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Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 8 comments

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

21, May | 11 comments

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

23, April | 11 comments

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Learn to Let Go of the Past

I love the movie Frozen. I love it so much, I can’t quite stress how much I love it. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have watched this movie, but I can tell you it has been enough that Daddy can tune it out when I’m watching it for the [...]

24, June | 2 comments

Back Off Bitches! Feeling Territorial and Jealousy as a Slave

There are probably two very sensitive and deeply moving confessions that a slave could make – admitting to being territorial and/or jealous. These demons are a complete terror and have visited many relationships since the beginning of time. In order to move about freely and enjoy the fruits of a healthy M/s relationship, they need [...]

3, June | 23 comments

That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

In the post Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning, I address the matter of presenting a petition to a potential Master. However, I didn’t fully address that space between the time of presenting the petition and (hopefully) the collar, at least not at length. But, this can be one of the most trying times for [...]

20, May | Leave a comment

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Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | Leave a comment

Playing and Punishment from a Distance

If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one time zone ahead [...]

1, July | Leave a comment

Ask lunaKM – Asking for Attention

Dear LunaKMI am fairly new to the Dom/s relationship and have talked to a Dom online texts and bt phone. I am having trouble with understanding all the dynamics and was so relieved to find your site,thank u by the way. Heres my question … He requests a morning text and a nightly asking permission [...]

25, June | Leave a comment

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Ask lunaKM – A Disconnect with Submission

Ask lunaKM – A Disconnect with Submission

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been with Master for almost 9 months, and although I love our relationship I feel like there is a disconnect with my submission. I know it’s a weird way to phrase it but I don’t know how else to put it. I have generally loved being Master’s “Good Girl” But recently I’ve [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – Can I make it in this lifestyle?

Ask lunaKM – Can I make it in this lifestyle?

I was curious about bdsm before I knew what it was. I knew I liked being spanked, being told what to do, etc. I started looking into bdsm but haven’t mentioned it to my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m a weird, for lack of a better word. Although he knows [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Learn to Submit
A Day in the Life: moonlight

A Day in the Life: moonlight

This is a guest post by moonlight. My days usually begin at 7am or so when our child wakes up (although sometimes it is much earlier). I send Sir a good morning message and I check in with the rest of our poly group too. I make breakfast and decide on something for dinner that night in [...]

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[Free Printable] A Submissive Is…

[Free Printable] A Submissive Is…

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – Is It Okay to be a Bedroom-Only Submissive?

Ask lunaKM – Is It Okay to be a Bedroom-Only Submissive?

Is it okay to only be interested in Bedroom BDSM? Does it make you vanilla- is it okay to describe yourself as submissive if you don’t into to be a lifestyler? Everything I read seems to describe D/s as an ‘all or nothing’ sort deal. What if you’re interested in being submissive outside the bedroom, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Learn to Submit
How Master Took Control of the Finances

How Master Took Control of the Finances

This is a guest post by Nicolette Hart. I am a very independent, strong woman. I have never liked asking for help from others or for money from anyone. I have always been able to figure things out on my own. But when he came along all charming mysterious, he was different from any man I [...]

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Weekend Giveaway: Rewind by Julia P. Lynde (1 Winner)

Weekend Giveaway: Rewind by Julia P. Lynde (1 Winner)

Lesbian erotica author Julia P. Lynde had been gracious enough to give away a copy of her novel “Rewind” to one lucky Submissive Guide reader. Enter now for your chance to win a digital copy of “Rewind” by Julia P. Lynde! (Available on Kindle) I honestly can say that I don’t know where to start [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit
What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. People in the D/s and BDSM lifestyles love to say this word. We emphasize that it’s the cornerstone of the relationship, that it is the key to a successful relationship and that negotiation, a form of communication, needs to be done on a regular basis depending on the situation and relationship type. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit
My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

(Disclosure: I first published this on EdenCafe.com. ) My first experience with ass to mouth sex was a huge surprise. I was playing around with someone, and I said something to the effect of, “kiss my ass” as a way to disagree with something he said, and he rolled me over, pinned me down and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Sex and Sexuality
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An Accidental Outing

Since discovering my submissive side back in 2012, I’ve been in a perpetual holding pattern when it comes to meeting people in my local kinky community.  I want to get involved, but I’m also afraid of taking that first step.  I’ve done tons of research using the incredibly helpful articles on Submissive Guide, which has helped to [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Learn to Submit

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