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Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Improve Yourself
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

10 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Help Make the Pocket Dungeon a Possibility!

Help Make the Pocket Dungeon a Possibility!

Aloha, I am Ming, a lover of art, science, sex, nature, leather and travel…and hopefully you will see equal parts of those passions, in this creation, The Pocket Dungeon. Too many times I found myself in a situation where the opportunity for play would arise out of nowhere and I did not have my toys. [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...

After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

You scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Stay Safe
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

I’ve been struggling with my submission this week and it’s put tension on our dynamic. It’s a natural thing for me to have moments of questions and struggle with how I live. It will even out but until then I’m having to work harder to keep my focus on what I should be doing and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Mischief in May in Iowa was pretty good! KnyghtMare, froggyKM and I had a good time at the classes, socializing and playing. I even got a few new toys including a play collar. I’ve wanted a real leather collar with D-rings for ages! Of course, with any convention you can drop pretty hard and while [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

On my own blog I’ve recently been reviewing various BDSM toy suppliers that I’ve used but I thought it would be interesting to write a guide on how to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of shopping! Who makes [...]

Leave a comment Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Learn to Submit

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

When I was twenty, I met my first dominant in person. I was extremely excited and nervous about this because for months before meeting in person, we had talked a great deal through emails, online chatting services, and phone calls. The weekend he and I had planned to meet was over Memorial Day weekend. This [...]

19 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Social Norms
The Top 7 Posts in the Last Year on Submissive Guide

The Top 7 Posts in the Last Year on Submissive Guide

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/1/12 As with anything on Submissive Guide I do my best to provide you with accurate opinions and general viewpoints on topics pertaining to BDSM and submission.  Readers such as you, tell me in a variety of ways what I should be focusing on from time to time by the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Submissive Advent – Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

Submissive Advent – Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

Today is day 7 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. As submissives we often forget that helping others also feeds our need to submit. One of the most frequent suggestions I hear [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar

What is Non-sexual Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. If somebody said to you that they only wanted to have non-sexual play, how would you interpret this? Does it mean no intercourse but oral is ok? Does it [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

[Video Post] Introducing BDSM to Your Partner

On the heels of a fantastic three-post series on this very subject I’ve been receiving requests for advice and help on how to introduce BDSM to your partner, so I’m going to talk about the key points I think will help any partner open up about BDSM with their mate. It is a scary proposition [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts

In Readiness – Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Ask lunaKM | The Effects of Fisting

SehAnru has retired from writing at Submissive Guide while her life gets really busy. We wish her all the best. I’ll be answering your questions until someone else applies for the position. Ask me Anything! I was curious about the long term effect of fisting or even multiple fingers/larger toys in the vagina? I have [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Sex and Sexuality

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Perspectives: Gags

Perspectives: Gags

Being introduced to a ball gag was a scary thing for me. I had always envisioned it as limiting my breathing and never thought to try it out before it showed up in a scene. The first ball gag I owned was small, spongy ball on a leather strap. It was small and I could open [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Domestics have filled my week this week and then a day trip with my mom to visit my grandmother’s grave on Friday. It’s emphasized to me the importance of making your house a home and to fill it with the people that mean so much to you before they are gone. Other things that have [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Don’t Touch Other People’s Property

Don’t Touch Other People’s Property

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-18-12 The other night KnyghtMare and I went to a play party. We were having a nice time sitting and watching and socializing in the sunken seating area surrounded by raised booths. KnyghtMare was playfully swatting my breasts from time to time and at one point I raised my arms [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
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