By SehAnru on July 19, 2010
Having been in the lifestyle for almost two years now, one of the things that I have noticed is that I am facing a lot of issues due to abuse from my past. Not from any Dominant in the lifestyle, just from others in my past. I’ve learned enough that if you have similar past [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged abuse, breaking down barriers, openness, reprogrammed responses, Safety, suggestions, support, trust |
By lunaKM on February 13, 2010
This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, Alt.com, Bondage, Bondage.com, CollarMe, cons, danger, dangers, dating, depression, email, false sense of security, family, fetlife, friends, information, internet, online, Online dating, online profiles, profile safety, relationship, rt, safe, Safety, security, Service, share, share photos, sharing, support, tips |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By lunaKM on October 6, 2009
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Please cross-post Welcome to the 3rd Annual Submissive Journey Weekend… I am proud to announce that registration for the next Submissive Journey Weekend is now open. We cordially invite those who identify as submissive, slave, girl, boi /boy, bottom, pup, etc. to a weekend of learning, growth and support. All genders, [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged BDSM event, bottom, classes, discussion, educational opportunities, event, experience, focus, gender, growth, information, journey, learning, love, questions, relationship, rt, Service, sex, sexual orientation, share, SJW, skills, slave, submissive, submissive event, submissive journey weekend, support, training |
By lunaKM on September 9, 2009
You know you’ve entered online submissive ground when everyone you don’t know starts to refer to you as sister. It’s been years since I’ve ‘lived’ online but this is something that has always irked me. Recently on FetLife I saw a question that had an interesting twist to the whole sister submissive thing that I’d [...]
Posted in Online Submission | Tagged BDSM, blind faith, comfort, D/s, danger, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, family, fantasy, fetlife, friends, Gor, grace, guest post, health, help, lifestyle, nurtured, online, Online Submission, opinion, perfect world, poly, preference, questions, real life, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, share, sister, sister sub, standing, submission, submissive, support, understanding, value |
By lunaKM on September 5, 2009
This week’s video post is about an issue that needs more awareness. I had someone ask me for some advice through my email the other day and it went something like this: I just started exploring my kinky side and I’ve only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, advice, ask me, assistance, assistance programs, BDSM, cons, consensual, danger, Dom, domestic violence awareness, domestic violence awareness month, domestic violence project, email, family, fear, help, kinky, kinky side, leather, national domestic violence awareness month, national leather association, needs, NLA-I DVP, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, Service, share, submission, submissive, support, value |
By lunaKM on August 27, 2009
Our first chat was a great success. Everyone gave permission to post the transcript and continue the conversation here. I loved every minute of interesting conversation. Read and enjoy! <~luna[KM]> Alright, let’s get started. If you haven’t figured out, I’m luna. I started the site in January after I got tired of not finding what [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged abuse, acceptance, BDSM, BDSM and sex, Bondage, book, chat, chat night, community, connection, cons, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, email, experience, fantasy, fear, focus, Impact, impact play, information, IRC, kink acceptance, kinky, lifestyle, love, masochist, online, opinion, owned, play, play parties, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, scene, scening, separation, Service, sex, sexual encounters, share, sharing, spirit, spiritual, standing, stereotype, submission, submissive chat, support, transcript, understanding, wants |
By lunaKM on August 11, 2009
I got quite a few wonderful responses in my email about addictions after I posted about my own vice. Some of you have allowed me to share your thoughts here for everyone to read. Thank you so much for sharing your stories. I know that someone will be touched by them; I know I have. [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged 24/7, addictions, cigarettes, clean, cons, control, Dom, email, encouraging words, everyday struggle, family, food addiction, guilt, health, help, journey, relationship, rt, Service, share, sharing, stress, submissive, suggestions, support, wants |
By lunaKM on July 28, 2009
Those of you who read my blog already know this, but for most of you this will be news. I have an addiction. At the end of last month I came to the realization that I am a binge eater and secret eater. I’m addicted to food and the way it makes me feel. While [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty, Service | Tagged addictions, choice, confession, cons, control, D/s, dynamic, eating disorder, emotions, experience, health, help, love, micromanagement, RACK, recovery, relationship, rt, rules, Service, submission, submissive, support |
By lunaKM on May 20, 2009
Today’s BDSM lifestyle practicioners thrive on real experiences to help them learn and grow within thier own personal choices. Many books written for the beginner are not so filled with real life stories as Different Loving. I chose to review this book here because I know I learned more about myself and what I wanted [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged activities, amazon.com, BDSM, bdsm books, bdsm lifestyle, beginning bdsm, body modification, book, books, choice, choices, D/s, Dom, Dominance, educational view, experience, family, fantasy, fetishism, focus, gender, Gloria Brahme, help, history, information, interview, jon jacobs, learned, lifestyle, personal choices, quotes, real life, recommended reading, relationship, review, rt, scene, sex, sexual curiosity, sexual dominance, share, submission, support, victorian roots, William Brahme |
By lunaKM on May 16, 2009
Approaching your friends with something as private and sensitive as your sexual interests or lifestyle ideas maybe a decision you have to make sooner or later the further you get into your kinky habits. Your friends are your support system in all other ways of your life, but are they able to handle the new [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, BDSM, choice, choices, comfort, cons, experience, friends, information, kinky, kinky side, lifestyle, myths, outting yourself, personal choices, personal thoughts, play, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, sex, sexual interests, share, sharing, submissive, support, telling friends, valid questions |
By lunaKM on May 14, 2009
Getting in trouble. We’ve all been there a time or two. It comes with learning and training new things as well as changing behaviors. Our Dominants generally don’t derive any pleasure out of punishing us and the guilt we put on ourselves can be more damaging than the misdeed in the first place. Allowing that [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, attitude, behavior patterns, carte blanche, changing, changing behavior, clean, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, dominants, energy, experience, focus, guilt, help, journey, learned, learning, Mindset, needs, normal, novice, play, progress, punishment, punishments, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, support, training, trust, wants |
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By lunaKM on April 21, 2009
Today’s post in the two week project here at Submissive Guide is focused on kneeling. Do you kneel in front of your Dominant partner at any point of your service? Is there a specific way to do that? For someone new to BDSM, it is common to think you must kneel a lot of the [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, BDSM, comfort, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, favorite, focus, grace, hands, kneeling, learning, online, play, Playtime, positions, real life, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, short, slave positions, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions, support |
By lunaKM on April 17, 2009
A question I see asked all the time is “how can I be a better submissive?” Here are a few things you can do to make your submission and service better without a lot of work. 1. Move with purpose. If you have been asked to fetch something or approach your Dominant, be precise in [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 7 things, advice, ceremony, comfort, Dom, dominant, fidgeting, grace, growth, help, improvements, improvisation, information, learning, love, mantra, meditation, movement, natural, play, preparedness, pride, purpose, rt, self-awareness, Service, serving, sex, share, skills, speech, submission, submissive, support, tasks |
By lunaKM on April 9, 2009
A couple week’s ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions | Tagged Aria, balance, comfort, communication, control, discussion, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, event, events, family, friends, guest post, help, jealousy, limits, love, needs, partners, poly, polyamorous, polyamory, relationship, Relationships, review, roundtable discussion, rt, rules, schedules, security, series, share, structure, submissive, support, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
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