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Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Support me on Patreon! It’s no secret that keeping this site going costs money and while my passion for educating and supporting the BDSM community have not wavered, the income needed to continue to grow this site is on the rise. I have so many hopes and dreams and goals for Submissive Guide and I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

Accepting criticism is never an easy thing to do. It’s extremely hard to accept it from people we know, but in my opinion, it’s even harder to accept criticism or negative comments from random Internet people. Why you ask? Because these people who you don’t know and don’t know you, or maybe only sort of [...]

Channeling Guilt with Housework

Channeling Guilt with Housework

An abusive childhood has made me incredibly prone to feeling guilty. Someone else can drop a glass and shatter it and I will twist the situation in my mind in such a way that I caused that to happen – it is my fault that the glass broke. I absorb that persons guilt as my [...]

12 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Rituals and Routines
Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

This past winter I ran an educational event through the campus Women’s Center on BDSM in response to Fifty Shades of Grey. With the movie coming out I knew that people would be interested in the topic and consider trying it themselves and I wanted them to be safe about it. I covered the basics [...]

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Personal Growth, Relationships
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Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community

I sign up for a lot of emails. I get four to five daily recipes newsletters as well as several ebooks bargains of the day, daily quotes, and an occasional blog here and there. The other thing I sign up for is called The Daily OM. It’s a daily email newsletter with a message that [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

I love birthdays. I love getting presents and even more than presents, I love getting birthday cake. Because come on, birthday cake is awesome and it’s not a birthday without cake. My own personal belief. I remember when I was younger, I kept pondering ways to make my birthday a national holiday. For the most [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Feeling Down After a Play Session? You Could Have Sub Drop

One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no matter what else we were doing [...]

8 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Play and Sex
On Perfectionism

On Perfectionism

Can I just be really honest with you today? You know what one of the hardest parts about blogging has been for me? It’s that some readers want me to be perfect. I know they’d probably never say out loud, “I expect you to be a perfect submissive,” but if I admit that I don’t know the [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – Is he Dominant or Domineering?

Ask lunaKM – Is he Dominant or Domineering?

Luna, I got involved with dominant man, long distance then face to face. I knew him as friend and he guided me into his spanko world. Somehow my experience left me debased and questioning is he dominant or just domineering. He was condescending to me even knowing that I never been spanked. Insisted on bruising [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Safety
Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
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Back Off Bitches! Feeling Territorial and Jealousy as a Slave

There are probably two very sensitive and deeply moving confessions that a slave could make – admitting to being territorial and/or jealous. These demons are a complete terror and have visited many relationships since the beginning of time. In order to move about freely and enjoy the fruits of a healthy M/s relationship, they need [...]

26 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

There’s going to come a point, I pray, that the single slave will be not so single and will be heading towards being owned. So for the last message in this series, I thought I’d talk about releasing the fear of transformation. There’s a song from the late 80′s “Don’t Make Me Over” by Sybil [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset
Final Preparations: Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

Final Preparations: Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/3/13 Death. It is going to happen to all of us. It’s a natural part of life. But we avoid talking about it more than anything else. Dealing with a death of a loved one would go a lot smoother if we knew what their final wishes were, right? Do [...]

Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of…decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to put [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Submissive Guide Ecourses – Do They Really Help?

You’ve probably seen the link at the top of this site, or the banners on the side and wondered if the ecourses that I offer are really going to help you learn more about BDSM or submission than reading the websites and books on the subject can do. My answer is yes. The difference between [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What Influences Your Submission?

What Influences Your Submission?

The other day, I found myself wondering who and what influences me with the decisions I make. The reason why I found myself pondering this is because I had begun to doubt myself and everything I believed and how I lived my life because of something someone had said about me. This person who had [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth
Me vs the German Language  – A Lesson in Patience

Me vs the German Language – A Lesson in Patience

This past year has just been a whirlwind of excitement for me. Moving to a new country to be with my Daddy and everything that comes with moving to a new country, adjusting to a new culture, a new way of life, and a new language. The biggest challenge of my move has been the [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
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