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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general “vanilla” etiquette are covered.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

Three challenges that come about after rules are selected and you are practicing them or have had them for a long time.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Adding rules to a dynamic, whether for the first time or continuing a list is not easy.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

I’m going to cover the basics of protocol, some different types of protocol and then talk about how to develop your own protocol in your relationship.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
I Need More Rules, But I Don’t Know What to Suggest

I Need More Rules, But I Don’t Know What to Suggest

I told my Dom I needed more to do, as far rules, responsibilities etc.. what are some good things for me to do?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

I can’t say I’ve always been obedient – as a child, an adult, or even as a slave. But I hadn’t ever considered any parts of the bigger picture of what it means to be disobedient, either, until now.

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Personal Growth
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Talking to your Dom about the way you keep your hair (the colour, the length, the style of cut, etc.) can give your Dom some great opportunities to exercise control over you in a new way, and thereby give you the opportunity to grow into a new kind of submission.

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

The first meeting with the person that you’ve begun to build an emotional bond with can be a pretty daunting prospect. Here are a couple of tips and suggestions that will help you during your planning process and throughout your time together.

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed relationships then you haven’t broadened your thinking enough. It’s not just the full-time “lifestyle” submissives that can benefit from rituals, rules, and protocols in their lives. Submissives that dabble in the bedroom only have a lot they can do to enhance their experience in play and sex with their partner.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

I know that communication in the lifestyle is one of those topics that are constantly talked about, but I believe that’s because a lot of people don’t truly understand the importance of communication and how easily a relationship can turn sour if there is a breakdown in communication.

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Submitting did not make my thoughts less valuable or inappropriate, it simply meant that I would have to learn to accept that the final decision lay with my partner, my Dom, not with me.

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

It was difficult to find any information about balancing my professional life with my submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, like me, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the professional world.

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I feel that there are so many who come into the lifestyle and do not realize what being a slave or submissive really entails. They come into the lifestyle having a certain expectation, a certain fantasy, but once they really get their feet wet, they realize it’s nothing that they expected.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

The responsibility of a submissive doesn’t disappear at any time. You need to look out for yourself and learn to communicate effectively with those you wish to play with, whether it’s the first or 500th time you’ve done so.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

Micromanagement is a training style where the Dominant has the deciding enforce on a lot of the minute details of a submissive’s routine.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

My Sir is dealing with a lot of stress right now, and as a result he seems to be less interested in dominating me. As a result I am questioning my submissiveness. As a submissiveness, should I be accepting this change in him as part of my submitting to him and his needs?

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
[Video Post] How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

[Video Post] How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

My question is, how can I show him (aside from simply following the rules) that this is who I am. He knows that my nature is submissive. He has commented on it many times. but is there a way in a LDR to show the submissiveness I feel?

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Are They In Your Head Yet? – Listening to Your Internal Dom

Are They In Your Head Yet? – Listening to Your Internal Dom

It’s not an instant shift in mindset, but you eventually have your Dominant in your head with you as you go about your day.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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