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BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

Should you start saying you enjoy kinky sex? Is it bad to be kinky? What is kinky anyway?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

There are several different types of Financial Domination, including dynamics which do not involve the dominant receiving any money whatsoever. This is often not understood when some people rail against Financial Domination as a legitimate kink.

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Submitting did not make my thoughts less valuable or inappropriate, it simply meant that I would have to learn to accept that the final decision lay with my partner, my Dom, not with me.

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Sub space is a real thing. It does happen and there are many ways you can reach sub space, experience sub space and come out of sub space. And there are people that don’t reach sub space. That doesn’t make you any less of a submissive, not at all. It just means you experience things differently.

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

A foot fetish is not necessarily related to submission, although for many guys the two combine well and there are a whole lot of varieties of activities and preferences for guys with a foot fetish.

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part II: Service

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

As we apply the term service to hierarchical relationships, it’s really simple: what the Owner requires or needs. Those things that make the Owner’s life easier, more comfortable, and more joyous (at the very least).

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Service
[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

I was wondering how I can get a submissive mentor? I’d like to talk about things with someone that has experience. I am on fetlife but I don’t love posting things where everyone can see. Can you help me find someone?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics

What are Red Flags?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. When discussing potential dating partners or relationships it is often a common question to ask if there are any red flags about the person that you feel or have [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

Can Trust Be Repaired When He’s Caught Cheating?

I have forgiven him, but now I am having a hard time trusting him. I don’t feel that our relationship is Safe, Sane or Consensual anymore. My question to you is….can this relationship be salvaged once the trust has been broken, especially so early in the relationship?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

We more experienced people do have a habit of looking at new people funny when they don’t know what they are into. I think we forget that we were there once, that we floundered and stuttered when asked if we liked bondage or spanking, or if we were a Dominant or submissive. So, hopefully, we’ll learn from this little article too – that we were there once.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Book Review: Playing Well with Others

Book Review: Playing Well with Others

This book by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams is the quintessential guide for novices and seasoned players ready to enter the BDSM community. No other book like this exists so it’s a great addition to your personal kink library.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

I have a love/hate relationship with labels. Our lifestyle labels are no different.

10 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submissive Advent – Day 11: Pancake Identity

Submissive Advent – Day 11: Pancake Identity

How many times in your submissive journey have you thought about the words we use to identify ourselves and feel that they just don’t feel quite right?

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should. But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships
Submissive Self-Discovery Leads to Self-Worth

Submissive Self-Discovery Leads to Self-Worth

I had a sense that the people I was interacting with on my submissive journey had a higher level of self-worth than I had of myself. It’s amazing what interacting with others that have higher self-esteems will do for your own self-worth.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Spirituality
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do?

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I’ll definitely recommend this book to anyone who says they want a Master in their life or are thinking they are a Master. It’s easy to read with a lot of personal introspection expected. You’ll finish this book a better Master or slave – that I really believe.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
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