By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
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By lunaKM on November 23, 2009
One of the cornerstone books recommended for submissives and Dominants alike has always been Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy. Once two individual books; Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training with Miss Abernathy, this omnibus has everything you could want in a manual about training submissives. When I first read this book I was [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, books, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, Impact, information, m/s, Miss Abernathy, relationship, review, rt, Service, single, slave, slave training, standing, submissive, training, understanding |
By lunaKM on September 23, 2009
Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged aftercare, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, comfort, cons, consensual, D/s, development, Dom, dominant, dominants, help, journey, novice, online, play, Playtime, questions, RACK, relationship, Relationships, risk, risk aware, rt, safe, safewords, sane, scene, share, single, SSC, sub drop, sub frenzy, sub space, submission, submissive, subspace, toy, toybag, trust |
By Guest Author on September 18, 2009
Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. You can also read her post on what it’s like to be an owned kajira and a kajira’s strengths and misconceptions. There is so many stereotypes, misconceptions of what a kajira is; what gor is; what the gorean lifestyle is; what a bdsm lifestyler looks like; what [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged abuse, Aria, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, challenges, chat, choice, choices, Christian, clean, cons, dreams, dress, dynamic, family, friends, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, kajira, lifestyle, lifestyler, norms, opinion, owned, preference, preferences, questions, relationship, rt, rules, sex, share, single, slave, speech, stereotype, submissive, wants |
By Guest Author on September 15, 2009
Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. She’s donated a few posts for this week on Gorean Living so watch for them in the coming days! My Master gave me the task of writing down my thoughts on what it means to be an owned kajira. I can only ever write this from my [...]
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By lunaKM on August 10, 2009
Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]
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By lunaKM on August 5, 2009
I’m personally not a very domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need [...]
Posted in Domestics | Tagged balance, basics, blogs, clean, cleaning, danae, Dom, Domestic Servitude, Domestics, dominant, fantasy, help, internet, learned, learning, links, love, normal, rt, Service, share, single, skills, stress, submission, submissive, tips, washing dishes |
By lunaKM on May 30, 2009
This post is from Norische. She allows anyone to post her articles anywhere they will do some good. I could not come up with a better way to say what she does in this article. Please enjoy and comment! I’d love to hear if you have told your family and how it went. “So what [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, acceptance, activities, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, choice, choices, Christian, clean, comfort, communication, community, cons, consensual, control, Dom, dress, email, family, fear, floggers, friends, harnesses, help, implement, information, kink acceptance, kinky, leather, lifestyle, love, myths, natural, negotiation, normal, obedience, openness, opinion, outting yourself, paddles, play, progress, relationship, religion, rt, rules, safe, sane, sex, sharing, single, sister, slave, slavery, standing, stress, submissive, tall, telling family, toy, toys, understanding, whips, writing |
By Guest Author on May 8, 2009
This is a guest post by ~melly. She’s in a Daddy/little girl dynamic and volunteered to write this post for Submissive Guide. i’ve slept with a teddy bear all my life. this may seem insignificant, but it’s really not,. i had my teddy bear with me when i moved in with Master. i held him [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged BDSM, clean, cleaning, comfort, communication, connection, D/g, daddy, dress, dynamic, family, fear, fetlife, guest post, learning, little girl, love, melly, natural, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, shift, single, slave, stress, submissive, tall, trust |
By lunaKM on April 13, 2009
If you intend to venture into play on a casual level or at play parties and clubs as a single submissive you need to arrive prepared for play. This includes having some of your own toys so that you don’t rely on Dominants being gracious enough to use their toys on you. It is not [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Playtime, Safety | Tagged amazon.com, Bondage, choice, clean, cleaning, clubs, common sense, disposable, Dom, dominant, dominants, first aid, floggers, Gor, health, latex, leather, love, paddles, play, play parties, preparedness, rt, safe, Safety, sex, single, submissive, toy, toybag, toys, whips |
By lunaKM on March 14, 2009
Today’s post comes from May (follow her @readheadgirl) a writer and artist. For the longest time when I heard “polyamory,” I thought of hippies in the 70s having orgies at drug parties. I blame my misconception on why I took so long to realize that I am a polyamorous person. Like me, many people have [...]
Posted in Relationships, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged Aria, BDSM, book, choice, choices, commitment, communication, cons, desires, gender, Gor, guest post, intimacy, lifestyle, lifetyle, love, many loves, needs, partners, poly, poly-households, polyamorous, polyamory, relationship, Relationships, rt, series, sex, share, single, size, submissive, twitter |
By lunaKM on March 6, 2009
Recently there has been a lot of talk about Feminism and it’s role in society where it’s related (or not related) to submission in a D/s context. I read kaya’s post from Under His Hand, that while being a rant, was a well thought out discussion on how narrow minded a lot of feminists are [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged choice, choices, D/s, danger, discussion, Dom, dominant, family, female, feminism, feminist movement, movement, norms, opinion, opposing views, poll, relationship, rt, single, societal views, submission, winner |
Submissive groups are all over the internet. They can be long standing or short lived. Most have advice, help and a support system you can’t find anywhere else. Here’s a list of the groups where you might find your voice. Interactive forums or mailing lists are welcome here. If you have a submissive group you’d [...]
By lunaKM on February 24, 2009
In this week’s video tip I talk about what training is to a submissive and the value it has to a D/s relationship. When someone thinks of slave training, what is the first thing that pops into your mind? Is it a submissive on their knees going through the paces that their Dominant puts them? [...]
Posted in Service, Video Posts | Tagged activities, amazon.com, attitude, behavior changes, book, books, cons, consensual, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, female, Gor, help, m/s, newsletter, novice, novices, positions, protocol, punishment, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, Service, single, slave, slave training, slavery, speech, submission, submissive, submissive training, training, value |
By lunaKM on February 18, 2009
As a novice submissive in this technology age you typically explore submission online in chat room and in instant messaging. There is nothing wrong with this avenue for dipping your toe in the water. There are, however, very real dangers that predators use to capture novices and can do more harm to your curiosity than [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Safety | Tagged activities, BDSM, blind faith, book, chat, chat room, cons, D/s, danger, dangers, Dom, dominant, health, information, internet, learned, natural, negotiation, novice, novices, online, online D/s, Online dating, online experiences, predators, purpose, questions, rt, Safety, sex, single, stress, submission, submissive, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on January 1, 2009
Now that is a question, isn’t it? There is no wrong or right answer but there is a clear and focused way to figure out if you are someone would would desire a safeword or not. They can be an important part of play or something that is never used, but provides the security that [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Playtime | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play, book, comfort, cons, Dom, dominant, event, experience, focus, help, limits, misunderstandings, negotiation, play, protocol, relationship, resume, risk, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, safewords, scene, security, single, speech, standing, stoplight safety system, submissive, training, Training Resume, understanding, wants |
By lunaKM on December 30, 2008
You may have been bathing yourself since you were 5 or 6, but if you haven’t changed your bathing routine since then, you may want to consider growing up and learning an adult way to bathe. Each person may have cleaning preferences and this is to be just a guideline and recommendation for bathing and [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged bath, bathing, clean, cleaning, cons, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, experience, grooming, health, learning, natural, natural oils, needs, personal hygiene, preference, preferences, routine, rt, sex, shower, single |
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