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Beginner Basics

This topic is great for those newer to submission and those looking to learn about submission from a general point of view.

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Ask the Readers – Where Do Male Submissives Go For Information?

Hi readers! Every so often I have a question from someone that deserves different viewpoints and so I’m sharing it with you. Please give your advice to this submissive and be kind.  Being male in a field of females is awkward.  Where do hetro-male subs go for info??? My answer would be that much of what is pointed to female submissives works for male submissives also, just change the pronouns. But are there specific websites, forums or discussion groups that cater to male submissives who [...]

7, December | 5 comments

Book Review: Slave-ography by Slave Patrick

Awhile ago, I had a couple of male s-types contact me and I replied to one of their comments saying something along the lines how I wish there was a book for the male s-types like there are for female submissives. There are tons of books and blogs, and whatever else out there geared towards female [...]

1, December | Leave a comment

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 24 comments

Mindset View All

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

29, November | Leave a comment

Altered Mental States

The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion. Within the BDSM community, there is a strong underlying foundation for voluntarily focused enthrallment.

9, September | 4 comments

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

Maturity ripens a slave in the most delectable way. Learn about Mama Vi and her confidence in Leather as an older slave.

1, July | 4 comments

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Cyber Realities: Online and Long Distance Relationship Thoughts

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. In many ways this seems like a contradiction in terms. However, it cannot be overlooked that the advent of the Internet has opened the access into the BDSM community in ways completely incomprehensible [...]

1, May | 1 comment

Is He Ignoring Me or Has He Moved On?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | 1 comment

What It Is Like Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 12 comments

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That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

If you don’t use your safeword, you could be in for more than just an overly sore backside. A safeword is your lifeline and your partner trusts you to use it if you need to. TR shares a personal story where playing with no safewords went wrong.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Sample Dominant/submissive Contract

Sample Dominant/submissive Contract

The first of three contract examples from Mrs. Darling. This one is from her book, retelling her own submissive discovery tale, Darling Discovered. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship.

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
BDSM How To: Wax Play

BDSM How To: Wax Play

A fantastic little how to get started with Wax Play! Important points include candle temperature and what you need to get going with your own scene.

Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky roleplay.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex

How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality – Taking What You’ve Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

So, you’ve come here looking for how to make those fantasies and hot stories something real; something you can experience for yourself. Let’s try to get your training wheels in place so you can go into your first conversation and foray into hot kinky sex with open eyes.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

There are a lot of risks that comes with meeting people online. Tequilarose shares a lesson she picked up from reading “Tender Mercies” by Kitty Thomas about online safety and abusive situations.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

It’s time to debunk the most common myths surrounding BDSM, clearing up all the shades of gray once and for all! Here we go—no safety word needed!

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How can I tell my partner that I’m not going anywhere and am interested in a long term relationship and possibly marriage?

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Create SMART Goals For Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!

Create SMART Goals For Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!

SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Agreed upon, Realistic, Time-based tasks that we set for ourselves with the intent of realizing a larger task. We call them goals, but in the end, what we want from our resolutions is less about making and achieving goals and more about making habits.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

You aren’t a doormat. As a submissive, you can have autonomy and an active submission you can be proud of. So, must you always wait for orders? You tell me.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive