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[Video Post] Improving Your Submission – Setting Goals and Making a Plan

Welcome back to another video post! In the last episode we talked about how to identify what improving your submission needs – a focus. In that video I asked you to make a list of things you feel (or your Dom feels) that need improvement to make your submission better and more fulfilling. If you [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth, Video Posts
When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

First published on KinkAcademy.com. I wrote this almost 5 years ago and am sharing it again with you here. As with everything BDSM has to offer, there are what are considered light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter.  Two years ago I [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

This is the third in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This third article is about the importance of trust and the role it plays in our relationships. Check out the previous articles – It’s All About Communication and Honesty is the Best [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Bootblacking and Why I Love It

Bootblacking and Why I Love It

This is a guest post by Red Vinyl Kitty. You can read about her life as a slave kitty at Sub Mission. I was approached by LunaKM a few months ago to write a guest post for her blog.  I do not usually do guest posts, but she wanted me to write one about my [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Talents and Skills

[Video Post] How To Help Your Dominant Through Dom Drop

How do you care for a Dom/Master who is suffering dom drop?  What should a sub do to help them through this? It seems that they get reclusive.  Is this normal? Today’s Ask Anything question I thought I’d give special attention and make it a video post. A common conversation in BDSM circles is sub [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Video Posts
The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/1/12 As with anything on Submissive Guide I do my best to provide you with accurate opinions and general viewpoints on topics pertaining to BDSM and submission.  Readers such as you, tell me in a variety of ways what I should be focusing on from time to time by the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Submissive Advent – Day 17: A Moment of Gratitude

Submissive Advent – Day 17: A Moment of Gratitude

Today is day 17 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Showing gratitude is a wonderful way to express to someone that you care for them, who they are and what they have [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Submissive Advent – Day 12: Proud Mary

Submissive Advent – Day 12: Proud Mary

Today is day 12 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am often asked if being submissive means you have to be humble, meek and reserved. It always puzzles me to think [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/18/12 When I first started recording video posts to put on YouTube I didn’t think any BDSM information could be found there, and in fact, thought that my videos would be taken down as soon as they went up. That hasn’t been the case and I’m thrilled about that. But [...]

Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

This post was going to be a video post but since I’m working off of my little netbook for the time being (my laptop died) I was unable to create the video. I promise to get back to doing videos when I have a new laptop. In a play party last night I witnessed a [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
First Aid for Bruises, Abrasions and Other After Play Marks

First Aid for Bruises, Abrasions and Other After Play Marks

When Master and I play, it’s very likely that there will be marks, at least temporarily. Caring for them is part of the aftercare we have set up for me.  We are pretty minimal when it comes to first aid for them because I like to keep them as long as possible.  I’m the sort [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

Is Monogamy a Dying Trend? The Rise of Poly in BDSM Relationships

Monogamy isn’t dead. It is still the leading form of relationship in D/s and SM relationships, no matter what someone else might tell you. Human nature dictates that we aren’t wired for long term fidelity, but so many of us are perfectly fine in a one partner for all time relationship.  You can still look [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virginity. It’s valued and prized and then remembered. There’s even people who believe in a second virginity. Of course there are also BDSM virgins when people just get started. But, the question I got posed to me the other day was if you are a sexual virgin can you even know that you are interested [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

What Is Slave Training?

In this week’s video tip I talk about what training is to a submissive and the value it has to a D/s relationship. When someone thinks of slave training, what is the first thing that pops into your mind? Is it a submissive on their knees going through the paces that their Dominant puts them? [...]

14 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Video Posts

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