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That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

If you don’t use your safeword, you could be in for more than just an overly sore backside. A safeword is your lifeline and your partner trusts you to use it if you need to. TR shares a personal story where playing with no safewords went wrong.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Safewords Are Not “Safe Words”

Safewords Are Not “Safe Words”

Playing comes with dangers and risks. Making sure you are going to be as safe as you wish to be is up to you. That’s where safewords come in.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

A safeword is how you can protect yourself with a trusting partner.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

Recently I was in a discussion about safewords, but it wasn’t the usual definitions and whether they are truly useful so I thought I’d work though my thoughts on it here and share it with you. The question that was presented was whether safewords should be allowed during punishment and if they weren’t was that [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
After “Red” : How to Manage the Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword

After “Red” : How to Manage the Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/1/14 Your safeword is your lifeline for play. It is a way to express you’ve reached a limit, whether that is a physical limit or an emotional one. The couples that play with safewords know that there is an often unspoken importance in only using it when it is necessary [...]

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure

When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your safeword that needs to be understood. You are not a failure [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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The Controversy of Safe Words during Punishment

A few months ago, a heated topic was being discussed in a lifestyle group that I’m a member of on Facebook. The reason the topic became so heated was because, well, of me. I wasn’t really surprised by this because well, I do have a tendency to create controversy. It was so bad this time, [...]

10 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Safety

Understanding Safe Words for Safe Play

The adventures in the bedroom or dungeon are a lot of fun and you can get lost in the intense responses and pleasure during these moments. It is not without it’s own challenge of safety and communication. When the intensity of activities go up it’s not uncommon for tops and bottoms alike to lose the [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

This is the third in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This third article is about the importance of trust and the role it plays in our relationships. Check out the previous articles – It’s All About Communication and Honesty is the Best [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/6/13 Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

Hi LunaKM, The dominant I have been seeing the past 2 months introduced me to your site.  I was wondering how I can get a submissive mentor?  I’d like to talk about things with someone that has experience.  I am on fetlife but I don’t love posting things where everyone can see.  Can you help [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Developing Trust  in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

Developing Trust in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

Have you ever wondered why we use safe words in this lifestyle? I have pondered that a time or two and have always come to conclusion that it is what makes this lifestyle safe. Without them we are bordering on harming the other person if we go too far. It is important to develop a [...]

9 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Use Your Safeword Without Guilt – You Are NOT a Bad Sub For Needing It

Use Your Safeword Without Guilt – You Are NOT a Bad Sub For Needing It

I’ve talked about safewords here before. I believe they are very important for new relationships and when new activities are being introduced. A stop word is a brake in the play; one that typically halts play completely, but can also be one where slowing down is the direction. Yes there are people who don’t use safewords and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

Ask lunaKM – How Do you Know When to Stop? Understanding Safewords and Limits When New

This month I have a few new questions for you! As always, if you have questions you’d like answered then shoot me an email and I’ll do my best to help you out! If you find that you have another piece of advice to give that I may have overlooked please leave a comment. Your [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Ask lunaKM – Universal Safe Words and the Different Relationship Types

This month I have questions about safe words and relationship types. I have heard that there are universal safe words, but the only one I’ve ever been told of is red(as far as I know it is a call for help). I just want to know if there are sets of words known as a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Chat Night Transcript From Sub Space and Sub Drop Talk

Chat Night Transcript From Sub Space and Sub Drop Talk

<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure  i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Exploring Being Submissive in BDSM Play

Exploring Being Submissive in BDSM Play

Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break.  Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety
Nonverbal Ways to Safeword

Nonverbal Ways to Safeword

At the beginning of this blog I wrote about safewords. Just a reminder that a safeword is a signal that ends BDSM play and usually negotiated before play.  It’s an excellent starting point but I left a part of it out. There will be occasions during BDSM play where you will be unable to speak. [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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