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31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 1: Introduction

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 1: Introduction

This is the table of contents for the 31 Days of Submissive Journaling Series hosted in October 2016.

Ask lunaKM – Can I have a Dom if the Husband Doesn’t Know?, Alcohol Assault and Feeling Faint

Ask lunaKM – Can I have a Dom if the Husband Doesn’t Know?, Alcohol Assault and Feeling Faint

Dear lunaKM, I have recently come to terms that I cannot continue to allow myself to suppress my need to be a submissive. My issue lies with the fact I am now married. I love my husband but I’m not sure he has the ability to be Dom. I have fought my personal demons with [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/4/13 Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

You scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

My question is how do i learn to be great for a Master seeing that i am a man. Women have so many advantages to pleasing their Master than i do. Can you give me some pointers? Thank you. I’m not really sure what advantages that are uniquely female that don’t have a male counterpart. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex, Relationships
Ask the Readers: How can I prevent bruising?

Ask the Readers: How can I prevent bruising?

Every so often I get a request for advice that I think would be a good talking point with the reader community I have here at Submissive Guide. Here’s one that I think deserves a highlight. Please leave your thoughts and advice for Bruises_Easily in the comments! So I am new to submissive world. It [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/2/13 Once you reach a level of comfort with your kinky desires it may be time to go to a BDSM convention. A BDSM convention is much like a convention for any other activity. It is held in a hotel or large convention center with classes and seminars to choose [...]

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

When I realized that my previous article on Sub Frenzy didn’t give you any advice on how to tackle it head on I knew I just had to get an article to you about how to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush. What is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

I am quite new in action to the lifestyle, but far from new in thought.  I have known basically forever that I am a submissive…but have been stuck on knowing what to do about it. I am now quite happily with my Sir.  He seems very pleased with my natural submissiveness…but we have one are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/19/13 First date jitters are perfectly normal, but it’s a good idea to calm your nerves prior to meeting your date. Before any first date, avoid thinking about the countless “what if” scenarios and simply go without any expectations. Unfortunately, the nervous energy attached to meeting a Dominant for the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
[Video Post] How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

[Video Post] How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

First I want to give you a little bit of background. He is my Disciplinarian. It’s not a D/s relationship. We’ve been meeting regularly for the last 3.5 years. In September of this year, I  moved halfway around the world with my job. So we now only see each other when I am able to [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

On my own blog I’ve recently been reviewing various BDSM toy suppliers that I’ve used but I thought it would be interesting to write a guide on how to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of shopping! Who makes [...]

Leave a comment Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

Some of the first advice that I give to someone wanting to get off the computer and into the local community is to attend a munch. But at the same time I know that attending a munch is a scary proposition. You will be meeting people you don’t know that are into kinky things, and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
Book Review: Playing Well with Others

Book Review: Playing Well with Others

It’s been awhile since I read a book for review on the site, but this book I have been waiting for months to be released and I was thrilled to get an autographed (and kissed) copy by donating to their release tour. Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
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