By lunaKM on April 28, 2010
This month I have a few new questions for you! As always, if you have questions you’d like answered then shoot me an email and I’ll do my best to help you out! If you find that you have another piece of advice to give that I may have overlooked please leave a comment. Your [...]
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By lunaKM on March 29, 2010
This month I have questions about safe words and relationship types. I have heard that there are universal safe words, but the only one I’ve ever been told of is red(as far as I know it is a call for help). I just want to know if there are sets of words known as a [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged D/s relationship, M/s relationship, novice questions, relationship types, safe word, safe words, Safety, safeword, safewords, stoplight safety system, Top/bottom relationship, universal safe word |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
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By lunaKM on September 23, 2009
Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged aftercare, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, comfort, cons, consensual, D/s, development, Dom, dominant, dominants, help, journey, novice, online, play, Playtime, questions, RACK, relationship, Relationships, risk, risk aware, rt, safe, safewords, sane, scene, share, single, SSC, sub drop, sub frenzy, sub space, submission, submissive, subspace, toy, toybag, trust |
By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged acceptance, advice, bath, BDSM, bdsm play, beginning bdsm, blogs, book, communication, cons, consensual, danger, desires, Dom, dominant, information, kajira, learned, needs, negotiation, novice, novices, partners, play, relationship, Relationships, risk, rt, safe, Safety, safewords, sane, security, share, stress, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on September 2, 2009
At the beginning of this blog I wrote about safewords. Just a reminder that a safeword is a signal that ends BDSM play and usually negotiated before play. It’s an excellent starting point but I left a part of it out. There will be occasions during BDSM play where you will be unable to speak. [...]
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By lunaKM on April 2, 2009
There are mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor, but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Safety, Submission | Tagged advice, BDSM, BDSM mentors, comfort, cons, definitions, finding a mentor, focus, friends, get advice, growth, health, help, information, instructional, interview, lifestyle, mentor, mentor search, newbies, novice, novices, questions, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, safewords, sister, slave, specifics, stress, submission, submissive, tips, training, vetting |
By lunaKM on January 23, 2009
Topping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. The idea behind the term is to actually help submissives understand their role, and isn’t more than a faux paus. During interactions with your Dominant, it’s a lesson to know that you can’t control what is going on. Topping [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, BDSM, bottom, choice, conditional submission, control, D/s, desires, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dynamics, help, Impact, needs, nonverbal clues, novice, owned, play, relationship, requests, roles, rt, safe, safewords, Service, share, submission, submissive, topping from the bottom, toy |
By lunaKM on January 1, 2009
Now that is a question, isn’t it? There is no wrong or right answer but there is a clear and focused way to figure out if you are someone would would desire a safeword or not. They can be an important part of play or something that is never used, but provides the security that [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Playtime | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play, book, comfort, cons, Dom, dominant, event, experience, focus, help, limits, misunderstandings, negotiation, play, protocol, relationship, resume, risk, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, safewords, scene, security, single, speech, standing, stoplight safety system, submissive, training, Training Resume, understanding, wants |
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