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The Importance of Being Authentic

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

He’s in love with me as well but I’m not so sure that I’m what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. As his submissive /slave, is it wrong for me to decide this for him? Tell him that I’m no longer what he needs. Or do I sit back and watch the man I love, my Master, struggle internally?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Being a Little Doesn’t Come with a Size or Age Limitation

The bottom line is, you’re never too old, too heavy, too tall, or too short to be who you really are.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset
Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Here’s what has helped Mina learn about jealousy in a mono/poly relationship – it just might help you too.

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

It seems that no matter how long you’ve been doing this thing we call submission, there are times of rebellion, confusion, frustration and just not getting it right.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
Feeling Less Submissive – Submissive Mediation Monday

Feeling Less Submissive – Submissive Mediation Monday

Some days I just don’t feel connected to my submission, that something is lacking and I’m less than I was the day before.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

There are days where my biological age kinda screws with my little age. This is something that all littles go through.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. But now I can say that I actually enjoy them.

19 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Sex and Sexuality
On Perfectionism as a Submissive

On Perfectionism as a Submissive

None of us have it together. None of us are perfect. But we can learn from each other, cheer each other on when we falter and get inspired by our successes.

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Reconnecting When I Feel A Disconnect with My Submission

Reconnecting When I Feel A Disconnect with My Submission

No matter where I am in my submissive journey I find times where it’s harder to submit than others.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Being Submissive in a Vanilla World and How to Balance it Out

Being Submissive in a Vanilla World and How to Balance it Out

Even though we can’t always spend our days chained to the bed or sitting at our owner’s feet, there’s always a way to still show your submission in the vanilla world.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Service
The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/12/13 I’ve noticed a lot of questions in FetLife recently (and almost always) about how to maintain the mindset in a 24/7 relationship. I’ve not responded to these there because I’ve created this article as my reply. The advice that the people have received may or may not help them. [...]

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

13 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Having Enough Love for More than Just One Partner

Having Enough Love for More than Just One Partner

I was on Tumblr one morning and I came across a picture of Johnny Depp and something he had said. Now, I had seen this particular picture several times and thought nothing of it in the past, but this last time I stumbled across it, I got thinking. The more I thought about this quote, [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

Welcome kallista to Submissive Guide contributors! It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Like anyone else who’s walking the submissive path, I struggle from time to time. Maybe more times than I really care to admit. There are times where Daddy asks things of me, that I don’t quite want to do or I feel like I don’t have a submissive bone in my body and that makes [...]

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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