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SubWise #8: Serving in Public – Participation Request
Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response. Examples: MyDungeonSpace, LetMeServe, LifeKink… etc.
- Send me an email or use the form below to let me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Please repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on March 19th so all submissions should be received by March 18th at midnight CDT. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
Serving in Public: Whether it’s at work or a sit down restaurant, how do you disguise or enhance your service so that it flies under the radar of the everyday folks we interact with?
Submit Your Post!
Send me an email using the form below to submit your blog post to SubWise #8.
SubWise #7 – Romance
Last week I asked you to talk all about romance in D/s relationships. Here are the submissions I received. There is some excellent thoughts here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments!
(Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.)
The conversation isn’t over. If you would like to share your thoughts, please do so in the comments!
SubWise #7: Romance – Participation Request
Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response. Examples: MyDungeonSpace, LetMeServe, LifeKink… etc.
- Send me an email or use the form below to let me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Please repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on February 22nd so all submissions should be received by February 21st at midnight CDT. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
Romance in D/s Relationships: What do you consider romantic? How is romance alive in your dynamic? Is it different than if you were in a vanilla relationship?
Submit Your Post!
Send me an email using the form below to submit your blog post to SubWise #7.
The Myth of a Slut
February 1, 2010 by Guest Author
Filed under Sex and Sexuality
This is a guest post by Slut M as a response to SubWise #6 about BDSM Myths.
According to the mythological story, a slut is a downtrodden woman who by nature or by circumstances is propelled to debase her body in sexual desires. And so the story goes: these sexual desires control her and her behavior is based on sexual impulses with no thought to consequences or ethics. A slut cannot take her place in rational society, relegated to a shadowy existence because no decent man, woman or child would or could relate to a woman who cannot control her sexual desires. A slut is always a rejected woman who no man would acknowledge as being in relationship with her. A slut has given up on her own morality and therefore has no right to insist on kindness, respect or love. She cannot be redeemed; her broken spirit must accept this invisible deformity that manifests itself by insatiable desire for sexual activity. She is a glutton for sex.
The myth instructs our young women who blossom with joy and excitement as their first sexual feelings begin to surface….control your feelings or you could become a slut. Adolescent girls that become school sluts are reviled by their peers all because they like sex. So the hidden slut emerges in adolescence. Girls and boys who suppress their powerful sexual desires and will eventually lose touch with that part of themselves. The hidden slut becomes the unknown part of the self and yet remains to propel and motivate the slut as he or she matures and experiences life with all its joys, disappointments and pain. The slut makes incorrect choices and learns to live without sexual passion and release. The slut is locked in the soul and may remain hidden throughout one’s life.
BDSM offers a key to unlock the slutty soul. Our sluts are people who mature to a level of sexual freedom with dignity and ethics. Sexual feelings find expression instead of suppression. The body, mind and soul find comfort in sexual intimacy that flows to and from their partners. The slut is not confined by gender, age or experience. A slut is giving, using his or her sexual energy to satisfy their partners and bring pleasure to those who embrace sluttiness as a virtue. To be called a slut is a compliment in the BDSM world. A slut is a giver who enjoys releasing sexual passion for the fulfillment and pleasure of others who can reciprocate in the exchange of intimacy in either BDSM or vanilla play.
A slut is dominant or submissive with the overwhelming desire to experience oneness with another by joining bodies in sexual play. A slut can achieve self-actualization in the scene by embracing his or her true nature for the mutual benefit of partners. Play reaches a spiritual level as emotional doors are opened, seen, and embraced instead of feared as the myth would have us believe. Joy, release, and contentment flow through other aspects of life among family, friends and the work environment because the slut knows where he or she belongs. BDSM offers a profound acceptance of the self through the expression of sexual passion that in turn enriches ones entire life and future experiences and decisions.
Slut M is a submissive who entered the scene in July 2008 by receiving her first spanking from her Dominant. She and her Dominant have been pursuing a M/s relationship since then and expect to fully achieve this status in the future. Otherwise, she is single-parent raising 2 teens and working.
photo by ComeilMare
SubWise #6: Myth Busting
Last week I asked you to talk all about BDSM Myths. Here are the submissions I received. There is some excellent thoughts here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments!
(Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.)
The conversation isn’t over. If you would like to share your advice, please do so in the comments!
SubWise #6: Myth Busting – Participation Request
Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response. Examples: MyDungeonSpace, LetMeServe, LifeKink… etc.
- Send me an email or use the form below to let me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Please repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on January 27th so all submissions should be received by January 26th at midnight CDT. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
BDSM Myths: What myth(s) do you know about pertaining to BDSM? What is the truth behind the myth? Why should it be dispelled?
Submit Your Post!
SubWise #5: A Year’s Reflection
Last week I asked you to talk about your reflections on the year and your progress with submission. Here are the submissions I received. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments!
(Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.)
The conversation isn’t over. If you would like to share your advice, please do so in the comments!
SubWise #5: A Year’s Reflection – Participation Request
Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response. Examples: MyDungeonSpace, LetMeServe, LifeKink… etc.
- Send me an email letting me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Please repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on December 23rd so all submissions should be received by December 22nd at midnight CDT. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
Reflecting in the past year, how have you progressed in your submission? What challenges have you overcome and what others are you still working on?
SubWise #4: Favorite Scene Memory
Last week I asked you to talk about your favorite scene memory. Here are the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments!
(Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.)
The conversation isn’t over. If you would like to share your advice, please do so in the comments!
SubWise #4: Favorite Scene Memory – Particpation Request
Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response. Examples: MyDungeonSpace, LetMeServe, LifeKink… etc.
- Send me an email letting me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Please repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on November 25th so all submissions should be received by November 24th at midnight CST. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
What is your favorite scene memory?
SubWise #3: Ease of Obedience
Last week I asked you to talk about the easiness of obedience to you. Here are the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments!
(Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.)
The conversation isn’t over. If you would like to share your advice, please do so in the comments!
SubWise #3: Ease of Obedience – Participation Request
Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response. Examples: MyDungeonSpace, LetMeServe, LifeKink… etc.
- Send me an email letting me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Please repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on October 28th so all submissions should be received by October 27th at midnight CST. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
Do you find obedience to be easy for you? Why or why not?
SubWise #2: Advice You Swear By
Last week I asked you to share some advice that you live by or love passing on to novices because it worked so well for you. Here’s the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments!
Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
The conversation isn’t over. If you would like to share your advice, please do so in the comments!
SubWise #2: Advice You Swear By – Participation Request
This is the second SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response.
- Send me an email letting me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on August 28th so all submissions should be received by August 28th at midnight CST. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
What is some advice that was given to you that really helped you explore your submission that you swear by now? Why has it helped you?
OR
What advice would you give a novice that you wish someone would have given to you? What is the back story behind why you needed that advice?
SubWise #1: Your Personal Submission
Last week I asked you to write in your own blogs and journals about your personal submission. As a reminder, here’s the question:
Define your personal submission. Tell us what submission means to you and how your perfect submissive life would be like if there were no obstacles in the way.
I loved the answers I got. Here’s the list of those who participated. Please go read the answers, make some friends and leave comments!
Time isn’t up! If you want to leave your own response to this question, please feel free to do so in the comments.
SubWise #1: Your Personal Submission – Participation Request
It’s time for you to participate! This is a topic carnival. I’m sure that many of you have participated in these before. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:
- Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your writing section. Other communities also have journal areas where you can post your response.
- Send me an email letting me know where to find your post about the topic. I need the URL to the post, not the link to your home page of the blog.
- Repost the list of posts within one week of when they are published on this site.
I’m going to give you one week to write and submit your response. The topic carnival will be published on August 28th so all submissions should be received by August 26th at midnight CST. Please feel free to let your friends know about this carnival. The more people that participate the better!
Okay so the topic you will be writing about is:
Define your personal submission. Tell us what submission means to you and how your perfect submissive life would be like if there were no obstacles in the way.
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