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Ask Submissive Guide – Teased With No Relief

Ask Submissive Guide – Teased With No Relief

Dear SG, My Dominant has a habit of teasing me without any following ‘relief’. He will get my motor running and then leave me all riled up. He gets busy with something else. Sometimes this teasing can go on for weeks, even months because of his busy lifestyle. How can I cope with the frustration?! [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

When I talk about my life as a kinkster, I talk about being a parent of two kids. It shocks a lot of people to know I’m in a 24/7 D/s relationship and a parent. A lot of people ask, “How can you be a parent and a submissive?” I always imagine there’s a bit [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Subguide – Worried I’m Not Enough

Ask Subguide – Worried I’m Not Enough

Dear SG,I’m in love with my Master. That’s natural right? Over a decade with this man. He’s in love with me as well but I’m not so sure that I’m what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. Is that fair? That because of his [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submissive vs. Slave

Submissive vs. Slave

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This distinction appears muddled, misunderstood and generalized by a great number of the people who I converse with. First I would like to make a point. Language at it’s best shifts from area [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask Submissive Guide: A Grieving Dominant and a Submissive’s Needs

Ask Submissive Guide: A Grieving Dominant and a Submissive’s Needs

My Dom/Master/Daddy of many years has recently suffered a loss of a child. We are both (or so I thought) into this dynamic for the long haul. He recently has become more distant and I have tried talking to him and told him what I need to keep me happy. I don’t hear back from [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask Submissive Guide – Taking Care of Your Dominant from a Distance

Ask Submissive Guide – Taking Care of Your Dominant from a Distance

Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this question for a reader! Dear lunaKM, I’m starting to enter a long distance d/s relationship as a sub. You have a lot of excellent articles about self aftercare for subs in ldrs, which I’ve made good use of, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for how [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

I’ve been a practicing submissive for roughly five years now; most of that time has been in a long distance capacity, but regardless, my role as a sub has played an integral part in shaping my role in my relationship with the person who is not only my Dominant, but (I hope) my life mate. [...]

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Despite being commonplace in kinky relationships, explaining the appeal of being spanked to someone who is new to the scene or curious about it can be difficult. There is often the immediate assumption that being spanked is enjoyable because the sub is masochistic, and while not entirely untrue, I can’t in good conscience say that [...]

17 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

How to Keep Yourself From Being Overwhelmed in a Service Dynamic

This is a guest post by Tilari of ServiceSubmissive.com written for the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/11/15 Service in a power exchange dynamic can be a very intense and involved experience, especially when you’re in a 24/7 dynamic and “always on.” You have a to-do list that is starting to hit triple digits, you’re pretty sure you [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Service
Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity

Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity

Everyday you go to work and are in charge of people, or you have a management position. Perhaps you just feel that being in control outside of the home is comfortable for you. But you come home to submit.  Or maybe you are an extroverted person and love interacting socially but with the right person [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Sub or slave; He says I’m slave, I say I’m sub, who’s right?

Ask lunaKM – Sub or slave; He says I’m slave, I say I’m sub, who’s right?

Thank you so much for this site!  I am new to the world as I have always been vanilla.  I met a man who is a dom and he started training me without me realizing it.  He did not brain wash me and I am a strong willed person, but I am totally hooked!  I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Your Kink is Not my Kink – Understanding Other People’s Kinks

The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics
Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Play and Sex, Reviews
Nobody’s Perfect-Including Your Dominant!

Nobody’s Perfect-Including Your Dominant!

Not that long ago, I found myself reading  an article on Dominant Guide written by Morgan, who is the leading contributor but also an absolutely amazing woman. I’m not bragging about this article because I love the author, but because of what she was writing about. For those of you who haven’t clicked the hyperlink [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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