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Submission Isn’t Easy-Nor for Your Convenience

The other day in a submissive’s group I’m in on Facebook, a member made a post about something her dominant wanted her to do, yet she was absolutely 100% against doing and was looking for help on how to get past her unwillingness. There were several comments and there was one in particular that caught [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Personal Growth
Submitting While One of You is Sick

Submitting While One of You is Sick

Maintaining your role as a sub in the middle of a scene is pretty easy to do, but the conversion from situational submissive to full-time sub can present a number of fairly interesting challenges as you settle into your full-time role. One of the strangest full time submitting challenges that I’ve found is dealing with [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
Stress Overpowering the Dynamic – Submissive Mediation Monday

Stress Overpowering the Dynamic – Submissive Mediation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. We all can handle [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Defining Sub Space

Defining Sub Space

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Subspace – This term generally is used to describe a moderate to deep trancelike condition experienced by persons in the submissive position in a D/s relationship during interaction with the person in the [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Ask lunaKM – Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Hello Luna, Just have been wondering something lately and I was hoping you could help out. Is it possible to be someone’s submissive if there’s one thing you just cannot give up control over? I am an incredibly picky eater and it’s actually my biggest fear in life to try new foods. I know it’s [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – How do I get physical Dominance when I’m stronger?

Ask lunaKM – How do I get physical Dominance when I’m stronger?

Heya! I’m a martial artist (aikido / jiu jitsu) and a sub. I am strongly attracted to my Dom despite his lack of fitness, however whenever he holds me down I can easily push him off if I want to, etc. Even tied up I can often escape. I have no wish to be a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Can I make it in this lifestyle?

Ask lunaKM – Can I make it in this lifestyle?

I was curious about bdsm before I knew what it was. I knew I liked being spanked, being told what to do, etc. I started looking into bdsm but haven’t mentioned it to my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m a weird, for lack of a better word. Although he knows [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Self-Esteem in Submissives: Self-Talk, Affirmations and Self-Love

Self-Esteem in Submissives: Self-Talk, Affirmations and Self-Love

This is a guest post by an unknown author. It was found and marked as part of the public domain. Self-esteem relates to how you feel about yourself, whether you like yourself. Being submissive is not about being a “doormat” or a “lesser person”. But the sad thing is, many go through life feeling less [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn’t that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it’s that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

After writing “Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved, or is thinking of becoming involved, [...]

11 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Although many submissive individuals would say that they were born submissive personalities, there are some who found themselves surprised by how much they enjoyed being the submissive partner in their relationships. By nature, I am not a submissive person. I was taught from a very early age to have my own opinions and to assert [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Ask lunaKM – Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

Today’s question is about handling when the D/s is shelved due to external (or internal) stress. Hi Luna, I wanted to ask you about when a relationship is going through a rough patch, and neither partner can seem to find it within them to fulfill their previous D/s roles. My Sir is dealing with a [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

When I realized that my previous article on Sub Frenzy didn’t give you any advice on how to tackle it head on I knew I just had to get an article to you about how to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush. What is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant

7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant

When you are looking for a Dominant for the first, or last, time you have a few reasons to wonder if the person you see is compatible with you. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time getting to know someone if they are not going to be your perfect, or almost [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

When I was twenty, I met my first dominant in person. I was extremely excited and nervous about this because for months before meeting in person, we had talked a great deal through emails, online chatting services, and phone calls. The weekend he and I had planned to meet was over Memorial Day weekend. This [...]

20 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
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