Mindset
Submissive all the time? Find, encourage and develop the triggers you need for your mindset to blossom.
By lunaKM on May 17, 2010
From The Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-7-09 When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment I have found my manners and [...]
Posted in Mindset, Newsletter Archive | Tagged Emily Post, etiquette, learning, miss manners, serving, submissive guide newsletter, training |
By lunaKM on March 12, 2010
This is a question tammy asked for March Question Month: I have had a few Doms and i am in a relationship where I live with one.I didnt think I could find someone that makes me this happy but I did. The problem is I keep thinking about my first Dom that introduced me into [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships | Tagged break up, D/s, dominant, experience, memories, relationship, tips |
By lunaKM on March 5, 2010
For March Question Month Cilla Noir asks: How do you handle your serious mood swings or when something just “sets you off”? When you go from one end of the spectrum to another – sometimes justified, sometimes not. Normally, when i was on my own, i would just throw a fit. Being back in a [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged acceptable behavior, control, drama queen, emotional extremes, extreme mood swings, mood swings, question month, Resources, stress, stress levels, submissive mindset |
By nan {SL} on February 26, 2010
Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind [...]
Posted in Mindset, Rituals and Routines, Service, Submissive Positions | Tagged connection, mind-space, Mindset, purpose, reminder of place, ritual, rituals, significance, submissive, submissive mindset |
By lunaKM on October 16, 2009
A very common first request of a potential Dominant, either online or offline is to have you start a submissive journal. If you’ve never kept a diary then this can be a daunting task. Having to write openly and honestly about your feelings and experiences can have a huge impact on your submissive and personal [...]
Posted in Mindset, Service | Tagged blogging, choice, comfort, development, Dom, dominant, experience, help, Impact, journaling, needs, online, online journal, personal development, relationship, rt, submission, submissive, tasks, writing |
By Guest Author on September 14, 2009
This guest post is by Alpine from Alpine Dreams. A bit of a background story. My partner and I don’t live together. We are both Poly, have other relationships and numerous obligations. Staying connected and in a D/s mindframe can be difficult since he does go away sometimes and we can’t always be together on [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged blogging, connection, control, D/s, Dom, dominant, dreams, female, guest post, help, kinky, m/s, poly, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rituals, rt, submissive, tasks |
By lunaKM on August 7, 2009
We all have those little voices in our head that tell us what to do. Sometimes it tries to convince us that our disobedience is okay. The voices are very convincing at times and then we have guilt riding with us until we come clean. Perhaps you’ve heard these voices yourself: “Come on, he won’t [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships | Tagged choice, clean, coming clean, discipline, Dom, dominant, guilt, honesty, infraction, little voices, obedience, punishment, rt, rules, share, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on July 23, 2009
Whether for health or mental well-being; a good meditation routine is important. For submission this can help you focus yourself to your role and embrace whatever tasks you have to do for your Dominant. Here’s a list of websites available to help you develop a meditation routine. No matter what you call it I hope [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged balance, benefits of meditation, blogs, daily meditation, Dom, dominant, focus, health, help, inner peace, love, mediation, meditation, meditation tips, ritual, rituals, routine, rt, spirit, spiritual, submission, suggestions, tasks, tips, websites, yoga meditation |
By lunaKM on June 24, 2009
“Go to your room!” Yes even adults in power exchange relationships get treated like children sometimes. A common tool for Dominants in their punishment arsenal is removal. You can be removed from the activity and sent to a time out area. For me that’s the kitchen. Ugh. I hate when I’m banished there. I can [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged 2WBSP, apologizing, atonement, banishment, communication, connection, cons, cyber relationships, Dom, dominant, dominants, email, event, hands, infraction, online, Online Submission, power exchange, punishment, relationship, Relationships, rt, separation, short, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on June 13, 2009
This video post is about how to deal with a submissive bout of PMS. It’s not your normal run of the mill PMS. You don’t have cramps or bloating or headaches or chills, but your mood is so out of whack that you are getting in trouble just by opening your mouth. You don’t know [...]
Posted in Mindset, Video Posts | Tagged attitude adjustment, bad mood, BDSM, blogging, discipline, Dom, dominant, event, focus, help, learned, manners, meditation, normal, PMS, purpose, rt, self-centering, self-discipline, Service, serving, slave, submissive, submissive pms, value |
By lunaKM on June 4, 2009
When starting out in submission, there are a lot of roads you can choose and so many people direct novices to training and needing to be trained. Most of these novices then seek out a Master or Dominant to train them. This concept that the Dominant can teach the submissive more about surrender is a [...]
Posted in Mindset, Submission | Tagged advice, assistance, deeper submission, development, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, experience, focus, fulfillment, help, information, journey, learning, love, mentor, novice, novices, questions, relationship, rt, rules, self-discovery, slave, slave training, submission, submissive, submissive training, submissive understanding, surrender, switch, training |
By lunaKM on April 16, 2009
Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged attitude, balance, cons, definitions, depression, Dom, dominant, emotions, event, experience, guilt, help, IRC, needs, play, punishment, questions, recognizing guilt, resolving guilt, rt, sadness, self-care, sex, stereotype, submissive |
By lunaKM on April 8, 2009
I’m a submissive that needs structure. Submissives all around will identify with either discipline, obedience, structure or rules or perhaps more than one. With structure can come rules and that’s how my submission runs in our dynamic. I serve my Master by following his rules that govern the structure of my day. It works best [...]
Posted in Mindset, Service | Tagged 24/7, D/s, discipline, Dom, dynamic, needs, obedience, relationship, routine, rt, rules, Service, slave, structure, submission, submissive, value, what to wear |
By lunaKM on March 27, 2009
Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]
Posted in Mindset, Playtime | Tagged ad space, advice, aftercare, balance, BDSM, book, boundaries, communication, connection, cons, consensual, depression, dress, emotions, endorphins, experience, fear, friends, help, history, instability, intimacy, kinky, lifestyle, limits, loneliness, love, marks, normal, online, partners, play, purpose, questions, recovery, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, sub drop, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on March 26, 2009
Romance gets lost in the rush of work, family, kids and obligations but a romantic bath is not only relaxing, it can create intimacy between you and your partner. In Ancient Rome and Egypt, bathing in scented oils was a prelude to lovemaking. Giving a bath to someone else is not only romantic, but a [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty, Mindset, Service | Tagged amazon.com, bath, bathing, clean, cleaning, commitment, family, help, how-to, intimacy, links, love, m/s, marriage, play, Resources, ritual, rituals, romance, rt, rubber, scene, sensuous, Service, shower, tips |
By lunaKM on March 9, 2009
My first question for March Question Month is about making the mental switch from work to home life. I know from experience that this is a very difficult time for both the Dominant and the submissive. You could have had an intense day at work, or the submissive is in a position of power at [...]
Posted in Mindset, Rituals and Routines | Tagged ad space, changing, clothing, Dom, dominant, dress, dynamic, email, experience, focus, help, kneeling, mediation, Mindset, needs, poses, purpose, question month, relaxation, ritual, rituals, routine, rt, rules, shift, short, shower, stress, submissive, switch, work-to-home |
By lunaKM on March 2, 2009
Rules, instructions and assignments are things that are given to me by my Dominant for very important reasons. To follow them should bring me the pride and happiness that I feel for him, and remind me that he cares for me. Rules are in place to keep me in line, place my heart and mind [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged activities, Bondage, checklist, comfort, commitment, cons, control, development, Dom, dominant, fulfillment, happiness, help, love, Mindset, owned, pride, punishment, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on February 26, 2009
Everyone has gone though bouts of depression at one time or another. For some, it’s practically debilitating and others can handle it in stride without much of a bat of the eyelashes. I recently recovered from a long time depression with the help of medications and my Dominant’s caring. It’s never an easy process, but [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty, Mindset | Tagged balance, bath, bathing, comfort, depression, Dom, dominant, dress, friends, handling a submissive with depression, happiness, health, help, normal, play, routine, rt, rules, sadness, self-care, short, standing, submission, submissive, understanding |
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