Playtime
Explore the different ways to serve during those BDSM playtime moments.
By nan {SL} on September 1, 2010
BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]
Posted in Playtime, Submission | Tagged bdsm play, control, enduring pain, energy, eroticizing pain, experience, learning, masochist, pain dispersement methods, play, reactions, sadist, SM |
By thisgirl on August 23, 2010
I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality, Submission | Tagged bi curiosity, bisexuality, comfort, experience, female, first signs, first time, skills, submission |
By nan {SL} on July 14, 2010
The idea of hypnotism always frightened me a little. I never thought it was entertaining to watch someone go up on stage and act like a chicken or in some other humiliating way. My Master, however, was intrigued by the idea of using hypnotism in our M/s relationship. I have always felt somewhat self-conscious with [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged concentration, focus, hypnosis, hypnotism, look into my eyes, partner focus, peter masters, role play, sex life, subspace, trance, willingness |
By Rayne on May 27, 2010
I never used to like anal sex. I wouldn’t let anyone near that part of my body. There were all sorts of worries and thoughts running through my mind every time someone tried, from concerns about pain, to concerns about cleanliness, to not understanding, on a personal level, how stimulation to this part of the [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged anal play, anal sex, back door, beginner, butt sex, cleanliness, enema, how-to, play, pleasure, rectum |
By Guest Author on May 19, 2010
This guest post was written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first published on Sensual Service which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. I don’t think I could ever forget the first time I felt it. He was buried deep inside me as my thighs straddled His hips, riding Him slowly as we talked. I [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged bruises, control, face slapping, Mindset, slap |
By lunaKM on May 5, 2010
When you engage in playtime with a Dominant your body is the canvas for sensation and pleasure. You can run the gamut of emotions and many of them can take you by surprise. It’s not uncommon even for someone who plays regularly to be shocked by a new reaction to a play activity that they [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged body parts, crying, dizziness, emotions, endorphins, impact play, leatherbutt, pain tolerance, responses, shivers, stress, understanding |
By lunaKM on April 23, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-24-09 WHAT IS ROLE-PLAYING? When you think of role-playing what comes to your mind? Naughty school girl? Nurse-patient? French maid? A lot of what we do can classify itself under role-playing. In fact D/s is a form of role-play. For many people it is just a character they don to [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Playtime | Tagged fantasy, pleasure, role play, spiced up sex, submissive guide newsletter |
By lunaKM on April 19, 2010
This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. “Consensual rape.” Quite an oxymoron, I suppose. Rape, by definition, is sexual intercourse in which one party is unwilling and unwanting of the attention and act. A consensual act is something quite contrary [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged boundaries, consensual act, consensual rape, fantasy rape, force, negotiations, psychological aspects, rape scene, sex, sexual intercourse, tips |
By lunaKM on March 26, 2010
from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-12-09 Throughout the process of learning about yourself and BDSM you hear talk of checklists. You can find yourself obsessing over what terms are in the complex checklist you found on www.onewaytodobdsm.com. I’ve even written about it several times on SubmissiveGuide.com. So What’s the Big Deal Anyway? For a novice [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged basics, bdsm checklist, checklists, fetishes, negotiation, novice, play |
By nan {SL} on March 17, 2010
Has your Dom/me ever tied you in a position where if you move one way this part of your body gets stressed or pulled, and if you move another way, that part of your body gets tugged or pinched? If so, then you have experienced predicament bondage! Predicament bondage can be simple or complex and [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged Bondage, comfort, opposing forces, painful situations, play, predicament bondage, Safety, scene, stress, stressors |
By lunaKM on February 19, 2010
Topping from the bottom has been given a bad wrap. It’s considered by many to be a faux paux for any submissive. Online communities shun and shame many people who even ask about the subject and want to know if what they did was considered wrong. Too many people tell these people that yes it [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged body language, common sense, communication, experience, faux paux, negotiation, scene, topping from the bottom |
By lunaKM on February 15, 2010
Every submissive goes though it. You may be going through it now. Those butterflies in your stomach because you’ve just set a date for your first play session. Things are still so new and exciting. You don’t know what to expect or how you will react to things. It’s all so strange and foreign feeling. [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged being prepared, first meeting, first time, nerves, nervousness, play, play session jitters, scene |
By lunaKM on February 3, 2010
Being that I’m a masochist, I love pain. I’ve never really thought about it or analyzed what that means really, but reading other people’s blogs has always helped me see that saying I’m masochist is just another huge personal term in BDSM as a whole. So, to think it though, this is what being a [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged acceptance, delicious pain, endorphins, Masochism, masochist, play, pleasure, sexual responses, threshold |
By Guest Author on February 1, 2010
This is a guest post by Slut M as a response to SubWise #6 about BDSM Myths. According to the mythological story, a slut is a downtrodden woman who by nature or by circumstances is propelled to debase her body in sexual desires. And so the story goes: these sexual desires control her and her [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged bdsm myths, desires, fulfillment, guest post, myth of a slut, myths, Slut M, slut myth, submissive, SubWise |
By Guest Author on January 20, 2010
This is a guest post by The Beginner. I am very much aware of how mild and tame the following post is. This isn’t an account of of extreme BDSM. It isn’t an account of me becoming a slave, or what I would consider myself becoming a full on sub. It is simply a retelling [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged bdsm play feature, experience, feature series, guest post, nervousness, novice experiences, The Beginner |
By Guest Author on January 18, 2010
This is a guest post for the BDSM Activity Feature Series. patricialynn offers us a look into rope bondage. Rope bondage is a wonderful thing. Nothing beats the feel of the rope sliding across my skin, teasing, tantalizing, with taunting promise of bondage to come. Under the hands of a skilled rope top, bondage can [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged basics, bdsm play feature, bdsm series, Bondage, feature series, guest post, patricialynn, rope bondage |
By Guest Author on January 15, 2010
This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing relationship.You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged activities, adult nursing relationship, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, connection, cons, dani, erotic lactation, feature series, fetlife, guest post, information, journey, kinky, love, play, relationship, rt, sex, submissive, tall |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
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