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By SehAnru on June 15, 2010
I have to say; probably the worst thing you can do to a writer is ask him or her to write about him or herself. It is the number one reason why I am not writing an autobiography, okay.. yet. We are hyper critical about ourselves in that manner. But I am always open to [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged Alpha, facebook, fetlife, Irish, questions, SehAnru, submissive, Writer |
By lunaKM on June 2, 2010
Continuing my four-part series on types of submission today will be about positional service. As a reminder, the forms of submission are: Transactional Devotional Positional Situational Positional service is probably the most prevalent in non-D/s settings. This is essentially customer service; you are in a position to serve and so you serve. The service is [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged chauffeur, customer service, domestic service, expectations, household, positional service, series, Service, situational service, submissive, transactional service |
By lunaKM on April 30, 2010
Adventures in the dating sphere should come with a manual; especially if you are kinky. The Kinky Girl’s Guide to Dating by Luna Grey is a perfect compliment to the novice submissive trying to find their way through dating and first experiences in BDSM. The usual dating rules don’t apply to kinky situations and this [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, bedside companion, book review, discovery, greenery press, guide to dating, kinky girl's guide, Luna Grey, resource books, self-discovery, submissive |
By lunaKM on March 1, 2010
As so many bloggers are known to do, I am opening up this site for your questions… even the personal ones. March is the month known in a small sphere as Question Month! If you have a question about submission, your own struggles or anything to do with BDSM this is your chance. I’ll also [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged advice, ask luna, ask me, BDSM, email, experience, question month, questions, submission, submissive |
By nan {SL} on February 26, 2010
Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind [...]
Posted in Mindset, Rituals and Routines, Service, Submissive Positions | Tagged connection, mind-space, Mindset, purpose, reminder of place, ritual, rituals, significance, submissive, submissive mindset |
By nan {SL} on February 16, 2010
I would like to introduce myself to readers of The Submissive Guide. My name is nan, and I am submissive to SirLancelot. On FetLife I am Naya-girl. (“Naya” is what Master and I call the single tail whip that I am so very fond of). Together SirLancelot and I run a munch at a lovely [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged contributors, introduction, nan{SL}, submissive |
By Guest Author on February 1, 2010
This is a guest post by Slut M as a response to SubWise #6 about BDSM Myths. According to the mythological story, a slut is a downtrodden woman who by nature or by circumstances is propelled to debase her body in sexual desires. And so the story goes: these sexual desires control her and her [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged bdsm myths, desires, fulfillment, guest post, myth of a slut, myths, Slut M, slut myth, submissive, SubWise |
By Guest Author on January 15, 2010
This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing relationship.You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged activities, adult nursing relationship, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, connection, cons, dani, erotic lactation, feature series, fetlife, guest post, information, journey, kinky, love, play, relationship, rt, sex, submissive, tall |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
By lunaKM on January 6, 2010
One of every submissive’s first experiences happens to be in the bedroom or dungeon. That’s why this month I’d like to focus on the joys and pleasures of the things we can explore during scenes and play. The next few weeks we’ll be hearing about a variety of BDSM activities. Just about every post is [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, caning, dani, experience, favorite, feature series, focus, guest post, guest posts, Gwendolyn, Impact, impact play, Nadia West, play, Playtime, scene, series, submissive, writing |
By lunaKM on January 5, 2010
A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 2WBSP, 7 things, aftercare, Aria, bath, bathing, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm lifestyle, best of 2009, best of submissiveguide, Best Submissive Blogs, blogs, book, bottom, checklist, choice, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, e-book, guest post, help, how-to, human pet, journaling, kajira, learned, learning, lifestyle, masochist, newsletter, novice, novices, online, Online Submission, opinion, owned, pet play, pets, play, positions, resume, ritual, rituals, rosary, rt, rules, scene, Service, skylerpet, slave, slave training, sub drop, submission, submissive, submissive blogs, Submissive Positions, top posts, topping from the bottom, training, Training Resume, two dominants, websites, writing |
By lunaKM on January 4, 2010
To herald in the New Year I have been able to collect guest posts from some of the best voices in submission to share with you what it’s like to explore and experience their favorite play activities. Over the next few weeks we will learn about flogging and caning, rope bondage and fire play and [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play feature, bdsm series, Bondage, caning, Dom, dominant, email, experience, favorite, feature series, fire play, guest post, guest post opportunities, guest posts, help, online, orgasm denial, piercing, play, recovery, review, rt, series, share, short, sorry, spanking, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on January 2, 2010
This week’s video post is about velcro collars. To submissives, a collar is one of the most important things they have. It is a symbol of their commitment, their service and their adoration of a special someone. In most situations, the offering or begging of a collar is not taken lightly. The weight of the [...]
Posted in Video Posts | Tagged begging, cheapen, collars, commitment, community, cons, disposable, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, hands, Impact, important things, lifetime, marriage, mates, online, opinion, partners, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, Service, submissive, symbolism, value, velcro collars |
By lunaKM on December 23, 2009
Happy Holidays everyone! Submissive Guide is going on a break for the holiday season from tomorrow through the 1st of the year. New posts will resume January 4th, celebrating one full year of Submissive Guide. It’s been an amazing year. Time for a bit of rest. See everyone then and please have a peaceful and [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged holiday, holiday break, on a break, resume, submissive, vacation |
By lunaKM on December 21, 2009
This month I dived into a book full of controversy with its approach to living intimately with your husband (or partner). I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I didn’t read it to find the reason for the argument between feminists and the author of the book’s ideas. I read it to see what [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, book review, books, comfort, control, controversy, D/s, feminine, feminist movement, gender, gratitude, help, husband and wife, intimacy, intimate marriage, Laura Doyle, marriage, movement, receiving graciously, relationship, Relationships, review, roles, rt, self help book, self-care, sex, shift, submission, submissive, suggestions, surrender, Surrendered Wife, surrendering, tasks, traditions |
By lunaKM on December 16, 2009
“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged BDSM, blogs, body parts, cons, corsets, desires, development, Dom, dominant, favorite, fetishes, fetishism, fetishist, foot fetish, gender, hands, health, latex, learning, leather, love, obsession, partialism, piercing, play, preference, relationship, role play, rt, safe, sex, sexual fetishes, sexual fetishism, share, size, speech, standing, stimulus, stress, submissive, understanding, what is a fetish, worship |
By lunaKM on December 14, 2009
Submissive Guide is run by your donations, and affiliate purchases. I’m looking ahead into my 2nd year providing quality writing that is meant to help submissives everywhere learn about themselves and the services they wish to provide. I could use your help. If you find Submissive Guide to be a valuable resource, please consider making [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged BDSM, book, books, cons, contest, donate via paypal, donations, giveaway, help, love, review, Service, submissive, writing |
By Guest Author on December 9, 2009
This post is another guest post by Skylerpet. You can read her other posts here. She’s wants to help us all get through the holidays with less stress. Here’s some tips to help you. If you have other tips for holiday stress, please leave them in the comments! With the holiday season in full swing, [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged 24/7, bath, book, chat, christmas, Christmas tips, clean, D/s, dates, disposable, email, family, family visits, guest post, hands, health, help, holiday, holiday hints, holiday stress, learned, lifestyle, pet play, play, rt, safe, Safety, share, skylerpet, stress, submissive, tips, wants |
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