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Ask lunaKM – CBT Recommended Information

Hi luna,My Sir has tasked me with researching and carrying out CBT.  I have no experience with it and am looking for a how-to.  Honestly I’m afraid of hurting him and need to be confident when this happens…maybe watch a video so I know what to expect?  I have found some information; do you have [...]

1, July | 1 comment

Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

This is a guest post by Mina Button. The idea of wearing a butt plug outside the bedroom is an exciting one. It shows up in lots of erotica, especially in connection with the idea of “anal training,” where a submissive learns to open up their ass for their Dominant. It has the potential to [...]

30, June | 3 comments

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

This past winter I ran an educational event through the campus Women’s Center on BDSM in response to Fifty Shades of Grey. With the movie coming out I knew that people would be interested in the topic and consider trying it themselves and I wanted them to be safe about it. I covered the basics [...]

9, June | Leave a comment

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For People Suffering From Stale Sex

A common topic of conversation among my friends is that after several years with their partners, their sex life becomes stale. The pizzazz and excitement of sex dissipates over time as you exhaust many of the sexual options that you have and learn how to work your partner’s body. Sex becomes mundane and more of [...]

22, September | Leave a comment

Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship)

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/23/15 Far too often I hear stories of submissives who are unhappy in their relationship because their partners don’t care about their orgasms or listen to their sexual needs. Some Dominants go as far as saying that they should get enjoyment out of being used, told they are topping from [...]

24, August | Leave a comment

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. I am sure it could be argued that I still don’t love them, but the mind shift has certainly come a long way in the positive for KnyghtMare. My history with giving oral sex is one I’ve heard from a few of you. Your first experiences were not [...]

9, February | 19 comments

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Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix

Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix

Okay, so here I go again stepping into what may be a heated topic for many people, but I’m going to say it anyway. Kink and alcohol (or drug use) don’t mix. Now, let me clarify what I mean. If you drink or smoke pot or do something else, more power to you. Me? I [...]

3 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

How to Access Sub Space

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM. [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
When You’re Only A Little Horny

When You’re Only A Little Horny

Kinky sex requires for you to put a lot on the line. You are allowing someone to dominate you physically, emotionally, mentally, and in some situations, spiritually. Sometimes you may be 100% in the mood to be dominated, other times you may not. Sometimes you may want to have sex, sometimes you may not. Important [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Bimbofication and “Feeling Slutty”

Ask lunaKM – Bimbofication and “Feeling Slutty”

Dear LunaKM, I am in a 24/7, M/s relationship. My Master is into what is called, “bimbofication”. I have been sort  of a tomboy most of my life. I knew getting into this relationship that there would be not only behavior modification, but also physical modifications as well. While I am pretty excited to try [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Igniting Sexual Desire – Submissive Mediation Monday

Igniting Sexual Desire – Submissive Mediation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. In the first [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
On Being Pansexual

On Being Pansexual

I used to struggle with my sexual orientation. Well, that’s not entirely true. I used to never think about my sexual orientation. I was always attracted to cis males (a male assigned male at birth) and never once felt an attraction to anybody but that. Until I did. It is quite a shocking experience to [...]

5 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Personal Growth, Play and Sex
What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

You have a safeword for your BDSM kinky fun. Right? I know there’s a debate in the world of BDSM and D/s between the safeword crew and those who don’t want one. I land firmly on the side of having a safeword – always. It’s rarely used but it’s always there. We could debate the [...]

11 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/20/15 I know for myself, some of the most embarrassing things my Dominant has asked me are actually quite tame. One of the early ones was masturbating in front of him. Sure I’d been doing it on camera for him for months but having him sit there in the room, [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Coping with Different Sex-Drives in a Relationship

Coping with Different Sex-Drives in a Relationship

It’s not pleasant, but it’s a reality that many relationships face, even when those relationships are kinky. It’s not the preference of one activity over another, but the desire for any activity at all; it’s the age old question: are you up for it? and the difference between your response and your partner’s. Having a [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How Can I Get Less Bruising from Caning?

Ask lunaKM – How Can I Get Less Bruising from Caning?

Hi, I just experienced my first caning, it’s a thin rounded, but oh did it sting, it left welts which is fine, but next morning it is really bruised, bad. Haven’t been able to sit for the last four days…  I like pain, but caning isn’t what I thought, is there anything I can do [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex

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