By lunaKM on May 5, 2010
When you engage in playtime with a Dominant your body is the canvas for sensation and pleasure. You can run the gamut of emotions and many of them can take you by surprise. It’s not uncommon even for someone who plays regularly to be shocked by a new reaction to a play activity that they [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged body parts, crying, dizziness, emotions, endorphins, impact play, leatherbutt, pain tolerance, responses, shivers, stress, understanding |
By nan {SL} on March 17, 2010
Has your Dom/me ever tied you in a position where if you move one way this part of your body gets stressed or pulled, and if you move another way, that part of your body gets tugged or pinched? If so, then you have experienced predicament bondage! Predicament bondage can be simple or complex and [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged Bondage, comfort, opposing forces, painful situations, play, predicament bondage, Safety, scene, stress, stressors |
By lunaKM on March 5, 2010
For March Question Month Cilla Noir asks: How do you handle your serious mood swings or when something just “sets you off”? When you go from one end of the spectrum to another – sometimes justified, sometimes not. Normally, when i was on my own, i would just throw a fit. Being back in a [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged acceptable behavior, control, drama queen, emotional extremes, extreme mood swings, mood swings, question month, Resources, stress, stress levels, submissive mindset |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
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By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
By lunaKM on December 18, 2009
I was listening to Mistress Matisse’s Guest Appearance the other day on the Savage Lovecast (Ep 163). She talks about a lot of kinky topics that callers ask Dan Savage. Somewhere near the end there was an interesting comment by Dan where he asked MM if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged advice, BDSM, body language, Bondage, challenges, dreams, friends, geeks, humor, implement, kinky, love, nerds, online, play, rt, sex, stress, Study |
By lunaKM on December 16, 2009
“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged BDSM, blogs, body parts, cons, corsets, desires, development, Dom, dominant, favorite, fetishes, fetishism, fetishist, foot fetish, gender, hands, health, latex, learning, leather, love, obsession, partialism, piercing, play, preference, relationship, role play, rt, safe, sex, sexual fetishes, sexual fetishism, share, size, speech, standing, stimulus, stress, submissive, understanding, what is a fetish, worship |
By Guest Author on December 9, 2009
This post is another guest post by Skylerpet. You can read her other posts here. She’s wants to help us all get through the holidays with less stress. Here’s some tips to help you. If you have other tips for holiday stress, please leave them in the comments! With the holiday season in full swing, [...]
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By lunaKM on November 13, 2009
With Thanksgiving (USA) just around the corner I thought it would be fitting to write about gratitude, and how to express your gratitude to the one you serve. Sure you can say thank you. That’s standard. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank you, but what if you want a few more [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged bath, being thankful, development, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dynamic, focus, gratitude, happiness, help, kneeling, love, normal, online, play, relationship, Relationships, requests, ritual, rituals, rt, rules, Service, setting the table, sex, share, showing appreciation, skills, stress, submission, thanksgiving |
By lunaKM on October 21, 2009
Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines | Tagged BDSM, bdsm fiction, book, books, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, essays, etiquette, event, experience, fantasy, focus, happiness, help, learned, leather, lifestyle, m/s, meditation, Mindset, normal, online, play, progress, protocol, RACK, relationship, review, ritual, routine, rt, rules, scene, sensuous, sex, stress, submission |
By lunaKM on October 15, 2009
lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]
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By lunaKM on October 14, 2009
Being an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged balance, comfort, commitment, cons, control, desires, emotional health, emotional state, emotions, friends, friendships, happiness, health, healthy submissive, help, Impact, memories, mental strength, needs, online, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, stress, submissive, suggestions |
By lunaKM on October 7, 2009
With the holidays right around the corner I wanted to give you some helpful resources to get you started on decorating and planning for family; whether that be meals or traveling. The following list was gathered from Amazon.com Celebrating Home: Decorating for the Holidays and Seasons (Seasons of Cannon Falls) Country Living Merry & Bright: [...]
Posted in Domestics | Tagged amazon.com, book, books, christmas, danae, family, favorite, help, holiday, m/s, Resources, rt, seasonal preparation, Service, stress, submissive, thanksgiving, tips, top ten, traditions |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, aftercare, balance, bath, chat, chat night, comfort, communication, connection, cons, definitions, Dom, Dominance, dress, email, emotional state, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, healing, help, limits, love, munch, normal, play, PMS, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, safe, safewords, scene, separation, serving, share, shower, slave, sorry, spirit, spiritual, stress, Study, sub drop, sub space, submissive chat, subspace, tall, transcript, writing |
By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged acceptance, advice, bath, BDSM, bdsm play, beginning bdsm, blogs, book, communication, cons, consensual, danger, desires, Dom, dominant, information, kajira, learned, needs, negotiation, novice, novices, partners, play, relationship, Relationships, risk, rt, safe, Safety, safewords, sane, security, share, stress, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on September 2, 2009
At the beginning of this blog I wrote about safewords. Just a reminder that a safeword is a signal that ends BDSM play and usually negotiated before play. It’s an excellent starting point but I left a part of it out. There will be occasions during BDSM play where you will be unable to speak. [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm play, bottom, clean, communication, daddy, gags, grace, m/s, newsletter, nonverbal clues, play, restraints, ritual, rt, safe, safe objects, safe words, safewords, scene, Service, sister, slave, stress, submissive, wants |
By lunaKM on August 11, 2009
I got quite a few wonderful responses in my email about addictions after I posted about my own vice. Some of you have allowed me to share your thoughts here for everyone to read. Thank you so much for sharing your stories. I know that someone will be touched by them; I know I have. [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged 24/7, addictions, cigarettes, clean, cons, control, Dom, email, encouraging words, everyday struggle, family, food addiction, guilt, health, help, journey, relationship, rt, Service, share, sharing, stress, submissive, suggestions, support, wants |
By lunaKM on August 5, 2009
I’m personally not a very domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need [...]
Posted in Domestics | Tagged balance, basics, blogs, clean, cleaning, danae, Dom, Domestic Servitude, Domestics, dominant, fantasy, help, internet, learned, learning, links, love, normal, rt, Service, share, single, skills, stress, submission, submissive, tips, washing dishes |
By Guest Author on August 4, 2009
This is a guest post by Christian. He is a switch male of the D/s lifestyle for the past 14 years. For my first post here I am going to write about something I get asked a fair bit. How does one raise kids in a D/s household? As one with several kids I thought [...]
Posted in Relationships, Social Norms | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play, Bondage, Christian, community, D/s, decisions, dress, email, family, female, guest post, help, history, implement, internet, lifestyle, opinion, play, rt, safe, Service, sex, shopping, spanking, stress, submission, submissive, switch, tasks, trust |
By lunaKM on June 19, 2009
When you first start talking to a potential Dominant you go through an initial interview. A lot of times this is just a period where basic questions are asked and your answers help the Dominant gauge just how interested you are in them, how compatible you are with them and what your intelligence level is. [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, experience, good interviews, help, history, interview, limits, preference, preferences, questions, relationship, resume, rt, rules, short, speech, standing, stress, submissive, tips, understanding, wants, what to wear, worship, writing |
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