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BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So knowing about the safety precautions that can save your mind and body are always a good thing.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts

Personal Safety Mantra: Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC)

What is SSC? It’s a credo that people in the BDSM community use to express the safety tenets of play.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Safety
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

Can Trust Be Repaired When He’s Caught Cheating?

I am fairly new to the D/s lifestyle as I have been vanilla all my life…..but I feel I was born to be submissive as I am a submissive woman by nature. My Dom of 3 months who is a wonderful man is voyeuristic and a sadist. I felt a disconnect with him a few [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

As the first in a series of articles focusing on male submission, this article presents thoughts about one of the archetypes of male submission, the “worm.” Men and women are different, of course, and in some cases that goes beyond the obvious physical characteristics. Almost all of the articles on The Submissive Guide are valid [...]

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

In Readiness – Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Book Review – The Diary of a Submissive

Book Review – The Diary of a Submissive

I was recently asked to read the book  ’The Diary of a Submissive‘ by Sophie Morgan to give my thoughts on it by one of the girls involved in promoting it.  I didn’t receive anything for reviewing this book other than a free copy of it. For anyone who wishes to read this book it [...]

20 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Relationships, Reviews
Perspectives: Gags

Perspectives: Gags

Being introduced to a ball gag was a scary thing for me. I had always envisioned it as limiting my breathing and never thought to try it out before it showed up in a scene. The first ball gag I owned was small, spongy ball on a leather strap. It was small and I could open [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

Because of the content of this post I feel I must begin with a disclaimer: This is NOT meant to be medical advice or anything even related to it. This is an account of what worked for me and my family and notes from other pregnant slaves I have known. Always talk to your doctor [...]

13 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Relationships, Safety, Service
Exploring Being Submissive in BDSM Play

Exploring Being Submissive in BDSM Play

Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break.  Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety

Just Wait Till Your Father Gets Home: Telling Your Family

This post is from Norische. She allows anyone to post her articles anywhere they will do some good. I could not come up with a better way to say what she does in this article. Please enjoy and comment! I’d love to hear if you have told your family and how it went. “So what [...]

12 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Recommended Reading for New Submissives

Recommended Reading for New Submissives

The following is a list of books that I recommend for every novice submissive. The links lead you to Amazon if you are interested in buying the books. Part of your purchase goes towards supporting this site and my efforts at continuing to bring you content on this site. Books Conquer Me: girl-to-girl wisdom about [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Book Review: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns

Book Review: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns

If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
RACK(Risk Aware Concensual Kink): A Realistic Alternative to SSC

RACK(Risk Aware Concensual Kink): A Realistic Alternative to SSC

In a previous post I talked about Safe, Sane and Consensual or SSC, a safety mantra that quite a bit of the BDSM community has picked up as a way to explain ourselves to non-lifestyle people. It’s an easy way to explain what can’t really be explained. I don’t intend to make this a primer [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Safety
A Submissive Approach to Safe, Sane and Consensual

A Submissive Approach to Safe, Sane and Consensual

When you first enter the more public BDSM community one of the largest catch phrases you will here is SSC, also known as Safe, Sane and Consensual. It is a security blanket approach to safety when playing and negotiation of play. As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Start Here: Don’t Begin Exploring BDSM Until You’ve Read the Basics

Start Here: Don’t Begin Exploring BDSM Until You’ve Read the Basics

There are so many primers out there about BDSM I’m not sure if another one is really needed. Then again with all the basic questions asked on forums and chat rooms about BDSM it’s unlikely that my words will not be read by someone and that they will take something new from them. BDSM is [...]

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals

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