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Beginner Basics

This topic is great for those newer to submission and those looking to learn about submission from a general point of view.

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Ask the Readers – Where Do Male Submissives Go For Information?

Hi readers! Every so often I have a question from someone that deserves different viewpoints and so I’m sharing it with you. Please give your advice to this submissive and be kind.  Being male in a field of females is awkward.  Where do hetro-male subs go for info??? My answer would be that much of what is pointed to female submissives works for male submissives also, just change the pronouns. But are there specific websites, forums or discussion groups that cater to male submissives who [...]

7, December | 4 comments

Book Review: Slave-ography by Slave Patrick

Awhile ago, I had a couple of male s-types contact me and I replied to one of their comments saying something along the lines how I wish there was a book for the male s-types like there are for female submissives. There are tons of books and blogs, and whatever else out there geared towards female [...]

1, December | Leave a comment

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

23, July | 22 comments

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The Importance of Being Authentic

I haven’t really written much lately. It’s been a part lack of motivation and part lack of inspiration. I’ve had a few ideas, but nothing that really convinced me that I need to actually put down any words. But then the Universe hit me with a really big stick. A couple of months ago, I [...]

29, November | Leave a comment

Altered Mental States

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Venturing into the realms of Altered Mental States should be done carefully. The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion (as witnessed by the recent ‘cult’ suicides in LA). People often have an enormous [...]

9, September | 4 comments

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

When I first came to the community, I, as well as others like me, was a bit of a unicorn. During that time, it wasn’t the norm to see younger people in the community – younger as in under 36 or so. Most of the people I knew were 40+, and there I was in [...]

1, July | 3 comments

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Cyber Realities

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. In many ways this seems like a contradiction in terms. However, it cannot be overlooked that the advent of the Internet has opened the access into the BDSM community in ways completely incomprehensible [...]

1, May | 1 comment

Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

11, August | 1 comment

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

29, July | 11 comments

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What Should I Try Next: Like Wax Play? Try Knives!

What Should I Try Next: Like Wax Play? Try Knives!

This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the [...]

1 comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Should I Try Next: Like Role Play? Try Medical Play!

What Should I Try Next: Like Role Play? Try Medical Play!

This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Should I Try Next: Like Orgasm Control? Try Forced Orgasms!

What Should I Try Next: Like Orgasm Control? Try Forced Orgasms!

This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Should I Try Next: Like Bondage? Try Mummification!

What Should I Try Next: Like Bondage? Try Mummification!

This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Should I Try Next: Like Service-based Play? Try Serving Others

What Should I Try Next: Like Service-based Play? Try Serving Others

This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Should I Try Next:  Like Spanking? Try Flogging

What Should I Try Next: Like Spanking? Try Flogging

This is a six-part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the beginning [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/9/16 When I started exploring BDSM and D/s relationships in 2003 there weren’t a lot of resources available. Those that were available were considered bibles of BDSM, essential reading for those who wanted books to read. (Which seems self-serving since they were the only resources, of  course people suggested reading [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Reviews
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 30 – What Have You Learned?

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 30 – What Have You Learned?

We are nearly to the end of the Submissive Journaling series here on Submissive Guide. This month has been chock full of tips, tricks, and how-tos for journaling and I hope you have picked up some good ideas for your own journaling needs. So, this is where I ask you what you thought of the [...]

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 29 – Social Networking Best Practices

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 29 – Social Networking Best Practices

Facebook, FetLife, LinkedIn, Twitter, Ning, Digg, MeetUp, blogs, Instagram, KIK, etc.,  — the number of social networking sites and tools is exploding. Social networking is the killer app of the Internet for everyone. Such sites have become links to communicate with businesses, news, brands, celebrities, and friends, are a way to find  your next job or the [...]

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 26 – Gratitude Log: Happiness’ Best Kept Secret

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 26 – Gratitude Log: Happiness’ Best Kept Secret

You have the basics down for journaling, you’ve read up on journal prompts and making book notes and writing scene reports like a boss what more can there be in a submissive journal? Well, lots of things actually! Today it’s being thankful. A wonderful thing to consider when journaling is to add a gratitude log/journal. I [...]