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The Importance of Being Authentic

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

Comments Off Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
Altered Mental States

Altered Mental States

The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion. Within the BDSM community, there is a strong underlying foundation for voluntarily focused enthrallment.

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
Mama Vi Then and Now, right image courtesy of Mama Vi Johnson; left image courtesy of C. Creane Images; and edited by blyss

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

Maturity ripens a slave in the most delectable way. Learn about Mama Vi and her confidence in Leather as an older slave.

Dealing With Submissive Burnout

Dealing With Submissive Burnout

There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. The good thing, burnout isn’t a permanent problem.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
Strong and Submissive: Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives

Strong and Submissive: Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives

About half of us are like me – powerful energetic women who love to submit. I become even more of the strong woman that I am outside the bedroom, the strong woman who revels both in her strength and in her submission.

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave

Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave

I know I’m human. Since I am human, that means I’m going to make mistakes. Here are some other tips I’ve found that can help when you find yourself feeling like a failure.

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
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Busyness, Why Do We Think It Adds Value?

I’ve come to see that oftentimes we slaves measure our value as slaves according to the accomplishments of other slaves and attempt to match the productivity level of other slaves that we look up to.

7 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset

How to Access Sub Space

Sub-Space is very similar to other trancelike conditions which are practiced worldwide under names such as prayer, meditation and hypnosis or regression. Here’s a step by step for how you can try to get there.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
Channeling Guilt with Housework

Channeling Guilt with Housework

I think that housework is a good way to channel any overwhelming emotion – in my case guilt or sadness

12 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Rituals and Routines
There’s No Size Limitation to Being Kinky

There’s No Size Limitation to Being Kinky

You do not have to be skinny to be accepted or to embrace submission. BDSM does not have a maximum size limit (or a minimum for that matter). Be you!

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth
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Being a Little Doesn’t Come with a Size or Age Limitation

The bottom line is, you’re never too old, too heavy, too tall, or too short to be who you really are.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset
Image via Kozzi.com

Submission is a Choice That Will be Tested

Submission is a choice. Being a babygirl might be part of my personality. Being a submissive might be something that comes naturally to me. But submitting to the desires of our Dominant is always a choice.

27 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Mindset
Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Are you wondering why you’re wired the way you are? There’s nothing wrong with questioning, but just make sure you don’t spend all your time questioning and not living.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Relationships
Image by blyss

M/s and When Life Happens: Unexpected Happenings

When it comes to the Lifestyle we don’t want ‘life’ happening all over our fantasies, planned event schedules, and our perfectly kink based relationships.

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

It seems that no matter how long you’ve been doing this thing we call submission, there are times of rebellion, confusion, frustration and just not getting it right.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

The topic of love in regards to Lifestyle relationships is usually a pretty hot topic. Everyone has an opinion, thought, rule, or feeling about it.

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset, Relationships, Service
Interracial: Amor en blanco y negro by ElRaffa (Flickr.com)

Master/slave Relationships in Black and White

It’s not uncommon for a black person entering the Lifestyle to wonder, is it acceptable for me as a black woman (or man) to have or serve a white Master?

13 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset, Relationships
How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. But now I can say that I actually enjoy them.

19 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Sex and Sexuality
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Stop Serving Yourself: An Inspirational Un-Collaring Ceremony

When we find ourselves holding back, we need to take a lesson from jenn and uncollar ourselves from whatever is going on and put our focus on what matters the most.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Relationships
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What an Alpha BabyGirl Is to Me

An Alpha Sub can be one of two things, the most powerful submissive in a poly group or a submissive who is very dominant in the realm outside of their relationship.

8 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Mindset
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