By nan {SL} on June 14, 2010
In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged attitude, bdsm community, decisions, development, femininity, feminism, freedom of choice, gender, independent woman, personal life, self expression, Service, training |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2010
Every month I ask for your anonymous questions and pleas for advice. Here are the few I got this month. First one is about introducing D/s into an existing relationship. I also cover 2 dominant relationship, just starting out and writing a letter of intent. How do I introduce my husband to the D/s or [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, expectations, experience, information, marriage, needs, negotiation, negotiations, novice, poly, questions, serving, training, Training Resume, two dominants, understanding |
By lunaKM on May 17, 2010
From The Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-7-09 When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment I have found my manners and [...]
Posted in Mindset, Newsletter Archive | Tagged Emily Post, etiquette, learning, miss manners, serving, submissive guide newsletter, training |
By nan {SL} on May 10, 2010
Did you miss part 1? You can read it here. In Part 1, we looked at the information that you should try to gather when starting to interact with an unknown Dom/me. However, there are other warning signs that can appear once you start to develop a relationship with your new Dom/me. Evaluating your training [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged abuse, danger, experience, negotiation, predators, safe words, serving, training, warning signs |
By lunaKM on January 5, 2010
A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]
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By lunaKM on November 23, 2009
One of the cornerstone books recommended for submissives and Dominants alike has always been Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy. Once two individual books; Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training with Miss Abernathy, this omnibus has everything you could want in a manual about training submissives. When I first read this book I was [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, books, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, Impact, information, m/s, Miss Abernathy, relationship, review, rt, Service, single, slave, slave training, standing, submissive, training, understanding |
By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on October 15, 2009
lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]
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By lunaKM on October 6, 2009
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Please cross-post Welcome to the 3rd Annual Submissive Journey Weekend… I am proud to announce that registration for the next Submissive Journey Weekend is now open. We cordially invite those who identify as submissive, slave, girl, boi /boy, bottom, pup, etc. to a weekend of learning, growth and support. All genders, [...]
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By lunaKM on September 1, 2009
If you have ever wondered how you can get the spanking you’ve always wanted but wasn’t sure how to ask for it, there is a book for you. I was just offered the chance to review a copy of How to Get the Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking for It, Getting It [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Views & More... | Tagged abuse, advice, Aria, blogs, book, books, bottom, caning, choice, clean, desires, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, Dom, e-book, emotions, experience, fear, focus, gender, gender roles, grace, help, history, learning, lifestyle, little girl, love, marks, real life, relationship, Resources, review, roles, rt, safe, series, share, size, spanking, spanking series, standing, tips, training, understanding, Variant Books, Vivian |
By lunaKM on August 12, 2009
Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]
Posted in Training Resume | Tagged a grateful slave, activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, blogs, book, books, clean, cleaning, dates, development, Dom, dominant, essays, etiquette, experience, green cleaning, growth, Guy Baldwin, help, how-to, learning, library, newsletter, obedience, online, opinion, reading list, relationship, Relationships, Resources, resume, review, rt, Service, share, skills, slave, slavecraft, submissive, surrender, tasks, titles, training, Training Resume, transparency, viewpoints, websites, writing, writing essays |
By lunaKM on July 27, 2009
An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Training Resume | Tagged abuse, activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm checklist, book, books, checklist, cons, desires, experience, health, help, information, kinky, limits, marks, needs, negotiation, online, permanent marks, play, player, resume, rt, safe, Safety, scene, sex, share, submission, training, Training Resume |
By lunaKM on June 22, 2009
I’ve been exploring the writing of a Dominant mind lately and thought I’d share with you some of the wonderful musings this man has for learning the Dominant personae. The blog I’ve been exploring is A Dominant Character and is written by Sir J. I’d recommend you drop by and take a look at what [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged A Dominant Character, balance, blog review, blogging, blogs, cons, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominant blog, dominants, dress, email, first aid, honesty, learning, love, m/s, openness, play, relationship, Relationships, rss, rt, scene, share, Sir J, standing, submission, submissive, surrender, training, understanding, writing |
By lunaKM on June 17, 2009
A collar for submissives is one of the most fundamental symbols of their relationship and one that is usually gaurded and protected with their heart. With all the essays online about collars I thought I’d jump in with my own take on what everyone says and believes about collars. Play Collars The first type of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Relationships | Tagged BDSM, bdsm play, cheapen, collar of consideration, collaring, collars, commitment, cons, desires, Dom, dominant, essays, experience, formal collar, leather, levels of collars, lifestyle, memories, online, permanent collar, pictures of collars, piercing, play, player, progress, RACK, relationship, rt, share, slave collar, stress, submissive, symbolism, symbols, tattoos, training, training collar, types of collars, value, velcro collars |
By lunaKM on June 4, 2009
When starting out in submission, there are a lot of roads you can choose and so many people direct novices to training and needing to be trained. Most of these novices then seek out a Master or Dominant to train them. This concept that the Dominant can teach the submissive more about surrender is a [...]
Posted in Mindset, Submission | Tagged advice, assistance, deeper submission, development, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, experience, focus, fulfillment, help, information, journey, learning, love, mentor, novice, novices, questions, relationship, rt, rules, self-discovery, slave, slave training, submission, submissive, submissive training, submissive understanding, surrender, switch, training |
By lunaKM on May 29, 2009
There is no way to be sure but, the large majority of information about the D/s lifestyle is in fiction form. While it’s nice to escape into emotional and physical stories, they are fantasy. For submissives looking to get their feet wet, these stories could hinder or harm the very ideas that develop in the [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged BDSM, bdsm fiction, BDSM practitioner, book, books, D/s, Dom, dominant, dynamic, experience, fantasy, fulfillment, growth, information, Laura Antoniou, learning, lifestyle, love, munch, novice, opinion, questions, Resources, rt, series, slave, spirit, standing, Study, submission, submissive, training, understanding, value, viewpoints |
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