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Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
What Influences Your Submission?

What Influences Your Submission?

The other day, I found myself wondering who and what influences me with the decisions I make. The reason why I found myself pondering this is because I had begun to doubt myself and everything I believed and how I lived my life because of something someone had said about me. This person who had [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth
Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

There are a few “sins” in the world of BDSM; ignoring a safe word and touching that which does not belong to you are a few examples.  But, while both of these are bad, one might be able to look at a different point of view.  Someone may ignore a safe word because their scene [...]

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I am a tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s [...]

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Like anyone else who’s walking the submissive path, I struggle from time to time. Maybe more times than I really care to admit. There are times where Daddy asks things of me, that I don’t quite want to do or I feel like I don’t have a submissive bone in my body and that makes [...]

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

I really don’t know where to start. I am really confused & I don’t know what to do. My Master hasn’t been that ‘masterful’. I have been His sub for almost 5 years. Even when things seem okay. He is constantly in the negative. He is not tending to His personal affairs at all & [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

I’m so glad I found your site. I am a large woman, about 275, who started exploring but has not yet experienced a D/s relationship. I think I’ve resolved much of my conflict about my sexuality, but I’ve some lingering issues to deal with from the last time I was thinner. I lost 90 pounds [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/6/12 On the heels of “50 Shades of Grey” fame, there are a lot of new and curious people exploring BDSM than there has been in a long time. For the many people who encounter this site through a search they may have their fantasies dashed by reading about the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Orgasm on Command Training – The Process for the Submissive

Orgasm on Command Training – The Process for the Submissive

When you enter a training program as intensive as orgasm training you can get overwhelmed easily. There is a lot of weight on the submissive to perform and succeed. Much of the detailed accounts I’ve read talk about what goes on as far as the training but never how the submissive internalizes it and makes [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

This is a guest post by tlbsab. You can find her here on the SubGuide Club. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake; but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

We never want our scene time to end. It’s fun and pleasant and lovely. When we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Ask Anything | When weight is a sexual road block

Ask Anything | When weight is a sexual road block

My Master is quite a portly man .How can he get good penetration without hurting his feelings? That is important his weight on me can clearly crush me. He is in excess of 400 lb. He loves to mount me from above in a dominant position. I love dear Master and yet i don’t wish [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything

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