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Beginner Basics

This topic is great for those newer to submission and those looking to learn about submission from a general point of view.

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Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 11 comments

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

21, May | 12 comments

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

23, April | 11 comments

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Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. “I am [...]

15, June | 2 comments

Book Review: The Warrior Princess Submissive by Michael Makai

I have been wanting to read Michael Makai’s The Warrior Princess Submissive for a while. This is one of those books where the title totally caught my interest. I found myself thinking “Well, I’m submissive, I am definitely a princess, and who doesn’t want to be a warrior?” Not only did the title catch my [...]

12, May | 8 comments

Love in the Lifestyle

The topic of love in regards to Lifestyle relationships is usually a pretty hot topic. Everyone has an opinion, thought, rule, or feeling about it. After hearing so much about love, the newcomer may end up a bit confused. After all, in the vanilla world, especially in Western culture, love is a really big deal. [...]

24, March | 2 comments

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Cyber Realities

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. In many ways this seems like a contradiction in terms. However, it cannot be overlooked that the advent of the Internet has opened the access into the BDSM community in ways completely incomprehensible [...]

1, May | 1 comment

Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | 1 comment

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 9 comments

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Weekend Giveaway: $50 Gift Card to BDSMGeek.com (1 Winner)

Weekend Giveaway: $50 Gift Card to BDSMGeek.com (1 Winner)

This week, Submissive Guide has a $50 gift card from the website BDSM Geek to give away to one lucky reader!  BDSMGeek.com is a small online retailer out of  Toronto Canada and is run by a lover of all things kinky and geeky! This giveaway is open Internationally! The shop is full of beautiful, cute, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Mending Old Scars to Open Up to New Things

Ask lunaKM – Mending Old Scars to Open Up to New Things

My husband and I have a great marriage but both of us recently opened up about our desires to explore D/s lifestyle. He wants me to be a more attentive partner, take care of His needs and explore my sexuality. I have been submissive to just about everyone my entire life, most of those situations [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Perspectives: Canes

Perspectives: Canes

This is another post in the series about a submissive’s perspective in play. This one is on canes and caning, but I’ve also written on gags, spanking, flogging and rope bondage. My first exposure to canes was that of some amateur porn I stumbled across and it made me so terrified of canes that I vowed never [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
A Simple Act of Submission

A Simple Act of Submission

It was like any other morning. Daddy and I had finished eating breakfast and both of us were getting ready to start our day. Daddy was using the bathroom and I was wandering around the apartment, forcing myself to change out of my comfy pajamas and into regular clothes for class. While I’m changing, there’s [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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The Best Part About Submission is Our Ability to Choose

If asked what the best part about submission is there are a million ways to answer. The feeling of completeness when we find the right Dominant. The silencing of all the noise in our minds. The ability to relax knowing that someone we trust is in charge. The love and devotion we feel when we [...]

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Discussion of Anatomy: The Vagina

A Discussion of Anatomy: The Vagina

Vagina. Pussy. Cunt. Twat. Poochy. Whoo-ha. Down there. We have a ton of words for the vagina, but the average person knows very little about this aspect of the human anatomy, which is pretty amazing considering how integral it is to your day-to-day life. So I figured that I would write an overview of information [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Intro: Where were we again? It might be in poor taste to pick up where I left off after nearly a two-year hiatus from Submissive Guide, but I felt that long distance relationships was as appropriate as any to begin with, if not a little ironic. My Dominant and I are on the cusp of [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
by tequilarose

Some Misconceptions about the Caregiver/Little Dynamic

The other day, I was all curled up on the couch browsing Facebook on my tablet. I’m scrolling and scrolling, and scrolling some more until something catches my eye. It’s a photo someone posted in a submissives only group that I’m in. I had scrolled past it a little so I found it again. I [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Views & More...
Submissive Mythology: The Good Submissive

Submissive Mythology: The Good Submissive

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/7/15 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Good – better – best – favorable – bountiful – fertile – handsome – attractive – suitable – fit – profitable – advantageous – pleasant – agreeable [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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When Needs Change: How Communication Worked When My Partner Didn’t Want to Be Dominant Anymore

BDSM is all about mutual respect between dominant and submissive, master and slave. If there is a lack of respect in either direction things are likely to deteriorate quickly. Part of respect is understanding that your partner is entitled to their own needs, wants, and opinions and that these are aspects of your partner that [...]

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships