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Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 9 comments

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

21, May | 11 comments

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

23, April | 11 comments

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What an Alpha BabyGirl Is to Me

The more I research BDSM the more I feel at home in the community – I realize that aspects of myself that I always thought were weird and unacceptable are permissive and actually quite normal here. The more I research the more I realize that I epitomize some of these roles without trying. When I [...]

2, December | 2 comments

Little Does Not Equal Irresponsible

The other night after dinner, I curled up on the couch watching My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic (yes, again. There’s a lot of My Little Pony in this household thanks to yours truly), and the particular episode I was watching really hit home for me. In this episode, Mr. Carrot Cake and his wife, [...]

1, December | 4 comments

How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/23/14 I know what you are thinking when reading the title. How can a submissive get mad at their Dominant? Isn’t a relationship built on trust and communication going to run smoother than one that isn’t? That’s not a very good submissive behavior! No, probably not, but it is a [...]

24, November | Leave a comment

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Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | Leave a comment

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 9 comments

Playing and Punishment from a Distance

If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one time zone ahead [...]

1, July | Leave a comment

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Getting started at the kinky buffet

I will never forget the feeling of “coming home” when I opened the door to BDSM. My whole being was able to relax knowing I was submissive and that I was not the only one. I was also excited beyond belief and felt like I had so much to learn about this new side of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – When stress increases my submissive drive crashes, help!

Ask lunaKM – When stress increases my submissive drive crashes, help!

Dear lunaKM, I’m fairly new to the lifestyle and Master is quite experienced. I enjoy everything that we’ve done and look forward to more. Until I met Master, I didn’t know I was submissive so this is a whole new world. I haven’t had any issues with following his rules and have been very obedient. [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Learn to Submit
How I Balance Independence and Submission

How I Balance Independence and Submission

Are you a strong and independent person who identifies with the “right side of the slash” (as in /submissive or /slave)?  Are you confused by your submissive drive given that you don’t consider yourself to be a submissive person? When I wrote about empowerment through submission, several people contacted me to learn more about how [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Submission in Gratitude

Submission in Gratitude

Thanksgiving weekend here in Canada is a weekend for celebrating the good we have in our lives and sharing it with those who are close to us. There is so much to be thankful for and this year, as I look back, I see the amazing abundance that comes to us in various ways, but [...]

1 comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Mindset, Relationships
A Key To Slave Bliss: Contentment

A Key To Slave Bliss: Contentment

A few weeks ago, there was a vanilla event that I had the opportunity to volunteer with. It seemed like hundreds of people poured into the building to hear the speaker. There were some key points that he covered, but the one that stood out to me the most was that of contentment. He said [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Mindset
A Day in the Life: WKslittleone

A Day in the Life: WKslittleone

This is a guest post by WKslittle one for the Day in the Life Series. Cap/uncapped writing is the author’s way of written communication and is a common choice for online LDR relationships. The Day in the Life Series is the only time I allow posts with non-standard grammar/spelling methods. If this bothers you, then [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
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Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference?

In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit, Mindset, Service
Coming Out of the Closet… Twice

Coming Out of the Closet… Twice

This is a guest post by Mia. I was a closet lesbian until 2003 and a closet kinkster until 2010, I lost friends each time I came out. When I told people about my sexuality in 2003 I was called a dyke, a pervert and a liar by some of the people I thought of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Social Norms

You’re Not the Boss of Me! Empowerment Through Submission

I recently had a conversation with my boss that went something like this: Boss: “We’d like you to start doing some of your colleague’s work because you’re caught up and she’s behind.” Me: “I would be happy to help, but I see that none of these things are on my job description.” Boss: “They aren’t, [...]

2 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Mindset
Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment

Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment

Sunday morning, we were sitting at the dining room table finishing breakfast. Sir sat there, sipped His tea slowly and thoughtfully. He was deep in the stillness of the moment. I was a different story. My mind began to race with all the lists of to-do’s and should-do’s that awaited us for the day ahead. [...]

3 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Mindset

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