Are You Cheating on Your Dominant With Your Ex Dominant’s Memory?

This is a question tammy asked for March Question Month:
I have had a few Doms and i am in a relationship where I live with one.I didnt think I could find someone that makes me this happy but I did. The problem is I keep thinking about my first Dom that introduced me [...]

Diffuse Extreme Mood Swings Before They Get You In Trouble

For March Question Month Cilla Noir asks:
How do you handle your serious mood swings or when something just “sets you off”?
When you go from one end of the spectrum to another – sometimes justified, sometimes not.
Normally, when i was on my own, i would just throw a fit.
Being back in a D/s [...]

Regaining Submissive Mind-Space Through Ritual

Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind [...]

How To Start Your Submissive Journal

A very common first request of a potential Dominant, either online or offline is to have you start a submissive journal. If you’ve never kept a diary then this can be a daunting task. Having to write openly and honestly about your feelings and experiences can have a huge impact on your submissive and personal [...]

Tasks While Your Dominant is Away

This guest post is by Alpine from Alpine Dreams.
A bit of a background story. My partner and I don’t live together.  We are both Poly, have other relationships and numerous obligations. Staying connected and in a D/s mindframe can be difficult since he does go away sometimes and we can’t always [...]

Coming Clean: Admitting Your Disobedience

We all have those little voices in our head that tell us what to do. Sometimes it tries to convince us that our disobedience is okay.  The voices are very convincing at times and then we have guilt riding with us until we come clean. Perhaps you’ve heard these voices yourself:
“Come on, he won’t see [...]

21 Websites to Help you Start a Meditation Routine

Whether for health or mental well-being; a good meditation routine is important. For submission this can help you focus yourself to your role and embrace whatever tasks you have to do for your Dominant. Here’s a list of websites available to help you develop a meditation routine. No matter what you call it I hope [...]

Banishment as a Form of Punishment: How Do You Cope?

“Go to your room!”
Yes even  adults in power exchange relationships get treated like children sometimes. A common tool for Dominants in their punishment arsenal is removal. You can be removed from the activity and sent to a time out area. For me that’s the kitchen. Ugh. I hate when I’m banished there. I can still [...]

Submissive PMS and How to Deal With It

This video post is about how to deal with a submissive bout of PMS.
It’s not your normal run of the mill PMS. You don’t have cramps or bloating or headaches or chills, but your mood is so out of whack that you are getting in trouble just by opening your mouth. You don’t know where [...]

Dominance as a Slave Training Tool for Better Submission

When starting out in submission, there are a lot of roads you can choose and so many people direct novices to training and needing to be trained. Most of these novices then seek out a Master or Dominant to train them. This concept that the Dominant can teach the submissive more about surrender is a [...]

Handling Guilt from Mistakes and Punishment

Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect.
What is [...]

Structure with Rules

I’m a submissive that needs structure. Submissives all around will identify with either discipline, obedience, structure or rules or perhaps more than one. With structure can come rules and that’s how my submission runs in our dynamic. I serve my Master by following his rules that govern the structure of my day. It works best [...]

The Emotional Side of Sub Drop

Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session.  Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]

How to Give a Romantic Bath

Romance gets lost in the rush of work, family, kids and obligations but a romantic bath is not only relaxing, it can create intimacy between you and your partner. In Ancient Rome and Egypt, bathing in scented oils was a prelude to lovemaking. Giving a bath to someone else is not only romantic, but a [...]

A Great Example of a Slave’s Rosary

On FetLife quite awhile back now, a slave posted her version of a rosary with her Master as the focus. As with any rosary or prayer beads, it is used in mediation and presents a spirituality in service that can be adopted and adapted to fit your relationship.
I’ve always had a curiosity with religious artifacts [...]

Finding Your Spirituality In Service

A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it.  It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you.
What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? –Submissive Journal [...]

Leaving Work at the Door: How to Find the Mindset Once You Are Both Home

My first question for March Question Month is about making the mental switch from work to home life. I know from experience that this is a very difficult time for both the Dominant and the submissive.  You could have had an intense day at work, or the submissive is in a position of power at [...]

The Importance of Rules

Rules, instructions and assignments are things that are given to me by my Dominant for very important reasons. To follow them should bring me the pride and happiness that I feel for him, and remind me that he cares for me. Rules are in place to keep me in line, place my heart and mind [...]

Balancing Depression and Submission

Everyone has gone though bouts of depression at one time or another. For some, it’s practically debilitating and others can handle it in stride without much of a bat of the eyelashes. I recently recovered from a long time depression with the help of medications and my Dominant’s caring. It’s never an easy process, but [...]

Ask For What You Want

As a novice submissive, I believed that asking for anything was not appropriate for a submissive. I rarely requested a favorite restaurant, something at the store or anything else I wanted. My Master often asked me why I constantly deferred to him for everything. Of course I responded with what I thought to be right, [...]