By lunaKM on December 16, 2009
“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged BDSM, blogs, body parts, cons, corsets, desires, development, Dom, dominant, favorite, fetishes, fetishism, fetishist, foot fetish, gender, hands, health, latex, learning, leather, love, obsession, partialism, piercing, play, preference, relationship, role play, rt, safe, sex, sexual fetishes, sexual fetishism, share, size, speech, standing, stimulus, stress, submissive, understanding, what is a fetish, worship |
By lunaKM on December 7, 2009
When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged basics, BDSM, BDSM and sex, bdsm play, chat, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, energy, experience, intimacy, kinky, kinky side, negotiation, partners, play, play parties, relationship, rt, rules, scene, sex, sexual pleasure, standing, submissive, transcript, understanding |
By lunaKM on November 23, 2009
One of the cornerstone books recommended for submissives and Dominants alike has always been Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy. Once two individual books; Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training with Miss Abernathy, this omnibus has everything you could want in a manual about training submissives. When I first read this book I was [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, books, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, Impact, information, m/s, Miss Abernathy, relationship, review, rt, Service, single, slave, slave training, standing, submissive, training, understanding |
By lunaKM on November 4, 2009
So, you want me to tell you how you can tell if you are submissive or not? Asking someone else if you are submissive is like asking a blind man what color your dress is. Is there some magical online quiz that can say whether you are submissive or slave? Unfortunately no and I don’t [...]
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By lunaKM on October 26, 2009
I’ve been witness to a shocking new trend in relationships lately. Perhaps I’m old school or old fashioned but what I’m seeing in today’s society, and not just the BDSM culture, is the lack of effort in relationships. As I was raised I was taught that something worthwhile wasn’t always easy to achieve and you [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, BDSM, begging, communication, cons, disposable, disposable relationship mentality, disposable relationships, experience, family, happiness, love, marriage, online, questions, recommendations, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, spirit, spiritual, standing, understanding |
By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, books, comfort, commitment, cons, control, decisions, desires, Dom, dominant, dreams, emotions, fantasy, fear, female, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, hands, help, honesty, ideals, journey, kajira, lifestyle, love, misconceptions of Gor, needs, obedience, owned, play, player, purpose, rt, safe, series, sex, slave, sorry, spirit, standing, strengths of kajira, submission, submissive, switch, tall, trust, understanding, value, wants |
By lunaKM on September 9, 2009
You know you’ve entered online submissive ground when everyone you don’t know starts to refer to you as sister. It’s been years since I’ve ‘lived’ online but this is something that has always irked me. Recently on FetLife I saw a question that had an interesting twist to the whole sister submissive thing that I’d [...]
Posted in Online Submission | Tagged BDSM, blind faith, comfort, D/s, danger, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, family, fantasy, fetlife, friends, Gor, grace, guest post, health, help, lifestyle, nurtured, online, Online Submission, opinion, perfect world, poly, preference, questions, real life, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, share, sister, sister sub, standing, submission, submissive, support, understanding, value |
By lunaKM on September 1, 2009
If you have ever wondered how you can get the spanking you’ve always wanted but wasn’t sure how to ask for it, there is a book for you. I was just offered the chance to review a copy of How to Get the Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking for It, Getting It [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Views & More... | Tagged abuse, advice, Aria, blogs, book, books, bottom, caning, choice, clean, desires, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, Dom, e-book, emotions, experience, fear, focus, gender, gender roles, grace, help, history, learning, lifestyle, little girl, love, marks, real life, relationship, Resources, review, roles, rt, safe, series, share, size, spanking, spanking series, standing, tips, training, understanding, Variant Books, Vivian |
By lunaKM on August 27, 2009
Our first chat was a great success. Everyone gave permission to post the transcript and continue the conversation here. I loved every minute of interesting conversation. Read and enjoy! <~luna[KM]> Alright, let’s get started. If you haven’t figured out, I’m luna. I started the site in January after I got tired of not finding what [...]
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By lunaKM on June 29, 2009
This post is by Skylerpet. She’s written several other posts here for Submissive Guide. You can read more of her work on online submission and pet play here. BDSM and D/s. Some see it as the same, I seem them as two very different things. Here, I plan on explaining the how’s and why’s of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, Bondage, caning, chat, comparisons, cons, consensual, D/s, definitions, discipline, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, email, guest post, information, kinky, lifestyle, Masochism, masochist, online, Online Submission, opinion, pet play, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, scene, Service, skylerpet, slave, slavery, spanking, standing, submission, submissive, websites, what is BDSM, what is D/s |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2009
This may seem like a really odd topic to be posting in a submissive blog, but there is reason. I’ve had a question recently from a submissive woman who has been asked on occasion to be assertive and dominant in bed by her Dominant. She says she can’t connect with that because she is submissive [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged assertive in bed, celebration, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, female, help, love, Mindset, normal, play, role play, roles, rt, serving, sex, sexual dominance, standing, submission, submissive, switching roles, take control of sex, toy |
By lunaKM on June 22, 2009
I’ve been exploring the writing of a Dominant mind lately and thought I’d share with you some of the wonderful musings this man has for learning the Dominant personae. The blog I’ve been exploring is A Dominant Character and is written by Sir J. I’d recommend you drop by and take a look at what [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged A Dominant Character, balance, blog review, blogging, blogs, cons, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominant blog, dominants, dress, email, first aid, honesty, learning, love, m/s, openness, play, relationship, Relationships, rss, rt, scene, share, Sir J, standing, submission, submissive, surrender, training, understanding, writing |
By lunaKM on June 19, 2009
When you first start talking to a potential Dominant you go through an initial interview. A lot of times this is just a period where basic questions are asked and your answers help the Dominant gauge just how interested you are in them, how compatible you are with them and what your intelligence level is. [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, experience, good interviews, help, history, interview, limits, preference, preferences, questions, relationship, resume, rt, rules, short, speech, standing, stress, submissive, tips, understanding, wants, what to wear, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on May 30, 2009
This post is from Norische. She allows anyone to post her articles anywhere they will do some good. I could not come up with a better way to say what she does in this article. Please enjoy and comment! I’d love to hear if you have told your family and how it went. “So what [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, acceptance, activities, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, choice, choices, Christian, clean, comfort, communication, community, cons, consensual, control, Dom, dress, email, family, fear, floggers, friends, harnesses, help, implement, information, kink acceptance, kinky, leather, lifestyle, love, myths, natural, negotiation, normal, obedience, openness, opinion, outting yourself, paddles, play, progress, relationship, religion, rt, rules, safe, sane, sex, sharing, single, sister, slave, slavery, standing, stress, submissive, tall, telling family, toy, toys, understanding, whips, writing |
By lunaKM on May 29, 2009
There is no way to be sure but, the large majority of information about the D/s lifestyle is in fiction form. While it’s nice to escape into emotional and physical stories, they are fantasy. For submissives looking to get their feet wet, these stories could hinder or harm the very ideas that develop in the [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged BDSM, bdsm fiction, BDSM practitioner, book, books, D/s, Dom, dominant, dynamic, experience, fantasy, fulfillment, growth, information, Laura Antoniou, learning, lifestyle, love, munch, novice, opinion, questions, Resources, rt, series, slave, spirit, standing, Study, submission, submissive, training, understanding, value, viewpoints |
By lunaKM on May 9, 2009
The world is full of false truths. These false truths tend to be the assumptions of the uninformed or the beliefs of those who want to scare novices out of their wits. Many of these are because of a narrow view of the world or an inability to accept varying viewpoints. In this post I’m [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged acceptance, advice, assumptions, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm myths, BDSM practitioner, bisexuality, deeper submission, Dom, dominant, dominants, false information, falsehoods, female, female submissives, history, information, labels, lifestyle, love, Masochism, masochist, misunderstandings, myths, normal, novice, novices, online, play, poly, polyamorous, polyamory, predators, relationship, rt, self-awareness, sex, sexual identity, sexual orientation, share, slave, standing, submission, submissive, switch, tall, titles, understanding, viewpoints |
![Show Off Your Positions! [Day 14 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/share_ryancr-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on May 4, 2009
You have followed the whole series of Submissive Positions posts here at Submissive Guide. If not, start back at the beginning, I’ll wait for you here. Are you back? Ready to show them off? Today’s post is all about you! I want to see what you came up with for positions that worked best for [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, curtsy, email, grace, kneeling, learned, linklove, positions, rt, series, share, share photos, share thoughts, slave positions, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
By lunaKM on May 1, 2009
Today’s task is to learn an appropriate pose to take when apologizing for wrong-doing. If you need to review the past posts in this series, please take a look at the leading post. This position is hopefully something you don’t have to do often but since we are all human, it is going to happen. [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, apologizing, Dom, dominant, hands, help, infractions, kneeling, learned, learning, positions, punishment, review, rt, series, slave positions, sorry, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
![Offering Your Neck for Collar [Day 8 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/collar-behind-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 28, 2009
We are just over half way through the two weeks of submissive positions here on Submissive Guide. Here’s a review of what we’ve covered so far: Learning to Kneel Standing at Attention Lowering to the Floor Rise from the Floor The Bow and Curtsey Active Attending Serving Food and Drink Next up is talking about [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, bow, collaring, Dom, dominant, dynamic, grace, learning, offering neck for collar, positions, relationship, review, ritual, rituals, rt, series, serving, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
![Attending Your Dominant [Day 6 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/offering-apple-lepiaf-geo-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 26, 2009
In the previous posts we covered basic positions that should now be familiar and perhaps you have worked out in your relationship that you want to employ them. If you need to review you can do that by going to the initial post. Today we will be learning an active position and one that can [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, active positions, assistance, attentiveness, calendar, comfort, cons, Dom, dominant, event, grace, hands, information, learned, learning, movement, needs, organization, positions, preparedness, relationship, review, rt, safe, Service, serving, shopping, slave positions, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
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