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Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 8 comments

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

21, May | 11 comments

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

23, April | 11 comments

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Finding Your Way to a Genuine Self

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7-12-14 When you first learned about submission or BDSM you may have felt a sense of coming home, of finally understanding what wasn’t sitting right for you. But along with that relief come questions. You thought you knew who you were, and now  you’ve been thrown into a new world [...]

13, October | Leave a comment

The Things I Carry That Help My Submission

The other day, I was going through folders in my inbox, just to see what I had in there, especially the one folder I have labeled “assorted stuff”, which by the way, is not the way to go if you’re wanting to stay organized in any fashion. It’s become my dump all for emails and [...]

2, September | 2 comments

Learn to Let Go of the Past

I love the movie Frozen. I love it so much, I can’t quite stress how much I love it. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have watched this movie, but I can tell you it has been enough that Daddy can tune it out when I’m watching it for the [...]

24, June | 3 comments

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Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | Leave a comment

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 5 comments

Playing and Punishment from a Distance

If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one time zone ahead [...]

1, July | Leave a comment

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Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From

Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From

This is a guest post by DeliciousVixen. When people are on the outside looking in at the world of BDSM, it is a popular belief of them to say that we must have been wronged some time in our lives to become this way. Whether submissive or Dominant, they would think that our way of living [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity

Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity

Everyday you go to work and are in charge of people, or you have a management position. Perhaps you just feel that being in control outside of the home is comfortable for you. But you come home to submit.  Or maybe you are an extroverted person and love interacting socially but with the right person [...]

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit
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A Mental Predicament: Balancing Wants and Needs

Welcome new contributor andyiccee! My Master and I have been together for nearly three years, we have been through family crises, late studying nights, and more fights than I can count, but we always come out stronger on the other side. Integrating S&M into our sex life was a very simple transition, we communicated fantasies, [...]

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Stay Safe
A Day in the Life – Autumn

A Day in the Life – Autumn

This is a guest post by Autumn. I’m Relatively new to the BDSM community , but Master Grey is not. He introduced it to me slowly, respectfully, but my desire grew to know more, leading me to your website. :) A day in the life begins, really when I wake up. This varies currently due to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – All Dominants Like a Challenge, Say What?!

Ask lunaKM – All Dominants Like a Challenge, Say What?!

My D has said that his last relationship of a S ended because there was no challenge,  she was too submissive.   I understand that to be coy, aloof,  play hard to get and or I’m busy can be an attractive feature, but part of my attraction to involving myself in this lifestyle is the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Learn to Submit
One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

Moving is hard.  There’s no mincing words about it and it’s probably very obvious that change isn’t easy.  The other night I hosted the last Submissive Forum in my area. I’ve hosted them for 2 years, made a lot of wonderful friends and learned so much about myself and submission. There’s something about friendship and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – How do I get physical Dominance when I’m stronger?

Ask lunaKM – How do I get physical Dominance when I’m stronger?

Heya! I’m a martial artist (aikido / jiu jitsu) and a sub. I am strongly attracted to my Dom despite his lack of fitness, however whenever he holds me down I can easily push him off if I want to, etc. Even tied up I can often escape. I have no wish to be a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Learn to Submit
Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure

When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your safeword that needs to be understood. You are not a failure [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit
My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
It’s Okay to be New

It’s Okay to be New

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/3/14 Oftentimes, the first lines of an email to me or an opening thread in a discussion group go something like this; “I’m new and am nervous to ask these silly questions so be nice to me.” “I’m really embarrassed to ask since I’m so new, but…” “I’m new to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Newsletter Archive