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Is He Doing This Just For Me?

Is He Doing This Just For Me?

We’re both so new at this, we’re just trying to figure things out as we go along and sometimes I feel like he’s just doing it for me. Any help?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle?

How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle?

Please help because we have a one of a kind love for each other that I don’t want to lose but the constant power struggle between us is exhausting. I want to come to a compromise that we’re both happy with.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics

So You Want to Share Your Kink with Your Vanilla Partner – What You Need to Know

I want my partner to be Dominant/submissive but I’m afraid they’ll judge me or leave me if I tell them.

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

We are the sum of our experiences, after all, and if I hadn’t learned these lessons I don’t think I’d be where I am today.

7 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
You Can Not Make Someone Be a Dominant

You Can Not Make Someone Be a Dominant

You can’t make someone be a Dominant. You can, however, awaken latent dominance or kink that they may have in their fantasies.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant

Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant

People often misunderstand how relationship communication works because they may have had such poor examples or think that coercing or manipulating someone is par for the course.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

In part 1 of this series of articles we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In  part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3 we examine how to proceed if your vanilla [...]

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 2- My Partner is Not Interested

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 2- My Partner is Not Interested

“What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is part 2 and deals with a situation in which your vanilla partner is not receptive to what has been discussed in part 1 . As mentioned in part 1, if after the first conversation in which you have expressed a mild version of your [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Welcome ted_subby as a new contributor to Submissive Guide! His first post is about a topic that I know many of you can benefit from. Enjoy! “What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for [...]

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Anything | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner

Ask Anything | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner

I have a question that I am desperately trying to understand. I have been a submissive instinctively since I was in high school but I have been out of the scene for a few years. At first it was because I was focusing on schooling and then it was because my current partner is vanilla. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
But My Partner is Vanilla…: Three Options Available To You When Your Partner Isn’t Kinky

But My Partner is Vanilla…: Three Options Available To You When Your Partner Isn’t Kinky

So you’ve discovered kink and want to try some things out. You talk to your partner about it.  Unfortunately, no matter how you suggest things to your partner they aren’t interested. They are really vanilla. It may be obvious that I’m not talking about the ice cream flavor here, but if you are really novice, [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

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