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What is Aftercare?

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Affectionate care and attention following any type of traumatic or mentally challenging event. D/s relationships are engaged with a passion and intensity that are often so strong that they can strip away at [...]

20, May | Leave a comment

5 Myths About Dominants

For the record, I am not a Dominant (and I don’t play one on TV) but I love a Dominant man, and I have learned a lot about him in our time together. There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. There’s no such thing as a perfect Dominant or a [...]

22, March | 4 comments

5 Myths About Submissives and Submission

Whether you’re brand new to this thing we call BDSM (especially Dominance and submission) or you’ve been around a while, no doubt you’ve heard a few things that make you go, “Hmmmm? Really?” Today, let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you. Myth 1: Submissives are weak. Take it [...]

23, February | 9 comments

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Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1-9-16 Maybe you’ve been asked to learn about anal training or perhaps you are interested in exploring anal sex yourself. Maybe you are really nervous and want to learn more before taking the plunge. Or maybe anal sex is already a part of your sex routine and you want to [...]

4, April | 3 comments

For People Suffering From Stale Sex

A common topic of conversation among my friends is that after several years with their partners, their sex life becomes stale. The pizzazz and excitement of sex dissipates over time as you exhaust many of the sexual options that you have and learn how to work your partner’s body. Sex becomes mundane and more of [...]

22, September | Leave a comment

Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship)

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/23/15 Far too often I hear stories of submissives who are unhappy in their relationship because their partners don’t care about their orgasms or listen to their sexual needs. Some Dominants go as far as saying that they should get enjoyment out of being used, told they are topping from [...]

24, August | Leave a comment

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The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-6-16 How I Came To See The Benefits I am about to do what was once upon a time unthinkable for me: praise the training that is orgasm control. Giving up control of my orgasm was one of the very first pieces of submission I offered my husband. We started [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex

How Sub Space Affects Sexual Sensations During Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-19-15 Often misunderstood; subspace has a complexity that leads many to believe what they are experiencing isn’t subspace at all. But what we can all agree on is that subspace alters your senses during play. While SM play is most common to reach subspace you can get there using other [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix

Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix

Okay, so here I go again stepping into what may be a heated topic for many people, but I’m going to say it anyway. Kink and alcohol (or drug use) don’t mix. Now, let me clarify what I mean. If you drink or smoke pot or do something else, more power to you. Me? I [...]

3 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

How to Access Sub Space

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM. [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
When You’re Only A Little Horny

When You’re Only A Little Horny

Kinky sex requires for you to put a lot on the line. You are allowing someone to dominate you physically, emotionally, mentally, and in some situations, spiritually. Sometimes you may be 100% in the mood to be dominated, other times you may not. Sometimes you may want to have sex, sometimes you may not. Important [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Bimbofication and “Feeling Slutty”

Ask lunaKM – Bimbofication and “Feeling Slutty”

Dear LunaKM, I am in a 24/7, M/s relationship. My Master is into what is called, “bimbofication”. I have been sort  of a tomboy most of my life. I knew getting into this relationship that there would be not only behavior modification, but also physical modifications as well. While I am pretty excited to try [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Igniting Sexual Desire – Submissive Mediation Monday

Igniting Sexual Desire – Submissive Mediation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. In the first [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
On Being Pansexual

On Being Pansexual

I used to struggle with my sexual orientation. Well, that’s not entirely true. I used to never think about my sexual orientation. I was always attracted to cis males (a male assigned male at birth) and never once felt an attraction to anybody but that. Until I did. It is quite a shocking experience to [...]

5 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Personal Growth, Play and Sex
What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

You have a safeword for your BDSM kinky fun. Right? I know there’s a debate in the world of BDSM and D/s between the safeword crew and those who don’t want one. I land firmly on the side of having a safeword – always. It’s rarely used but it’s always there. We could debate the [...]

12 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/20/15 I know for myself, some of the most embarrassing things my Dominant has asked me are actually quite tame. One of the early ones was masturbating in front of him. Sure I’d been doing it on camera for him for months but having him sit there in the room, [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex

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