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Simply Service eZine: May 2008

Simply Service eZine: May 2008

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from May 2008. Topics include Productivity Tools, Is Slavery Real?, Rules of Bedding and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Simply Service eZine: November 2006

Simply Service eZine: November 2006

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from November 2006. Topics include Personal Responsibility in BDSM, The Role of Slavery in Modern Society, a Dominant’s View of Service and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

Please consider the following situations as a wake up call if you are in a relationship where you’re feeling used or disrespected. Being a Dominant does not give them an automatic “be a dick” card.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Pride is a slippery emotion that I believe many a slave deal with, even if we don’t recognize it

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

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Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

There’s a downright ugly side to it, especially when the slave has been ‘alone’ for a long period of time. That has been my situation. Whew… Breathe with me, for I’m about to share some things that people either don’t think really happens or are afraid to admit to happening …

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Petitioning is an acknowledgment of structure and formality; it is definitely a humbling experience for a slave. It is also a way for a slave to solidly express their desires – no hemming and hawing, no beating around the bush, just a determined statement of the desire.

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

A longing is not a frenzy, though it’s quite possible that the feeling of yearning can lead to a frenzy. But what I feel in the moments when I experience a deep longing for what isn’t there is a mixture of emotions

11 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
Single in the Scene Part II: Service

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

As we apply the term service to hierarchical relationships, it’s really simple: what the Owner requires or needs. Those things that make the Owner’s life easier, more comfortable, and more joyous (at the very least).

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Service
Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Think about the fears you currently have about your submission, your role in your current relationship or within yourself.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 3

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 3

You’ve finished the book! I definitely want to know what you thought about it in the comments.

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Ask Anything | Self Discipline and Being Yourself

Ask Anything | Self Discipline and Being Yourself

I just had a very good experience watching one of your videos about submission, it was the one about subspace on your youtube channel. First of all, I’m sorry about any grammar mistake in my writing, I’m an Italian girl and I don’t have many chances to write english except for my job. I have [...]

Comments Off Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of rope did and it was a fantastic first experience all around.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
A Day in the Life: bonimiss

A Day in the Life: bonimiss

This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

A common mistake that many submissives make is to assume that giving up control also means giving up the responsibility to themselves and to the situation. A submissive shares equal responsibility for any consequences – good or bad – that occur as a result of consensual play or activities.

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Understanding Sub Fever

Understanding Sub Fever

Figuring out what to do once you know you have it can be difficult. Novice submissives lose their rational thought really easily when the fever takes hold.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Deceptive Submissive – The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

Deceptive Submissive – The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

Bogus submissives have only their own self-interest in mind; they manipulate others and take advantage of them for their own agenda. They cause just as much emotional damage as bogus Masters. They are a special breed of sexual predator.

11 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
What is Kajira?

What is Kajira?

I am Kajira. I am a slave. First off that makes me a tool to be used at my Master’s every whim. Whether that is for sexual pleasure, for comfort, for massage, or just to sit in position as commanded.

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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