By lunaKM on March 3, 2010
In January I had a poll in the sidebar asking readers like you what books you’d like to see me review for Submissive Guide. The overwhelming response was that you wanted me to review The Submissive Activity Book: Building Blocks To Better Service by Shannon Reilly. I received the 184 page book without expectations of [...]
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By lunaKM on November 6, 2009
When you get married, you have to legally sign a document attesting to your decision to be married. The legal document can come in many forms but most have a brief section about what each party declares for the union, how they will treat each other and how commitment will be displayed (change of names [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged Aria, BDSM, book, commitment, connection, cons, consensual, contracts, control, D/s, D/s contracts, Dom, Domme, dress, experience, IRC, learning, lifestyle, links, m/s, play, protocol, purpose, relationship, renewable contracts, ritual, rt, rules, short, slave, slavery, spirit, spiritual, structure, submission, switch |
By lunaKM on May 19, 2009
This week’s video is about online training and submission. The world of online Dominance and submission is riddled with skepticism and disbelief that anyone can really live and enjoy a relationship online. The fact of it all is that there are an endless numbers of people experiencing a form of D/s called cyber D/s. Whether [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Video Posts | Tagged BDSM, chat, chat room, chat rooms, D/s, discipline, Dom, Dominance, dominant, email, experience, grooming, learned, learning, mentor, online, online D/s, online dominance, online training, partners, play, questions, relationship, Relationships, ritual, role play, rt, rules, safe, serving, sex, structure, Study, submission, submissive, tasks, training, trust, value, websites |
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By lunaKM on April 27, 2009
Welcome to another day of learning and enhancing submissive positions. Today we are going to cover food service etiquette. Some of this may be familiar to you. If this is the case, try to enhance it and make it more personal and unique to your relationship. If you’ve ever been to a more formal restaurant [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, amazon.com, book, books, D/s, Dom, dominant, essays, etiquette, experience, food service, formal dinners, grace, learning, m/s, positions, protocol, relationship, Resources, rt, rules, Service, serving, setting the table, share, SSC, structure, submissive, Submissive Positions, successful waitressing, tips, training, tricks |
By lunaKM on April 9, 2009
A couple week’s ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions | Tagged Aria, balance, comfort, communication, control, discussion, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, event, events, family, friends, guest post, help, jealousy, limits, love, needs, partners, poly, polyamorous, polyamory, relationship, Relationships, review, roundtable discussion, rt, rules, schedules, security, series, share, structure, submissive, support, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on April 8, 2009
I’m a submissive that needs structure. Submissives all around will identify with either discipline, obedience, structure or rules or perhaps more than one. With structure can come rules and that’s how my submission runs in our dynamic. I serve my Master by following his rules that govern the structure of my day. It works best [...]
Posted in Mindset, Service | Tagged 24/7, D/s, discipline, Dom, dynamic, needs, obedience, relationship, routine, rt, rules, Service, slave, structure, submission, submissive, value, what to wear |
By lunaKM on April 4, 2009
The word ‘training’ is a stumbling block for many novices and experienced submissives alike. The reason for this is that so many define training as the organized learning of behavior and activities in structured sessions or steps and that once complete, your training is complete. Let’s dispel that myth right now. Submissive and slave training [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Service | Tagged activities, attitude, basics, BDSM, D/s, definitions, Dom, dominant, dominants, dynamic, experience, learned, learning, melly, needs, novice, novices, relationship, rt, Service, slave, slave training, specifics, structure, submissive, submissive training, training |
By lunaKM on March 18, 2009
Continuing the work on your training resume, I’d like to talk about mapping out how you dream of your submission being. This is a discussion of ideals and dreams. You can be as fanciful as you want right now, we will narrow things down as we go along. There are 3 things I’d like to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Submission, Training Resume | Tagged activities, D/s, desires, discipline, discussion, dreams, dynamic, dynamics, focus, Gor, help, ideals, information, kinky, learning, links, mind maps, needs, online, play, poly, protocol, punishment, relationship, Relationships, resume, ritual, rituals, routine, rt, rules, Service, skills, slave, slavery, structure, submission, submissive, training, Training Resume, wants |
By lunaKM on February 27, 2009
The most frequent question I get asked is what is about rituals; what are they, how do I start one, are they hard, do they help with your submission, etc. They really aren’t that difficult once you understand what they are. There’s no sacred rites or incantations or anything, unless that is what you want. [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines, Service | Tagged amazon.com, BDSM, blogs, book, books, ceremony, collaring, D/s, desires, Dom, dominant, Domme, etiquette, female, Gor, help, leather, links, love, m/s, meditation, Mindset, online, protocol, resume, ritual, rituals, rosary, rt, rules, slave, stress, structure, submission, submissive, symbols, training |
A good book can help you learn more about yourself and your submission or enhance a skill you have always wanted to learn. Here is a growing list of books to help you on the way. Do you have a suggestion for a book listed here? Please email me at subguide@gmail.com. Thank you. View Submissive [...]
By lunaKM on February 11, 2009
Your Training Resume is a folder or binder with all of your training, history and experience in it, so that you can give it to a prospective Dominant or to keep a training history for yourself. It’s a novel concept for submissives and one that I’ve not seen so far. Part of the Resume is [...]
Posted in Training Resume | Tagged clean, cleaning, completed training, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, food service, fulfillment, help, history, learned, protocol, recording your history, resume, rt, Service, sex, structure, submissive, training, training history, Training Resume, writing |
By lunaKM on January 19, 2009
As a point of personal opinion I’d like to define the differences between very basic terms so that there is no confusion as to who I am referring to when I mention either of these terms. I write this guide in my perspective and provide my mentorship and guidance with these terms clearly defined for [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged basics, bottom, control, D/s, definitions, difference in terms, discussion, Dom, dominant, limits, masochist, mentor, opinion, pets, play, progress, relationship, roles, rt, rules, safe, scene, Service, share, slave, structure, submission, submissive, titles, toy, toys, viewpoints |
Are you looking for additional content for your blog or site? Look no further! I’m so excited about my blog that I want to share it with the world. I’ve decided to give away a lot of my best content and try to connect with as many new bloggers as possible. If you are interested [...]
By lunaKM on December 30, 2008
A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Much like the training folders mentioned in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou you can build a file on yourself to offer your current or future dominant partner(s). Throughout [...]
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By lunaKM on December 24, 2008
Continuing the Wants and Needs Series, this essay is about knowing the difference between wants and needs. If you would like to read the previous essay, please read “Know What You Want, Learn What You Need.” The difference between wants and needs can be answered in one basic question. Is this something you can live [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Submission | Tagged balance, basics, clothing, D/s, desires, discipline, happiness, love, needs, personal development, relationship, Relationships, resume, rt, rules, series, share, structure, submission, submissive, training, Training Resume, wants |
By lunaKM on December 22, 2008
When someone becomes a submissive for the first time and finds a dominant the first words I generally hear them say is that they like being of service or they like serving. When asked what it is about service that they enjoy it tends to boil down to sex and play. There is far more [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged activities, Aria, bath, bathing, book, chat, clean, cleaning, connection, control, Dom, Domestics, dominant, dominant partner, email, event, family, fantasy, fulfillment, grooming, happiness, health, help, masochist, needs, obedience, opinion, organization, pets, play, purpose, relationship, Relationships, resume, rt, series, Service, serving, sex, share, shaving, skills, standing, structure, submission, submissive, tasks, understanding, wants |
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This month I'd like to feature Protocols: Handbook for the female slave by Robert Rubel PhD. A book on protocol in a D/s Leather Household.
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