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Submissive vs. Slave

Submissive vs. Slave

Mistress Steel tackles the submissive vs slave debate. Core differences and misconceptions are revealed.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

13 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

I was going to do another Single in the Scene post, had been kicking it around, but then last week, I felt something else. And this week because this ‘something’ else is back, I’ve decided to go with this… A slave’s longing. A longing is not a frenzy, though it’s quite possible that the feeling [...]

11 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/16/13 “How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I am a tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

from The Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/16/13 When fantasies abound about slavery they often go something like this: The slave is always nude, chained or caged waiting for the Master to decide what to do with them. They make no decisions themselves, the Master declares that he will tell them when to eat, sleep and piss. [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

What is Boot Blacking?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. One of the specialized talents that some submissives and slaves pick up is boot blacking. It holds its tradition in the leather community as an honorable service to a [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Submissive Advent – Day 4: Rewards for Service

Submissive Advent – Day 4: Rewards for Service

Today is day 4 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Being rewarded for our submission often feeds our pleasure center once in a while but it’s not required. We all know this [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/2/12 It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins.  What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Solo Coaching – The CREATE Model

Solo Coaching – The CREATE Model

This is another entry into the self-mentoring series here on Submissive Guide. If your recall back in the first post about solo coaching I asked you and tasked you to start holding private coaching sessions with yourself. Hopefully you have kept up with these and have earmarked a few challenges in your life that might [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth

Lessons in Submissive Speech 1: Addressing Individuals

In a BDSM context, it’s more common to have to learn how to address someone than in a non-scene situation. How many times have you had conversations with service personnel or with people you encounter in your day to day without first asking them their name or how they wish to be addressed? It’s a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. 24/7. All day, every day. Is it possible to live any lifestyle to that degree? More to the point, is it possible to live *this* lifestyle that I’ve chosen for myself on a 24/7 [...]

19 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Book Review: Living M/s

Book Review: Living M/s

It’s been awhile since I’ve reviewed a book here on Submissive Guide and this one has come recommended from readers. You want to know if this one is worth buying! Let’s get down to it. Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships* is written by Dan and Dawn Williams of The Erotic Awakening [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

Because of the content of this post I feel I must begin with a disclaimer: This is NOT meant to be medical advice or anything even related to it. This is an account of what worked for me and my family and notes from other pregnant slaves I have known. Always talk to your doctor [...]

13 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Relationships, Safety, Service
Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries

Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries

Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth
The Importance of Taking Your Time Exploring Submission Before Starting a Relationship

The Importance of Taking Your Time Exploring Submission Before Starting a Relationship

One thing I have learned from my experience as a submissive and my encounters with submissives and slaves all over the place has been the importance of taking things slowly. At one time or another we all tend to rashly jump into a D/s relationship without really knowing the Dominant that we are surrendering to. [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth

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