)

Weekend Giveaway: Creative Humiliation Scene Starter Cards from Princess Kali (1 Winner)

Welcome back to another Weekend Giveaway! If you are into our curious about humiliation play and dirty talk then this scene starter deck is an excellent way to enhance your play! Princess Kali is offering one deck of Creative Humiliation Scene Starter Cards to a lucky winner in this weekend’s contest. Princess Kali has also [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Views & More...
Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

This is part two of my Orgasm Control Series. Catch up by reading part one; The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started. At the end of that article I promised we would discuss advanced orgasm control techniques and touch on reconditioning. These topics are great for long-term couples living in some sort of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex
[Freebie] Subspace Do’s and Don’ts

[Freebie] Subspace Do’s and Don’ts

I’ve put together a short report on subspace and a few do’s and don’ts when it comes to your altered headspace from play or intense connection. If you’ve never experienced subspace this report might help you also to identify it. Pick it up now for free! Download it Now!

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-6-16 How I Came To See The Benefits I am about to do what was once upon a time unthinkable for me: praise the training that is orgasm control. Giving up control of my orgasm was one of the very first pieces of submission I offered my husband. We started [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex
5 Myths About Dominants

5 Myths About Dominants

For the record, I am not a Dominant (and I don’t play one on TV) but I love a Dominant man, and I have learned a lot about him in our time together. There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. There’s no such thing as a perfect Dominant or a [...]

6 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships

How Sub Space Affects Sexual Sensations During Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-19-15 Often misunderstood; subspace has a complexity that leads many to believe what they are experiencing isn’t subspace at all. But what we can all agree on is that subspace alters your senses during play. While SM play is most common to reach subspace you can get there using other [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

Whether you’re brand new to this thing we call BDSM (especially Dominance and submission) or you’ve been around a while, no doubt you’ve heard a few things that make you go, “Hmmmm? Really?” Today, let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you. Myth 1: Submissives are weak. Take it [...]

10 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix

Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix

Okay, so here I go again stepping into what may be a heated topic for many people, but I’m going to say it anyway. Kink and alcohol (or drug use) don’t mix. Now, let me clarify what I mean. If you drink or smoke pot or do something else, more power to you. Me? I [...]

3 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

How to Access Sub Space

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM. [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
When You’re Only A Little Horny

When You’re Only A Little Horny

Kinky sex requires for you to put a lot on the line. You are allowing someone to dominate you physically, emotionally, mentally, and in some situations, spiritually. Sometimes you may be 100% in the mood to be dominated, other times you may not. Sometimes you may want to have sex, sometimes you may not. Important [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Play and Sex