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Submission Isn’t Easy-Nor for Your Convenience

How hard is it to do something that your dominant, the one person you love and trust completely, has asked that you don’t want to do? Tequilarose shares her thoughts on the sometimes struggle to submit.

9 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Personal Growth
What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

Certain things are expected to happen when you have said your safeword, what are they?

13 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Defining Sub Space

Defining Sub Space

Mistress Steel breaks down the many levels of subspace, as she sees them, and how to navigate them in play.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

I’ll cover the non-play first date and the play on the first date …date.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
After “Red” : How to Manage the Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword

After “Red” : How to Manage the Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword

You should never fear using your safeword. There are ways to deal with the guilt, disappointment, fear, sense of failure for using your safeword and the failing to use your safeword at all that many of us feel at one time or another.

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure

So many submissives that have safewords feel that if they use it they have let their partner down and feel disappointed in themselves, but that’s just not true.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Understanding Vocal and Nonvocal Safe Words for Safe Play

When the intensity of activities go up it’s not uncommon for tops and bottoms alike to lose the ability to communicate clearly. So, something developed to help us is safewords.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Let me describe to you what a first scene might be like.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment?  I mean, it’s fun during scenes.  You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts.  During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone.  That’s why you’re being [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Leatherstrap asks me: I played with a lady tonite who set out very clearly that she wanted to play rough – in fact she wanted to be brought to tears – She had a safe word which she didnt call but as the session went on it became apparent that she wasnt well – I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Safety
What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

Imagine this; you are playing and happily enjoying what is going on between the two of you. As the scene continues you start to feel pushed to your limit, but you continue to play. Then, almost without warning you hit a wall and (hopefully) safeword. You’ve just hit a limit. It could be a temporary [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

SGBHC #13 – Using Safewords

Welcome everyone to the Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge (SGBHC)!  I am so thrilled to see you here!  First, the challenge… Submissive Challenge #13 Using Safewords Do you have a safeword? When was the last time you used it? Are you afraid to say your safeword for fear of appearing weak? What are you indicators that [...]

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

In Readiness – Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #13 – Using Safewords

One of the things that people love most about this site is gaining new knowledge and viewpoints.  I have taken it upon myself to organize a day to take place once a month that will encourage bloggers to challenge themselves and explore their submissive choices! Read all the important guidelines  and FAQ on the Blog Hop [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Developing Trust  in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

Developing Trust in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

Have you ever wondered why we use safe words in this lifestyle? I have pondered that a time or two and have always come to conclusion that it is what makes this lifestyle safe. Without them we are bordering on harming the other person if we go too far. It is important to develop a [...]

9 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex

What does “Checking In” During a Scene Mean?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Using a check in during a scene is a responsibility of the Dominant to make sure things are going as they should. Often times this is a simple, “are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
My Boyfriend/Dominant Won’t Allow a Safeword

My Boyfriend/Dominant Won’t Allow a Safeword

I’m a submissive and my boyfriend is a dominant. I trust him fully and love that he pushes my limits. My problem is he won’t allow me a safe word. I only want it in case something is about to break, I can’t breathe, etc. He won’t listen to my pleas to have one. Any advice to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Use Your Safeword Without Guilt – You Are NOT a Bad Sub For Needing It

Use Your Safeword Without Guilt – You Are NOT a Bad Sub For Needing It

I’ve talked about safewords here before. I believe they are very important for new relationships and when new activities are being introduced. A stop word is a brake in the play; one that typically halts play completely, but can also be one where slowing down is the direction. Yes there are people who don’t use safewords and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
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