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Simply Service eZine: May 2008

Simply Service eZine: May 2008

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from May 2008. Topics include Productivity Tools, Is Slavery Real?, Rules of Bedding and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

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Simply Service eZine: November 2006

Simply Service eZine: November 2006

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from November 2006. Topics include Personal Responsibility in BDSM, The Role of Slavery in Modern Society, a Dominant’s View of Service and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

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4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

I’ve been in relationships before. I know how they should work, or at least I think I do. Sometimes I wonder if everyone has forgotten how things are supposed to work just because they are in a D/s relationship instead of a vanilla one. Many of the questions on social networking for kinky people stems [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Pride, Merriam-Webster: : inordinate self-esteem :  conceit :  proud or disdainful behavior or treatment :  disdain :  ostentatious display Pride is a slippery emotion that I believe many a slave deal with, even if we don’t recognize it. I’m not talking about the feeling of elation and accomplishment after a job well done or when we’ve been recognized and [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

I was going to do another Single in the Scene post, had been kicking it around, but then last week, I felt something else. And this week because this ‘something’ else is back, I’ve decided to go with this… A slave’s longing. A longing is not a frenzy, though it’s quite possible that the feeling [...]

11 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
Single in the Scene Part II: Service

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read Part I: Boundaries. Over the past few weeks the matter of service has [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Service
Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Today is day 14 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am afraid. I am afraid that so many novice submissives will not reach their full potential because of fears they will [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 3

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 3

You’ve finished the book! I definitely want to know what you thought about it in the comments. The last chapters were excellent as far as working through surrender, negotiation, discussing abuse, 24/7 living and staying on track. I think these chapters had more bulk to them than previous ones as far as necessary content. Here [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Ask Anything | Self Discipline and Being Yourself

Ask Anything | Self Discipline and Being Yourself

I just had a very good experience watching one of your videos about submission, it was the one about subspace on your youtube channel. First of all, I’m sorry about any grammar mistake in my writing, I’m an Italian girl and I don’t have many chances to write english except for my job. I have [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
A Day in the Life: bonimiss

A Day in the Life: bonimiss

This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series. I saw luna’s request for a day in the life and was immediately interested but then I hesitated. I fear I suffer from “Not Doing It Right” syndrome but then I thought if I am doing it the way Sir specifies, I [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

This post was going to be a video post but since I’m working off of my little netbook for the time being (my laptop died) I was unable to create the video. I promise to get back to doing videos when I have a new laptop. In a play party last night I witnessed a [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Understanding Sub Fever

Understanding Sub Fever

This is from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-3-11 Sub fever, also known as sub frenzy is an often misunderstood condition for novice and well seasoned submissives. While experienced submissives can learn to recognize the symptoms, most novices are oblivious to the issues at hand. What is sub fever? Do you remember when you first discovered [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Deceptive Submissive – The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

Deceptive Submissive – The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

This is a guest post by Camryn Darkstone. Virtual worlds have opened a door to BDSM for many people, allowing them to explore their curiosity about it in a fantasy environment. People who would never do so in “real” life can try on handcuffs, be chained and bound, and even submit to a Dominant, all [...]

11 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
What is Kajira?

What is Kajira?

This is a guest post by Dara. What is Kajira? If you had asked me that 4 months ago I would have had no clue. Slave girl? Now there’s a term I recognized, and if you had made the suggestion that I would one day in the very near future submit myself to becoming someone’s [...]

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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