By lunaKM on July 21, 2010
Last February was a difficult month for me. Like many in this failing economy I found myself without a job. I was stressed and frustrated and knew that it would be very difficult to find another job when the competition was over 7% of the state’s workforce. Master wasn’t going to let me stay frustrated [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged dreams, fulfillment, home management, housework, lifestyle, personal fulfillment, personal life, satisfaction, Service, skills, stay at home, Staying-at-home |
By nan {SL} on June 14, 2010
In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged attitude, bdsm community, decisions, development, femininity, feminism, freedom of choice, gender, independent woman, personal life, self expression, Service, training |
By lunaKM on June 9, 2010
To complete the series on types of service, today I’m going to cover devotional service. If you’d like a refresher on the other types of service please see the other posts: Transactional Devotional Positional Situational In my search for understanding about devotion I looked to religious ideas. In many religions you devote your life and [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged devotion, devotional service, focus, meditation, pleasure, religion, series, Service, understanding, worship |
By lunaKM on June 2, 2010
Continuing my four-part series on types of submission today will be about positional service. As a reminder, the forms of submission are: Transactional Devotional Positional Situational Positional service is probably the most prevalent in non-D/s settings. This is essentially customer service; you are in a position to serve and so you serve. The service is [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged chauffeur, customer service, domestic service, expectations, household, positional service, series, Service, situational service, submissive, transactional service |
By lunaKM on May 12, 2010
Service can mean different things to different people. Just as submission is different depending on the person and dynamic, so is the type of service that submissive provides. In the list below I have what I call the four types of service that are most common in D/s relationships. I’ve come across several different ways [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged D/s exchange, Service, service styles, service types, submission, transaction, transactional service |
By lunaKM on April 16, 2010
Every relationship dynamic is different. If you’ve been following this blog for any length of time you have been exposed to some very unique relationships and the submissives in those relationships. There are submissives who are pets, some who are slaves, others who, like you’ve read recently, are hunt sluts for their owners. Today I’m [...]
Posted in Talents and Skills | Tagged activities, development, dominance and submission, dynamic, kink, Masochism, pleasure, requests, Sadism, Service, sexual personality, skills, topping from the bottom, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 24, 2010
With the wealth of information I write (and my new contributors write) it’s amazing to me to know that some of you haven’t taken a look at what else I have archived here for your education and growth as a submissive. One of the things that I love to re-read over and over are the [...]
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By lunaKM on February 13, 2010
This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, Alt.com, Bondage, Bondage.com, CollarMe, cons, danger, dangers, dating, depression, email, false sense of security, family, fetlife, friends, information, internet, online, Online dating, online profiles, profile safety, relationship, rt, safe, Safety, security, Service, share, share photos, sharing, support, tips |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
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By lunaKM on January 5, 2010
A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]
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By lunaKM on January 2, 2010
This week’s video post is about velcro collars. To submissives, a collar is one of the most important things they have. It is a symbol of their commitment, their service and their adoration of a special someone. In most situations, the offering or begging of a collar is not taken lightly. The weight of the [...]
Posted in Video Posts | Tagged begging, cheapen, collars, commitment, community, cons, disposable, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, hands, Impact, important things, lifetime, marriage, mates, online, opinion, partners, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, Service, submissive, symbolism, value, velcro collars |
By lunaKM on December 14, 2009
Submissive Guide is run by your donations, and affiliate purchases. I’m looking ahead into my 2nd year providing quality writing that is meant to help submissives everywhere learn about themselves and the services they wish to provide. I could use your help. If you find Submissive Guide to be a valuable resource, please consider making [...]
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By lunaKM on December 2, 2009
The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of [...]
Posted in Domestics | Tagged baking soda, basics, blogs, busy life, checklist, clean, cleaning, cleaning routine, cleaning the kitchen, cons, danae, Dom, Domestic Servitude, Domestics, event, green cleaning the kitchen, help, how-to, kitchen cleaning, kitchen cleaning tips, m/s, natural, routine, rt, Service, skills, tips |
By lunaKM on November 23, 2009
One of the cornerstone books recommended for submissives and Dominants alike has always been Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy. Once two individual books; Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training with Miss Abernathy, this omnibus has everything you could want in a manual about training submissives. When I first read this book I was [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, books, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, Impact, information, m/s, Miss Abernathy, relationship, review, rt, Service, single, slave, slave training, standing, submissive, training, understanding |
By lunaKM on November 13, 2009
With Thanksgiving (USA) just around the corner I thought it would be fitting to write about gratitude, and how to express your gratitude to the one you serve. Sure you can say thank you. That’s standard. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank you, but what if you want a few more [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged bath, being thankful, development, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dynamic, focus, gratitude, happiness, help, kneeling, love, normal, online, play, relationship, Relationships, requests, ritual, rituals, rt, rules, Service, setting the table, sex, share, showing appreciation, skills, stress, submission, thanksgiving |
By lunaKM on November 4, 2009
So, you want me to tell you how you can tell if you are submissive or not? Asking someone else if you are submissive is like asking a blind man what color your dress is. Is there some magical online quiz that can say whether you are submissive or slave? Unfortunately no and I don’t [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, choice, choices, community, connection, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dress, experience, happiness, help, inclination, learned, learning, Mindset, natural, online, personal choices, poses, prayer, questions, relationship, religion, ritual, rt, Service, serving, sex, slave, spirit, spiritual, standing, stimulus, submission, submissive, trust, understanding |
By lunaKM on November 2, 2009
I love reading BDSM fiction, erotica and other service books. I broke my kinky teeth on the Story of O so I can’t ignore it on this list, but it’s not the best of the best. I’d like to offer up the books that I love and enjoy to read; most of which I like [...]
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By lunaKM on October 17, 2009
This week’s video post is about sub space. When you first heard about sub space it was probably something that you either thought you’d never experience or something that seemed so strange and foreign that you believed it to be a myth. Then you heard the stories and could swear that people were on drugs [...]
Posted in Playtime, Video Posts | Tagged connection, Dom, dominant, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, information, love, masochist, play, prayer, rt, Service, slave, spirit, sub space, submission, subspace, trust, value |
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