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Recapturing Common Sense

Recapturing Common Sense

All novice submissives have a moment where a lapse in judgment can happen. No one is impervious to the lures of desire and dark needs. When offered a chance to experiment or explore our new-found desires we overlook that most important instinct – our gut instinct.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Most confuse jealousy and envy. I know I’ve been bitten a few times by jealousy but thankfully I worked through them and realized that there was nothing to worry about. I’ve conquered jealousy and you can too. Today we’ll talk about what jealousy is, compare it to envy and then figure out some tips on combating jealousy.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/2/12 It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins.  What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
A Safe Call Could Save Your Life: How to Set It Up

A Safe Call Could Save Your Life: How to Set It Up

A safe call is something that you may never need to use but should be there anyway. Like car insurance. It’s there in the case of an accident. It’s not like you plan on getting into an accident so you get insurance. It’s the other way around. A safe call is your backup plan, your safety net. In fact, it could very well save your life. Are you in good hands?

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Safety

Chat Night Transcript from “Recovering from a Breakup” Talk

from chat night 10-4-11 (8:05:07 PM) lunaKM: Let’s start out with a little introduction period. Everyone please let us know the general area you are located, if you are sub, slave, property, other and anythign else you’d like to share with us. (8:05:07 PM) hachiko: I <3 blue (8:05:35 PM) pepper_di: i will start if [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

When we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes hold the best thing is to stop and treat the problem.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
The Outline of a Good Compatible Dominant

The Outline of a Good Compatible Dominant

The qualities to look for in a Dominat are subjective but perhaps we can figure out some basics to help you along the way.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
If I feel Jealousy can I still be Poly?

If I feel Jealousy can I still be Poly?

This is a guest post by Aria. She has written for Submissive Guide in the past, you can check out her post on Two Dominants here. Today she brings a common Poly Relationship question – jealousy to light. Yes! Almost all of us have felt jealousy at one time or another. The best thing anyone [...]

8 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships

What NOT to Share on Your Online Profile

This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety, Video Posts
The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break.  Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety
First Meetings Done Safely

First Meetings Done Safely

This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety, Video Posts
Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

Today’s post comes from Jessie Beth, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship with experience in online submission. Thank you Jessie Beth! Online D/s is perhaps one of the most controversial subjects in the Dominance and submission community. The stance i will take on this subject, based on online D/s relationships of my own, is [...]

23 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Online Submission
Readers’ View on Polyamory

Readers’ View on Polyamory

A couple weeks ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Roundtable Discussions
How To Meet Your Perfect Dominant?

How To Meet Your Perfect Dominant?

Looking for your partner is challenging, no doubt about it. You’ve probably done the bar scene, the alternative adult dating sites, and maybe a few of the vanilla ones too. No matter where you look you find men or women that just aren’t your type. I’m here to say that it is possible to find [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
A Submissive Approach to Safe, Sane and Consensual

A Submissive Approach to Safe, Sane and Consensual

When you first enter the more public BDSM community one of the largest catch phrases you will here is SSC, also known as Safe, Sane and Consensual. It is a security blanket approach to safety when playing and negotiation of play. As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Caring for Yourself After a Scene: Self-Aftercare

Caring for Yourself After a Scene: Self-Aftercare

Aftercare is an important part of recovery from play for many people. It is most common to experience a drop in emotions and energy after play from within hours to even days later. All too often it becomes a necessity to take care of yourself after a play session because your top was just visiting [...]

35 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Play and Sex
What Everybody Ought To Know About Basic Needs and Need Deficits

What Everybody Ought To Know About Basic Needs and Need Deficits

In the previous post about wants and needs you made a list of your wants and a list of your needs so that you had them defined for your training resume. In this essay I will share why needs are so important to your overall health and happiness in a relationship and why settling for [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Training Resume
What You Should Know About Safewords

What You Should Know About Safewords

Now that is a question, isn’t it? There is no wrong or right answer but there is a clear and focused way to figure out if you are someone would would desire a safeword or not. They can be an important part of play or something that is never used, but provides the security that [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex

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