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Book Review: Spanking for Lovers by Janet Hardy

Book Review: Spanking for Lovers by Janet Hardy

Whether as just a spanko or as part of a power exchange relationship, this is a great book for all parties involved to check out. Janet Hardy knows her stuff and you can tell that her knowledge is from years of experience on both sides of the paddle.

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Reviews
Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Despite being commonplace in kinky relationships, explaining the appeal of being spanked to someone who is new to the scene or curious about it can be difficult.

17 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
I’m Terrified of BDSM, but Aroused by Spanking?

I’m Terrified of BDSM, but Aroused by Spanking?

I’m absolutely terrified of BDSM. But I’m extremely aroused by the thought of a man bending me over his knee, pulling down my pants, and spanking me. Ease my mind? Thank you. Hello terrified, There is a huge world of kinky things inside that little acronym. I can certainly understand why you are scared. But [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
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Your Kink is Not my Kink – Understanding Other People’s Kinks

The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics
What to Do When Punishment Starts to Feel Good

What to Do When Punishment Starts to Feel Good

You are in trouble and awaiting corporal punishment. You are anxious, sad, depressed, frustrated about the whole thing but you know that you did something wrong and need to atone for it to get on the right path again. No one likes getting punished (at least you shouldn’t), so what happens if, as the punishment [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Recapturing Common Sense

Recapturing Common Sense

This essay that I wrote was first published on humbledfemales.net, but has since taken on new ownership and the article was removed (not sure why). I am now sharing it here because it is good common sense! A submissive’s best protection is her gut instinct. Waking up the fantasies we’ve only held close to our hearts and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

I’m so glad I found your site. I am a large woman, about 275, who started exploring but has not yet experienced a D/s relationship. I think I’ve resolved much of my conflict about my sexuality, but I’ve some lingering issues to deal with from the last time I was thinner. I lost 90 pounds [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/6/12 On the heels of “50 Shades of Grey” fame, there are a lot of new and curious people exploring BDSM than there has been in a long time. For the many people who encounter this site through a search they may have their fantasies dashed by reading about the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
The Importance of Consent in D/s Negotiation

The Importance of Consent in D/s Negotiation

Consent and Negotiation are probably something that we think about but don’t really acknowledge daily. It is important none the less to think about and address in a Dominant/submissive relationship. Why? There are many reasons but the most important one is being safe not only with your partner but more importantly with yourself. Consent is [...]

6 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Safety

Vivian’s New Ebook “What He Wants: A Man’s Seven Secret Spanking Desires”

 Vivian has a new book!  Order your copy of “What He Wants” today for $12.95 Order Now BY CLICKING BELOW: Your PayPal transaction is secure, instant and completely confidential. You do not need a PayPal account to purchase the book.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Sponsors
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

Research Page: Domestic Discipline

One of the easier topics for me to research has been Domestic Discipline. There is so much information out there of all types on this sort of relationship. Much of it is terrible. I’ve weeded through a lot of misunderstandings to get to the truth. Here’s what I’ve learned. Domestic Discipline is the practice between [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Research Pages

What is Punishment?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Depending on who you talk to, punishment can mean different things. Some people have different meaning if you capitalize the P or if you don’t. Others use it synonymous with play. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Perspectives: Flogging

Perspectives: Flogging

I believe the second kinky activity introduced to me after spanking was flogging. Since then I’ve had a love/love relationship with it. Flogging is when a top uses a multi-tailed whip to strike in a swinging motion, often times rhythmically. The material that the flogger is made of varies as much as the sensation. Suede is [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
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