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The Submissive Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

The Submissive Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

Sometimes you can feel so disconnected with your submission that you begin to question who you are. Here’s my meditation on my personal struggle.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

For fear of angering him I submit and abide by this punishment, leaving me more stressed I have fallen in love with my dom, I am not allowed to call him by name. I feel I m pushed up against a wall at all times. What should I do?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety

About Punishment

Punishment is one of those areas which is not what it seems. Before you can develop tools or methods of punishment you have to look at the concepts behind the issue itself.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Stress Overpowering the Dynamic – Submissive Mediation Monday

Stress Overpowering the Dynamic – Submissive Mediation Monday

We all can handle different levels of stress in our lives. Take some time today to reflect on how you manage stress.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
8 Secrets for Supporting a Stressed Dominant Partner

8 Secrets for Supporting a Stressed Dominant Partner

What can you do when stress overwhelms your Dominant? Here are 8 tips.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Service

How Sub Space Affects Sexual Sensations During Play

What we can all agree on is that subspace alters your senses during play. I’m going to talk about why orgasms fail to happen during subspace and the very tiny minority that can achieve orgasm during subspace.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
How Do I Get My Submissive Focus Back After a D/s Break?

How Do I Get My Submissive Focus Back After a D/s Break?

  Hi there, I understand how hard it can be to come back to D/s after a break. First, I hope you’ve talked with your husband about wanting to get back into the D/s and if he hasn’t taken on his Dom role again then it will be even harder for you to pick up [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement.  However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship – Honesty is Really the Best Policy

Keys to a Successful Relationship – Honesty is Really the Best Policy

This is an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This second article is about the importance that honesty plays in our relationships. The first one is It’s All About Communication I remember growing up, I always heard from the adults around me that honesty [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Sub drop. Declared among submissives as a horrible affliction and the bane of  play and relationships. We try to understand what it happening when it starts to bring us down and if we don’t know what it is can scare us into never playing again. It’s true; sub drop can be bad. For those of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

The words “scene report” always have me first thinking of a crime scene and second of a BDSM scene report. Scene reports can often be requested by some Dominants especially in the early stages of a play relationship. I’m going to cover what they are, how to write one and how they help you and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

Today’s question is about handling when the D/s is shelved due to external (or internal) stress. Hi Luna, I wanted to ask you about when a relationship is going through a rough patch, and neither partner can seem to find it within them to fulfill their previous D/s roles. My Sir is dealing with a [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

When I realized that my previous article on Sub Frenzy didn’t give you any advice on how to tackle it head on I knew I just had to get an article to you about how to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush. What is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

I really don’t know where to start. I am really confused & I don’t know what to do. My Master hasn’t been that ‘masterful’. I have been His sub for almost 5 years. Even when things seem okay. He is constantly in the negative. He is not tending to His personal affairs at all & [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

Can Trust Be Repaired When He’s Caught Cheating?

I am fairly new to the D/s lifestyle as I have been vanilla all my life…..but I feel I was born to be submissive as I am a submissive woman by nature. My Dom of 3 months who is a wonderful man is voyeuristic and a sadist. I felt a disconnect with him a few [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Everything I Know About Submission I Learned from my Cat

Everything I Know About Submission I Learned from my Cat

For the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/3/12 The many lessons in life can be picked up in some of the most unusual places. The other day I was watching my cats and had a sudden realization that they way they live could have lessons for me and my submission if I wanted to see them. The [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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