By lunaKM on February 13, 2010
This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, Alt.com, Bondage, Bondage.com, CollarMe, cons, danger, dangers, dating, depression, email, false sense of security, family, fetlife, friends, information, internet, online, Online dating, online profiles, profile safety, relationship, rt, safe, Safety, security, Service, share, share photos, sharing, support, tips |
By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged acceptance, advice, bath, BDSM, bdsm play, beginning bdsm, blogs, book, communication, cons, consensual, danger, desires, Dom, dominant, information, kajira, learned, needs, negotiation, novice, novices, partners, play, relationship, Relationships, risk, rt, safe, Safety, safewords, sane, security, share, stress, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on August 8, 2009
This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged blind date, choice, choices, comfort, common sense, D/s, danger, dates, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, first meetings, information, munch, nervousness, normal, online, personal safety, play, questions, relationship, rt, safe, safe call, Safety, security, short, value, wants |
By lunaKM on April 9, 2009
A couple week’s ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions | Tagged Aria, balance, comfort, communication, control, discussion, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, event, events, family, friends, guest post, help, jealousy, limits, love, needs, partners, poly, polyamorous, polyamory, relationship, Relationships, review, roundtable discussion, rt, rules, schedules, security, series, share, structure, submissive, support, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on March 16, 2009
Looking for your partner is challenging, no doubt about it. You’ve probably done the bar scene, the alternative adult dating sites, and maybe a few of the vanilla ones too. No matter where you look you find men or women that just aren’t your type. I’m here to say that it is possible to find [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged blind date, bow, D/s, dates, dating, Dom, dominant, dos and donts, first meetings, information, love, play, questions, relationship, rt, rules, safe, safe call, Safety, scene, security, submission, tips, trust, value |
By lunaKM on January 26, 2009
Aftercare is an important part of recovery from play for many people. It is most common to experience a drop in emotions and energy after play from within hours to even days later. All too often it becomes a necessity to take care of yourself after a play session because your top was just visiting [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty, Playtime | Tagged after care, aftercare, bath, book, books, bottom, bruises, control, depression, Dom, dominant, dominants, drop kit, emotions, endorphins, energy, event, experience, favorite, first aid, guilt, help, limits, loneliness, marks, partners, play, Playtime, recovery, recovery from play, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, scening, security, self-care, short, sub drop, submissive, tips, training |
By lunaKM on January 7, 2009
In the previous post about wants and needs you made a list of your wants and a list of your needs so that you had them defined for your training resume. In this essay I will share why needs are so important to your overall health and happiness in a relationship and why settling for [...]
Posted in Submission, Training Resume | Tagged abuse, balance, clean, clothing, comfort, communication, compatibility, cons, control, D/s, depression, development, discussion, Dom, dominant, event, experience, friends, friendships, happiness, health, help, honesty, Impact, importance of needs, love, needs, openness, power exchange, relationship, Relationships, resume, rt, sadness, safe, Safety, security, share, stress, submission, submissive, training, Training Resume, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on January 1, 2009
Now that is a question, isn’t it? There is no wrong or right answer but there is a clear and focused way to figure out if you are someone would would desire a safeword or not. They can be an important part of play or something that is never used, but provides the security that [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Playtime | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play, book, comfort, cons, Dom, dominant, event, experience, focus, help, limits, misunderstandings, negotiation, play, protocol, relationship, resume, risk, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, safewords, scene, security, single, speech, standing, stoplight safety system, submissive, training, Training Resume, understanding, wants |
Want more? Get my free report "Wants and Needs: How to Get What You Need and Ask For What You Want"...
This month I'd like to feature Protocols: Handbook for the female slave by Robert Rubel PhD. A book on protocol in a D/s Leather Household.
My name is lunaKM and I’m a full-time submissive in a D/s relationship. I am webslut to 
