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Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

A frequent misconception with poly is that it’s orgiastic group sex all the time.

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I think realizing your true calling with the one you want to serve is one of the greatest feelings any slave or submissive can feel.

10 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships

Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships

There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don’t like to miss a single episode.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Petitioning is an acknowledgment of structure and formality; it is definitely a humbling experience for a slave. It is also a way for a slave to solidly express their desires – no hemming and hawing, no beating around the bush, just a determined statement of the desire.

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Sometimes I get questions that only require a short answer. Here are a few of the more recent ones. What would you do if your dominant stopped recognizing and acknowledging you as a submissive person and instead encouraged you to be independent and self sufficient. Being submissive does not mean you are not independent or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

The point of a scene report requested is to help you analyze your responses and emotions surrounding the play. So let’s figure out how to write a useful scene report.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

It’s no secret that these conventions can get costly so I wanted to put together some tips for you to use to help you save a bit of money and still enjoy the event to its fullest.

10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

The nervous energy attached to meeting a Dominant for the first time doesn’t go away for everyone. If you know a few tips and ways to calm your nerves before the big date, you’ll feel relaxed and ready to put your best foot forward.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. For some, this time means a celebration of your relationship and the commitment that is about to happen. A formal collaring ceremony is what came about because of this need.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

Can Trust Be Repaired When He’s Caught Cheating?

I have forgiven him, but now I am having a hard time trusting him. I don’t feel that our relationship is Safe, Sane or Consensual anymore. My question to you is….can this relationship be salvaged once the trust has been broken, especially so early in the relationship?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

A Dominant has limits just like submissives do. There are things that don’t interest them, or that they have a moral or ethical standing that will prevent them from exploring something. Over the years I have heard many times that Dominants should have a checklist also and I agree.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
A List of National BDSM Events – Attend One, or Two, or Three

A List of National BDSM Events – Attend One, or Two, or Three

Go to an event they said. But they never said what events exist. Well now you have no excuse. Here’s a short list of regional and national, and even some international events pertaining to BDSM and the kink lifestyle.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Book Review: Playing Well with Others

Book Review: Playing Well with Others

This book by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams is the quintessential guide for novices and seasoned players ready to enter the BDSM community. No other book like this exists so it’s a great addition to your personal kink library.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

Sure we can! Just because we love rope, leather, floggers, and control doesn’t mean we can’t have the mood set beforehand. So, what do you do?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Everything I Know About Submission I Learned from my Cat

Everything I Know About Submission I Learned from my Cat

The other day I was watching my cats and had a sudden realization that they way they live could have lessons for me and my submission if I wanted to see them. The truth is that you can pick up lessons everywhere you look if you want to.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Everyone handles anger and frustration differently, but I think most would agree that the best way to deal with anger is to cool off before saying or doing something you will regret later on.

6 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Relationships
Submissive Advent – Day 18: Becoming Real

Submissive Advent – Day 18: Becoming Real

The inspiration for today comes from one of my favorite stories, The Velveteen Rabbit.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
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