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Ask lunaKM – My Dominant Breaks Down When Punishing Me

I’ve been with my Master for almost a year now 24/7. At first it was very gentle stuff; spanking, a slap here and there, rough sex, light bondage (Do to i am emotionally/physically weak). But over the last month or so it’s been escalating. He’s “Punishing” me now for even the smallest out of step [...]

18, July | Leave a comment

Ask lunaKM – Negative Feelings for Dominant After Sub Drop Ends

I have recently went through subdrop for the first time. It was frightening for me.  I’m usually pretty good at keeping my emotions together and I have a good head on my shoulders.  For the first time ever I felt completely out of control with my emotions.  I was scared.   My Dom was supportive [...]

30, June | Leave a comment

Video Review: Kink for Beginners

There are a lot of great resources out there to read online about the lifestyle, but some people tend to learn better visually and there’s not a lot options out there. Mistress Lilith Starr and her slave Uruk Black have fixed that. They have put together an amazing video, Kink for Beginners. Lilith and Uruk [...]

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My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

(Disclosure: I first published this on EdenCafe.com. ) My first experience with ass to mouth sex was a huge surprise. I was playing around with someone, and I said something to the effect of, “kiss my ass” as a way to disagree with something he said, and he rolled me over, pinned me down and [...]

11, June | 5 comments

The Master’s Gift of Orgasm

As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded about the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages [...]

8, October | 7 comments

Ask lunaKM – Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving!

Master and i have been together about a year (known each other for many more). He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Because of past experiences, i have very serious issues with this. i have, of course, shared these issues with Master. Unfortunately, this is something He very much wants. i told Him [...]

8, May | 20 comments

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Processing Pain in Play eBook is Now Bigger and Better – Get Yours Now!

Processing Pain in Play eBook is Now Bigger and Better – Get Yours Now!

I’ve been keeping some exciting news from you but today I’m ready to let you all know my secret. My best-selling ebook on processing pain had an overhaul! I’ve revised it to take out blatant grammatical errors that I’m so embarrassed were in the first edition, added over 10 pages of content sections, a new [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Is He Doing This Just For Me?

Ask lunaKM – Is He Doing This Just For Me?

Dear lunaKM, I have been in a vanilla relationship for quite some time and lately we’ve been trying out sub/dom. I’m a sub but not only in the bedroom. I like to be told what to do and punished if I don’t complete them. I’m the kind of person that needs that punishment because I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 3 – Testosterone

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 3 – Testosterone

This is a guest post by Erika McClean. Do you ever have that feeling when your Master is working you over and waiting for you to say “uncle,” that you will be damned if you’re going to say it before his arm gets too tired to flog you anymore?  I do.  I’m a brat through and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – How to Initiate Play and Sex while remaining Submissive

Ask lunaKM – How to Initiate Play and Sex while remaining Submissive

HiI need some help please. I am in a relationship, have been with him for over 2 years. In the bedroom he has always been the dominant, I am submissive by nature, and until recently when we discussed our relationship I thought we were doing things that satisfied both of us. At new years we [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – A Step-by-Step Guide for a Scene

Ask lunaKM – A Step-by-Step Guide for a Scene

Hi! My partner and I are both fairly inexperienced in D/s, and we haven’t quite got the hang of how to do a scene. As she says; “I can tie you up alright, but then what?” It’s hard for her to know what to do, and it’s hard for me to know exactly what I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Playing and Punishment from a Distance

Playing and Punishment from a Distance

If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one time zone ahead [...]

Leave a comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Online Submission, Play and Sex
5 Types of Naughty Talk

5 Types of Naughty Talk

Talking dirty is an art that not many are born with, most of us have to learn it if we want to be good at it.  I’ve given a bit of a primer on it before if you want to check that out, and I know that many of you are shy and just thinking [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Everything That’s Wrong with Your Limits List – And How To Fix It

Everything That’s Wrong with Your Limits List – And How To Fix It

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/8/14 Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Newsletter Archive
Positive Pain Processing Interview is Out Now on KinkyCast!

Positive Pain Processing Interview is Out Now on KinkyCast!

  About a month ago I sat down to record a podcast with the crew at KinkyCast.com and today it’s live! I talked with Gabrielle, Woody and the Beast about how to process pain during play, why it’s important to understand and how to positively process pain to make your play last longer, be more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Roundtable Discussions
Slut Is Such a Dirty Word and I Love It!

Slut Is Such a Dirty Word and I Love It!

There are some pretty bad derogatory words in the English language. Ones then when uttered make people cringe and cry, scream and object (often loudly). So when I entered the BDSM scene 10 years ago I was on the fence about how these same terms can be used in a positive way, or at least [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

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