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31 Days of Submissive Journaling View All

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 31: Q&A, Resources and Further Reading

Well, the month is over and I hope you learned about submissive journaling and how to open up by writing! I had a great time putting this series together for you but I know I probably missed some of the things you wanted to know! I’ll also include some great journaling resources and links around [...]

31, October | Leave a comment

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 30 – What Have You Learned?

We are nearly to the end of the Submissive Journaling series here on Submissive Guide. This month has been chock full of tips, tricks, and how-tos for journaling and I hope you have picked up some good ideas for your own journaling needs. So, this is where I ask you what you thought of the [...]

30, October | Leave a comment

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 29 – Social Networking Best Practices

Facebook, FetLife, LinkedIn, Twitter, Ning, Digg, MeetUp, blogs, Instagram, KIK, etc.,  — the number of social networking sites and tools is exploding. Social networking is the killer app of the Internet for everyone. Such sites have become links to communicate with businesses, news, brands, celebrities, and friends, are a way to find  your next job or the [...]

29, October | Leave a comment

Advent Calendar View All

Submissive Advent – Day 24: Spirit of Submission

Today is the final day of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. “There are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground.” – Rumi This quote has been used in many ways [...]

24, December | 1 comment

Submissive Advent – Day 23: Twinkling Stars and Lights

Today is day 23 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. One of my all time favorite activities during the holiday season is to look at Christmas lights. As a child we used to be [...]

23, December | Leave a comment

Submissive Advent – Day 22: Here We Come a Caroling

Today is day 22 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. From Here We Come a-Wassailing Love and joy come to you, And to you your wassail too; And God bless you and [...]

22, December | 5 comments

Training Resume View All

Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

I listened to a podcast from Erotic Awakening the other day that talked about The Slave Journal. The idea for this document is not the same as having a journal or blog to document your life in and I thought it was an excellent idea and a useful tool for many relationships. Maybe even yours! [...]

15, July | 18 comments

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a [...]

31, May | 3 comments

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

From Submissive Guide Newsletter published 1/9/10 Every year many people sit down and make a long list of resolutions they’d like to accomplish in the coming year. It’s a grand idea and one that I tend to participate in every other year or so. But the downfall of this sort of plan is in the [...]

22, December | 1 comment

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Submission Isn’t Easy-Nor for Your Convenience

The other day in a submissive’s group I’m in on Facebook, a member made a post about something her dominant wanted her to do, yet she was absolutely 100% against doing and was looking for help on how to get past her unwillingness. There were several comments and there was one in particular that caught [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Personal Growth
[Video Post] Improving Your Submission – Accepting Punishment

[Video Post] Improving Your Submission – Accepting Punishment

Caveat: This post is about punishment for poor behavior or rule violations. Not all D/s relationships have a discipline aspect to them, however, those that do have their own set of unique situations – like how to accept punishment. This is just my experience. KnyghtMare and I have a discipline dynamic. While I avoid punishment [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Self-Esteem and Unsolicited Advice – Submissive Meditation Monday

Self-Esteem and Unsolicited Advice – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. How’s your self-esteem? Do you feel [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Simply Service e-Zine from November 2005

Simply Service e-Zine from November 2005

Today’s look back on an amazing e-zine is from November 2005. While this newsletter is no longer being produced, much of the content is still relevant so download it today and check it out! Here’s what’s in this issue: November 2005 Download Now! My Journey by slavedebbie Community Unity by Master Kalan Declutter 101 by Tante [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

This is a guest post by Elle. I was inspired to write this article by the recent series  about submissive journalling. I found myself wanting to get back into journaling, yet still holding back. This is a personal account of what can happen when journalling goes wrong. In my case, it was when I became [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth
The Submissive Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

The Submissive Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. My personal submission has been in [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
7 Tips for Handling Holiday Stress

7 Tips for Handling Holiday Stress

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, well, at least that’s what the song says. For many out there, the holidays aren’t the most wonderful time of the year. With November being more than half over, the holidays are in full swing. For many, this is an extremely stressful and depressing time of the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Personal Growth
Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8-13-16 We’ve all probably uttered this phrase a time or two when having a heated conversation with a loved one, “you’re becoming defensive.” From the time we are born, we learn defensive mechanisms that are meant to protect us from pain and trauma. A child’s first defense is to cry, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Bullet Journal: BDSM Scene Reflection Spreads

Bullet Journal: BDSM Scene Reflection Spreads

A month or so ago, I wrote a brief review of the Bullet Journal system, and of how I’ve found it to be really helpful in keeping my household duties and side projects in order. My review focused primarily on the standard ways that you can use the book to get yourself into the habit [...]

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 28 – Quotes: Inspiration Leads to Motivation

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 28 – Quotes: Inspiration Leads to Motivation

When I first started journaling (on an online blog) I loved sharing quotes that I liked. They touched me in some way or reminding me of how I was feeling at the time. Whatever the case may be for why you like a quote; quotes inspire us, they give us a tidbit of thought and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: 31 Days of Submissive Journaling

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