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Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 11 comments

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

21, May | 12 comments

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

23, April | 11 comments

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Book Review: The Warrior Princess Submissive by Michael Makai

I have been wanting to read Michael Makai’s The Warrior Princess Submissive for a while. This is one of those books where the title totally caught my interest. I found myself thinking “Well, I’m submissive, I am definitely a princess, and who doesn’t want to be a warrior?” Not only did the title catch my [...]

12, May | 8 comments

Love in the Lifestyle

The topic of love in regards to Lifestyle relationships is usually a pretty hot topic. Everyone has an opinion, thought, rule, or feeling about it. After hearing so much about love, the newcomer may end up a bit confused. After all, in the vanilla world, especially in Western culture, love is a really big deal. [...]

24, March | 1 comment

M/s in Black and White

It’s not uncommon for a black person entering the Lifestyle to wonder, is it acceptable for me as a black woman (or man) to have or serve a white Master? The short answer to this question is – yeah! We all can pursue the dynamics that we desire with whom we desire. But there’s obviously [...]

24, February | 10 comments

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Cyber Realities

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. In many ways this seems like a contradiction in terms. However, it cannot be overlooked that the advent of the Internet has opened the access into the BDSM community in ways completely incomprehensible [...]

1, May | 1 comment

Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | Leave a comment

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 9 comments

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Book Review: Bondage Snippets by Verianna LaCroix

Book Review: Bondage Snippets by Verianna LaCroix

Bondage Snippets by Verianna LaCroix isn’t like any other non-fiction BDSM book that I have read. Instead of being a book that explains the in and outs of the dynamic or a how to type of book. Bondage Snippets is a book that gives you a sneak peek into the lives of male and female [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Reviews
Ask lunaKM – Quickies on Having a Mistress while Married, Unsure How to Impress Your Dom and Are You Sub?

Ask lunaKM – Quickies on Having a Mistress while Married, Unsure How to Impress Your Dom and Are You Sub?

Dear lunaKM I am married man in a vanilla relationship – I live and work away from home in another country so I only see my wife at weekends. I have recently started seeing someone during the week who has a dominant side and we have started to explore Mistress/Sub relations – which is something [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

This is a guest post by MermaidHooked. The scene is built upon personal limitations and the ability to be self-aware in the midst of dangerous situations we willingly put ourselves in for the goal of receiving and giving pleasure. Finding and voicing limits can often times be the most daunting part of the BDSM lifestyle. It [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Beginner Basics
Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Fifty Shades of Curious is by Bo Blaze, a PCC-certified alternative life coach who specializes in alternative sexual relationships and non-traditional lifestyles. He is also well-known nationally as an expert in the BDSM lifestyle who has spoken at numerous events all over the country. With the popularity of the series “Fifty Shades of Grey”, Blaze [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Beginner Basics, Reviews
Sub Drop Madness – Submissive Meditation Monday

Sub Drop Madness – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. With [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Submissive Fantasy vs Submissive Reality

Submissive Fantasy vs Submissive Reality

This is a guest post by rife. Hi this is rife, Sinclair’s boy. Maybe you’ve read dirty things about me, but that’s not the whole story. So what am I up to when not bent over? Well … I love erotica and porn as much as anyone (honest!), but often when people describe it, we [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Fun Things from February’s Little Chat

At the beginning of February, I hosted an afternoon chats for littles here on Submissive Guide. If you missed it, don’t worry. It was the first of several other chats I plan on hosting. I had such a great time and so much fun, and I think everyone else who joined in did as well. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Q&A: Subbie Siblings

Q&A: Subbie Siblings

“Subbie Siblings – we either love or hate this phrase. While the lifestyle is unique to each of us, do we have things in common that set us aside from other women? Do we naturally form a close bond and a willingness to help, or are we just here selfishly to get what we can [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
How to Be Responsive During Play Without Being Demanding

How to Be Responsive During Play Without Being Demanding

“Oh yeah, that feels good, right here. Spank me there! Harder! No, not like that. Make it sting! Oh oh ouchie, back off a bit man!” For some of you, that stream of words is cringe-worthy. Who’s driving the scene if the bottom is assaulting the Top with all the direction?  A submissive driving the [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
The Value of Submission – Submissive Meditation Monday

The Value of Submission – Submissive Meditation Monday

Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

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