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By nan {SL} on September 1, 2010
BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]
Posted in Playtime, Submission | Tagged bdsm play, control, enduring pain, energy, eroticizing pain, experience, learning, masochist, pain dispersement methods, play, reactions, sadist, SM |
By thisgirl on August 23, 2010
I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality, Submission | Tagged bi curiosity, bisexuality, comfort, experience, female, first signs, first time, skills, submission |
By lunaKM on August 20, 2010
Every so often I find some wonderful blog posts that speak to the varying differences submissives have. Today I want to showcase a few of the more recent selections with you. Please go read the post and comment; letting them know where you came from! You might make a new submissive connection. a submissive musings [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged favorite, favorite blogs, friday favorites, submissive blogs |
By Rayne on July 23, 2010
There’s a lot of debate, in our kinky little corner of the worldwide web, about kinky people who have mental health issues. What kinds of problems they cause, how to keep them from destroying the mood in kinky venues, whether or not D/s (and the structure that often comes with it) can help a person [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged depression, mental health, mood swings, stereotype |
By SehAnru on July 19, 2010
Having been in the lifestyle for almost two years now, one of the things that I have noticed is that I am facing a lot of issues due to abuse from my past. Not from any Dominant in the lifestyle, just from others in my past. I’ve learned enough that if you have similar past [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged abuse, breaking down barriers, openness, reprogrammed responses, Safety, suggestions, support, trust |
By Guest Author on June 16, 2010
This is a guest post by Jim’s {Beth}. Alternative lifestyles make some people nervous. Others believe that anyone who lives such a lifestyle must be sick, crazy, unbalanced, twisted, perverted, or even masochistic. Living a lifestyle choice such as Dominance/submission (D/s), Master/slave (M/s)—both can be considered as All or Total Power Exchange relationships (APE/TPE)— is [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged D/s relationship, foundation, fundamental differences, guest post, lifestyle choice, M/s relationship, marriage, power exchange, rules of marriage, slave wife, slavery, surrender, way of life |
By nan {SL} on June 14, 2010
In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged attitude, bdsm community, decisions, development, femininity, feminism, freedom of choice, gender, independent woman, personal life, self expression, Service, training |
By nan {SL} on June 11, 2010
I have spent much time pondering the seemingly conflicting views of feminism and submission. In the first part of my article, I would like to discuss feminism and how it fits in with my view of both the BDSM community and submission. In the second part, I will explore how I practice feminism in my [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged acceptance, bdsm community, conflicting views, equality of the sexes, feminism, gender, movement, personal growth, self-improvement |
By lunaKM on June 7, 2010
From Submissive Guide Newsletter sent 12/7/09 Not everyone is capable of being submissive. It is even possible that you are not really cut out for it. We all have different thresholds for what we can and can’t do, but realizing we can’t be submissive isn’t the end of the world. Great, so how do you [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Submission | Tagged desires, honesty, needs, personality traits, self-help, submission, submissive guide newsletter |
By lunaKM on May 17, 2010
From The Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-7-09 When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment I have found my manners and [...]
Posted in Mindset, Newsletter Archive | Tagged Emily Post, etiquette, learning, miss manners, serving, submissive guide newsletter, training |
By lunaKM on May 15, 2010
This is a video post about no limits slavery – or rather, why I think it doesn’t exist. Last month Rayne wrote a post about how she lives in a no limits slavery relationship and how it works for her. I like that she covered a few of the common challenges to her way of [...]
Posted in Submission, Video Posts | Tagged dominants, limits, no limits slavery, rt, slave, value |
By lunaKM on March 15, 2010
Another question from March Question Month comes from Coco: I am curious about what your thoughts on those who admit to participating underage is? I have been referred to as “vanilla” for being uncomfortable with those who identify/have identified as submissives and slaves at/from a very young age. I can understand experimenting at a young [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged childhood, experimentation, information, novice, question month, teenagers in BDSM, underage |
By lunaKM on March 12, 2010
This is a question tammy asked for March Question Month: I have had a few Doms and i am in a relationship where I live with one.I didnt think I could find someone that makes me this happy but I did. The problem is I keep thinking about my first Dom that introduced me into [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships | Tagged break up, D/s, dominant, experience, memories, relationship, tips |
By Rayne on March 8, 2010
This month is March Question Month, and Trinity asked: Does one know how to obtain collars that do not look like collars..so one can be worn at all time with out so called vanilla’s asking about it…? When people think of collars, they usually picture something an animal would wear. Supple leather with a big [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged collars, public collar, question month, vanilla setting |
By lunaKM on March 5, 2010
For March Question Month Cilla Noir asks: How do you handle your serious mood swings or when something just “sets you off”? When you go from one end of the spectrum to another – sometimes justified, sometimes not. Normally, when i was on my own, i would just throw a fit. Being back in a [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged acceptable behavior, control, drama queen, emotional extremes, extreme mood swings, mood swings, question month, Resources, stress, stress levels, submissive mindset |
By nan {SL} on February 26, 2010
Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind [...]
Posted in Mindset, Rituals and Routines, Service, Submissive Positions | Tagged connection, mind-space, Mindset, purpose, reminder of place, ritual, rituals, significance, submissive, submissive mindset |
By lunaKM on February 12, 2010
When I first started exploring submission I heard and read numerous times that submission is a gift to the Dominant that accepts it. For a long time I subscribed to this way of thinking and there is nothing wrong with thinking about your submission this way. I’m not here to tell you that you are [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged different perspective, personal submission, questioning submission, realistic thoughts, submission as a gift, the gift of submission |
By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
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