Mentoring, self-help and submissive exploration

Beginner Basics

This topic is great for those newer to submission and those looking to learn about submission from a general point of view.

Male Submission View All

Ask the Readers – Where Do Male Submissives Go For Information?

Being male in a field of females is awkward. Where do hetero-male subs go for info?

7, December | 6 comments

Book Review: Slave-ography by Slave Patrick

I consider this book one that any s-type should pick up. It’s great to see a male’s perspective on what it means to be a slave.

1, December | Comments Off

Male submission – Financial Domination

There are several different types of Financial Domination, including dynamics which do not involve the dominant receiving any money whatsoever. This is often not understood when some people rail against Financial Domination as a legitimate kink.

23, July | 24 comments

Mindset View All

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

29, November | Comments Off

Altered Mental States

The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion. Within the BDSM community, there is a strong underlying foundation for voluntarily focused enthrallment.

9, September | 4 comments

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

Maturity ripens a slave in the most delectable way. Learn about Mama Vi and her confidence in Leather as an older slave.

1, July | 4 comments

Online Submission View All

Cyber Realities: Online and Long Distance Relationship Thoughts

Mistress Steel’s thoughts on cyber submission and kink.

1, May | 1 comment

Is He Ignoring Me or Has He Moved On?

I don’t know what to do – I know that ignoring can be a form of punishment but I don’t know if this is what he is doing or if he has severed links with me. I need advice on how to proceed are there any protocols?

11, August | 1 comment

What It Is Like Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

Daddy and I were on opposite sides of the globe and we had to get creative to help soften the blow of distance. I’m going to share some of those things that Daddy and I did as well as some other ideas I’d come up with on my own.

29, July | 12 comments

Other Articles View All

That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

If you don’t use your safeword, you could be in for more than just an overly sore backside. A safeword is your lifeline and your partner trusts you to use it if you need to. TR shares a personal story where playing with no safewords went wrong.

Comments Off Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Sample Dominant/submissive Contract

Sample Dominant/submissive Contract

The first of three contract examples from Mrs. Darling. This one is from her book, retelling her own submissive discovery tale, Darling Discovered. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship.

Comments Off Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
BDSM How To: Wax Play

BDSM How To: Wax Play

A fantastic little how to get started with Wax Play! Important points include candle temperature and what you need to get going with your own scene.

Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky roleplay.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex

How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality – Taking What You’ve Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

So, you’ve come here looking for how to make those fantasies and hot stories something real; something you can experience for yourself. Let’s try to get your training wheels in place so you can go into your first conversation and foray into hot kinky sex with open eyes.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

There are a lot of risks that comes with meeting people online. Tequilarose shares a lesson she picked up from reading “Tender Mercies” by Kitty Thomas about online safety and abusive situations.

Comments Off Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

It’s time to debunk the most common myths surrounding BDSM, clearing up all the shades of gray once and for all! Here we go—no safety word needed!

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How can I tell my partner that I’m not going anywhere and am interested in a long term relationship and possibly marriage?

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Create SMART Goals For Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!

Create SMART Goals For Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!

SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Agreed upon, Realistic, Time-based tasks that we set for ourselves with the intent of realizing a larger task. We call them goals, but in the end, what we want from our resolutions is less about making and achieving goals and more about making habits.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

You aren’t a doormat. As a submissive, you can have autonomy and an active submission you can be proud of. So, must you always wait for orders? You tell me.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

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