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Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

The Slave Journal is a log of command, instructions, and requests from the Dominant. When they ask for you to do something, you write it down. Things like new rules, mention that they prefer Charmin toilet paper or that they love the red dress you wore the other night.

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

The slave resume is a snapshot of you – the services you thrive in, something you’d like to learn, S&M experiences/desires, interests, hobbies, in other words, you’re sharing the highlights of yourself that you desire to find a compatible match for.

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Training Resume
Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I’m covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I’d like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let’s see some wonderful changes in you!

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Training Resume
My Submissive Code of Ethics

My Submissive Code of Ethics

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. I thought I would share it here so that you can perhaps get some ideas for developing your own code [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
Add Convention, Class and Event Notes to your Submissive Training Resume

Add Convention, Class and Event Notes to your Submissive Training Resume

Your training resume should be growing in bulk and excellent information if you’ve been following along and developing your sections fully. We are now going to work on your  community exposure section. What I mean by community exposure are all the classes, extended weekends, get aways and other events you’ve attended in your past that [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume

Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Training Resume

How You Can Develop Your Submission with a Training Resume

Using the posts and resources here at Submissive Guide you have tools necessary to start creating your Training Resume; a folder of all your past, present and future training as well as skills and preferences. It’s very helpful to know where you are lacking experience or developing your skills. Here’s a list of posts already [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
Learn a New Skill to Enhance Your Service with Free Online Courses

Learn a New Skill to Enhance Your Service with Free Online Courses

There are many ways that submissives can learn new skills and training that will enhance what you can provide your Dominant. Just imagine being able to speak another language, or have secretarial skills. Perhaps learning gardening, technology or sewing? Your skills can be expanded endlessly and a lot of it for free. Is there something [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume

What’s With All These BDSM Checklists? [Video]

This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist. If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Training Resume, Video Posts
How To Use Mind Mapping To Pinpoint Your Ideal Submission

How To Use Mind Mapping To Pinpoint Your Ideal Submission

Continuing the work on your training resume, I’d like to talk about mapping out how you dream of your submission being. This is a discussion of ideals and dreams. You can be as fanciful as you want right now, we will narrow things down as we go along. There are 3 things I’d like to [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Training Resume
How to Document Your Skills and Training in your Submissive Resume

How to Document Your Skills and Training in your Submissive Resume

Your Training Resume is a folder or binder with all of your training, history and experience in it, so that you can give it to a prospective Dominant or to keep a training history for yourself. It’s a novel concept for submissives and one that I’ve not seen so far. Part of the Resume is [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
Reflecting On Past Relationships Can Help Develop Your Submission – Write Them Down In Your Submissive Training Resume

Reflecting On Past Relationships Can Help Develop Your Submission – Write Them Down In Your Submissive Training Resume

Your training history is the catalog of the past relationships that you have had within a D/s dynamic. You will be documenting the training you received and list the basic development that you can recall being part of your service. If you have a long history with many dominants this could take awhile and be [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
What Everybody Ought To Know About Basic Needs and Need Deficits

What Everybody Ought To Know About Basic Needs and Need Deficits

In the previous post about wants and needs you made a list of your wants and a list of your needs so that you had them defined for your training resume. In this essay I will share why needs are so important to your overall health and happiness in a relationship and why settling for [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Training Resume
Beginning Your Submissive Training Resume: A Personal Development Tool

Beginning Your Submissive Training Resume: A Personal Development Tool

A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Much like the training folders mentioned in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou you can build a file on yourself to offer your current or future dominant partner(s). Throughout [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
How to Learn What You Want and Need in a D/s Relationship

How to Learn What You Want and Need in a D/s Relationship

Wants and needs are very important to any relationship. When you start to understand who you are as a submissive, it’s time to figure out what you are looking for in a relationship. Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it’s always present in their minds. The play, the [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume

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