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Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 11 comments

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

21, May | 12 comments

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

23, April | 11 comments

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M/s in Black and White

It’s not uncommon for a black person entering the Lifestyle to wonder, is it acceptable for me as a black woman (or man) to have or serve a white Master? The short answer to this question is – yeah! We all can pursue the dynamics that we desire with whom we desire. But there’s obviously [...]

24, February | 6 comments

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. I am sure it could be argued that I still don’t love them, but the mind shift has certainly come a long way in the positive for KnyghtMare. My history with giving oral sex is one I’ve heard from a few of you. Your first experiences were not [...]

9, February | 10 comments

Stop Serving Yourself: An Inspirational Un-Collaring Ceremony

A few months ago, I came across writing on Kinky and Popular called “An Uncollaring Ceremony”. The title caught my eye so I clicked, and I am so happy I did because this writing resonated something inside of me and caused me to think of my submission. It made me think about walls that we, [...]

13, January | 3 comments

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Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | Leave a comment

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 9 comments

Playing and Punishment from a Distance

If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one time zone ahead [...]

1, July | 1 comment

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How to Be Responsive During Play Without Being Demanding

How to Be Responsive During Play Without Being Demanding

“Oh yeah, that feels good, right here. Spank me there! Harder! No, not like that. Make it sting! Oh oh ouchie, back off a bit man!” For some of you, that stream of words is cringe-worthy. Who’s driving the scene if the bottom is assaulting the Top with all the direction?  A submissive driving the [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Play and Sex
The Value of Submission – Submissive Meditation Monday

The Value of Submission – Submissive Meditation Monday

Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Mentorship Misunderstandings

Mentorship Misunderstandings

In the last month or so I have begun to seek a mentor and have been approached about being a mentor myself, a position which I accepted. As these events unfolded, I experienced a lot of flak from the online community – why would a submissive need a mentor if she already has a Dom? [...]

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

I love birthdays. I love getting presents and even more than presents, I love getting birthday cake. Because come on, birthday cake is awesome and it’s not a birthday without cake. My own personal belief. I remember when I was younger, I kept pondering ways to make my birthday a national holiday. For the most [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Submissive Frenzies

Submissive Frenzies

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Submissive Frenzies are a state or condition that many if not all submissives will experience at one time or another. Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions in how they play out [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks, I’ve had some bad luck with gluten contamination this week. I’ve glutened myself twice. So I’ve been pretty sick most of the week with the all over body flu that I get from eating just the tiniest, microscopic amount. I’ve had almost migraine strength headaches for 3 days and I’m still icky today [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit
A Day in the Life: cyberkittenXLS

A Day in the Life: cyberkittenXLS

This is a guest post by cyberkittenXLS for the A Day in the Life Series. I will preface this by saying there is not really a “typical” day for me as I work 2 part-time retail jobs. That being said let’s assume I work afternoon to evening for this… I wake up to our toddler’s [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Live Singlehood Vibrantly with Blyss’ New Book – Single In the Scene

Live Singlehood Vibrantly with Blyss’ New Book – Single In the Scene

Take your submission to the next level while embracing the single life As a single submissive you don’t have to spend every day trying to find a partner and lamenting your single status, you can learn to embrace your single life from someone who has done it all before and can show you how to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit
Identifying as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

Identifying as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/22/14 I’ve written a few times about the change in my personal relationship with KnyghtMare and I. He had play and relationship needs that I couldn’t meet and it was creating a rift between us. The only solution that we could see was to open up the relationship. It evolved [...]

Talking Even When Words Are Hard

Talking Even When Words Are Hard

Communication is key – I say it in every article, but it becomes no less true. Communication is imperative to any relationship, especially one in which your physical and mental health are at risk. This week I have had trouble. Master is very interested in entering into a poly-dynamic. While this initially sounded very attractive [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships

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