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Beginner Basics

This topic is great for those newer to submission and those looking to learn about submission from a general point of view.

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Ask the Readers – Where Do Male Submissives Go For Information?

Hi readers! Every so often I have a question from someone that deserves different viewpoints and so I’m sharing it with you. Please give your advice to this submissive and be kind.  Being male in a field of females is awkward.  Where do hetro-male subs go for info??? My answer would be that much of what is pointed to female submissives works for male submissives also, just change the pronouns. But are there specific websites, forums or discussion groups that cater to male submissives who [...]

7, December | 4 comments

Book Review: Slave-ography by Slave Patrick

Awhile ago, I did a book review on Michael Makai’s The Warrior Princess Submissive and had a couple of male s-types and I replied to one of their comments saying something along the lines how I wish there was a book similar to The Warrior Princess Submissive for the male s-types. There are tons of [...]

1, December | Leave a comment

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 14 comments

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Busyness, Why Do We Think It Adds Value?

This isn’t one of my usual posts that have some sort of resolution in the conclusion because this is something I’m working through and this post is created at least in part as a portion of the out-working. With this in mind, I’m looking forward to your feedback in the comments! This is something that’s [...]

21, January | 2 comments

How to Access Sub Space

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM. [...]

15, January | 1 comment

Channeling Guilt

An abusive childhood has made me incredibly prone to feeling guilty. Someone else can drop a glass and shatter it and I will twist the situation in my mind in such a way that I caused that to happen – it is my fault that the glass broke. I absorb that persons guilt as my [...]

13, November | 11 comments

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Cyber Realities

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. In many ways this seems like a contradiction in terms. However, it cannot be overlooked that the advent of the Internet has opened the access into the BDSM community in ways completely incomprehensible [...]

1, May | 1 comment

Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | 1 comment

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 10 comments

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Book Review: BDSM Mastery-Relationships by Robert Rubel and M. Jen Fairfield

Book Review: BDSM Mastery-Relationships by Robert Rubel and M. Jen Fairfield

I have wanted to read something by Dr. Robert Rubel for some time now. I have heard from various sources around the internet, especially after hearing his interview on Dan and dawn’s Erotic Awakening podcast and then reading lunaKM’s book review of BDSM Mastery-Your Guide to Play, Parties, and Scene Protocols. So, I picked up [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Reviews

[Video Post] Improving Your Submission – Your Support System

Welcome back to another post in the video series about improving your submission through setting goals and achieving personal milestones.  We’ve covered how to make goals and if you’ve followed along you should be well on your way with your goals. How have your personal accountability meetings gone? Have you learned from your setbacks? In [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Power Exchange While in Recovery

Power Exchange While in Recovery

As the holiday is upon us once more, I wanted to share some common feels with others who struggle with recovery. Recovery from anything: drink, drugs, eating disorders, self-harm, etc. If you are or are with somebody who considers themselves “in recovery,” this is for you. Now I only have the perspective of (using Male/female D/s [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Would YOU Change To Make Submissive Guide Better?

What Would YOU Change To Make Submissive Guide Better?

Though I write my blog for other reasons too, this blog mainly exists to serve you, the reader. So, I put together a list of questions to find out what you love and what you think could be better. The survey is totally anonymous, and you can fill it out right here on the blog. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Getting My Home Together

Getting My Home Together

One of the things that baffled me the most when I moved in with Chief was how quickly our place ended up in shambles. I felt like I was cleaning it fairly regularly, but there was always something to do! The laundry, the dishes, the bathroom, the floors, the clutter – it was constant, and [...]

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Despite being commonplace in kinky relationships, explaining the appeal of being spanked to someone who is new to the scene or curious about it can be difficult. There is often the immediate assumption that being spanked is enjoyable because the sub is masochistic, and while not entirely untrue, I can’t in good conscience say that [...]

10 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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When A Desire Becomes a Need

I think about that word all the time. Need. “I need this, too,” Jack told me. And everything changed. By taking care of me, he was taking care of himself. I don’t think I’d ever tried to envision the situation from a Dom’s point of view before. I was so fucking grateful whenever I found [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Winter Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

Winter Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Winter is a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Knee Pain, Kneeling and Helpful Suggestions

Ask lunaKM – Knee Pain, Kneeling and Helpful Suggestions

Hi lunaKM, I was wondering if you had any ideas, tips, exercises for knee strengthening?  I am a BBW, and being on my knees for a long period of time, cuts off my circulation and can be very painful.  This is also true when I am on all fours.  I tried pillows, and that helps [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Where All The Dominants Are and How to Find Them

Where All The Dominants Are and How to Find Them

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8-8-15 Finding a partner is hard. We all know that dating is difficult in the best of times and adding in D/s or BDSM needs or desires just makes it harder still. But there are people out there and they are looking for you! Hopefully I’ve put together all the [...]