By lunaKM on December 21, 2009
This month I dived into a book full of controversy with its approach to living intimately with your husband (or partner). I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I didn’t read it to find the reason for the argument between feminists and the author of the book’s ideas. I read it to see what [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, book review, books, comfort, control, controversy, D/s, feminine, feminist movement, gender, gratitude, help, husband and wife, intimacy, intimate marriage, Laura Doyle, marriage, movement, receiving graciously, relationship, Relationships, review, roles, rt, self help book, self-care, sex, shift, submission, submissive, suggestions, surrender, Surrendered Wife, surrendering, tasks, traditions |
By lunaKM on September 1, 2009
If you have ever wondered how you can get the spanking you’ve always wanted but wasn’t sure how to ask for it, there is a book for you. I was just offered the chance to review a copy of How to Get the Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking for It, Getting It [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Views & More... | Tagged abuse, advice, Aria, blogs, book, books, bottom, caning, choice, clean, desires, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, Dom, e-book, emotions, experience, fear, focus, gender, gender roles, grace, help, history, learning, lifestyle, little girl, love, marks, real life, relationship, Resources, review, roles, rt, safe, series, share, size, spanking, spanking series, standing, tips, training, understanding, Variant Books, Vivian |
By lunaKM on August 26, 2009
It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged basics, BDSM, Bondage, bottom, boundaries, checklist, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dress, event, experience, health, limits, marks, needs, negotiation, obedience, partners, play, player, relationship, roles, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, scene, sex, spanking, submissive, toy, toys |
By lunaKM on July 29, 2009
Every so often I want to open up the blog for you to share and teach me on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep coming back to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions, Social Norms | Tagged balance, BDSM, bdsm with kids, commitment, cons, D/s, event, explanations, explaning it to kids, interruptions, living D/s, play, power exchange, protect children, relationship, roles, rt, rules, share, toy, toys |
By lunaKM on July 22, 2009
Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that you are submissive, which can be a journey itself, you can figure out how your submission differs from another by what type [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bottom, clean, control, Dom, dominant, fetlife, information, journey, lifestyle, love, novice, novices, owned, partners, play, power exchange, preference, relationship, role play, roles, rt, sex, sexual pleasure, share, slave, spanking, submission, submissive, surrender, surrendering, trust |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2009
This may seem like a really odd topic to be posting in a submissive blog, but there is reason. I’ve had a question recently from a submissive woman who has been asked on occasion to be assertive and dominant in bed by her Dominant. She says she can’t connect with that because she is submissive [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged assertive in bed, celebration, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, female, help, love, Mindset, normal, play, role play, roles, rt, serving, sex, sexual dominance, standing, submission, submissive, switching roles, take control of sex, toy |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2009
This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings. Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where [...]
Posted in Relationships, Video Posts | Tagged 24/7, Aria, attitude, blogs, control, D/s, deeper roles, discipline, Dom, dominant, dynamic, focus, health, help, intimacy, maintenance spanking, masochist, orgasms, play, punishment, purpose, relationship, roles, rt, scheduled spanking, sex, short, spanking, submission, value |
By lunaKM on April 3, 2009
This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist. If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Training Resume, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, activities, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, email, event, fetishes, help, limits, links, paraphilias, play, play activites, questions, relationship, resume, roles, rt, Safety, share, training, Training Resume, value |
By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged abuse, advice, amazon.com, basics, BDSM, Bondage, book, books, community, cons, consensual, D/s, danger, Dom, Dominance, dominant, emotions, endorphins, etiquette, experience, explanations, female, help, Impact, impact play, information, kinky, learning, library, lifestyle, limits, love, manners, Masochism, molly devon, negotiation, novice, novices, philip miller, play, player, recommended reading, relationship, Relationships, review, roles, romance, rt, safe, Safety, sane, scene, screw the roses, sex, SSC, standing, submission, submissive, support, tips, toy, toys, tricks, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 19, 2009
I read in an online forum recently about the stigma that a Master or Dom should be manly or masculine. So many replied that they agreed and had found a Dominant that was physically stronger than they were. I was not in agreement and questioned why they idea of masculinity was associated with Dominance. No [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged BDSM, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, dynamic, dynamics, essays, family, female, feminine, feminism, gender, gender roles, machismo, masculine, needs, online, play, relationship, Relationships, roles, rt, sex, share, stereotype, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on March 11, 2009
The second question I received for March question month came to me in my email. I’m a strong person, but something in me was missing…until i admitted what i really am. I’m engaged, i love my boyfriend very much, but I decided to open my heart to him and he’s really doing his best to [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Relationships | Tagged activities, advice, beginning bdsm, book, books, bottom, changing, choice, D/s, discussion, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, email, fetlife, help, housework, learning, love, needs, newbies, question month, relationship, Relationships, Resources, roles, rt, Service, sex, share, short, standing, submissive, suggestions, surrender, understanding, wants |
By lunaKM on January 23, 2009
Topping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. The idea behind the term is to actually help submissives understand their role, and isn’t more than a faux paus. During interactions with your Dominant, it’s a lesson to know that you can’t control what is going on. Topping [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, BDSM, bottom, choice, conditional submission, control, D/s, desires, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dynamics, help, Impact, needs, nonverbal clues, novice, owned, play, relationship, requests, roles, rt, safe, safewords, Service, share, submission, submissive, topping from the bottom, toy |
By lunaKM on January 19, 2009
As a point of personal opinion I’d like to define the differences between very basic terms so that there is no confusion as to who I am referring to when I mention either of these terms. I write this guide in my perspective and provide my mentorship and guidance with these terms clearly defined for [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged basics, bottom, control, D/s, definitions, difference in terms, discussion, Dom, dominant, limits, masochist, mentor, opinion, pets, play, progress, relationship, roles, rt, rules, safe, scene, Service, share, slave, structure, submission, submissive, titles, toy, toys, viewpoints |
By lunaKM on December 20, 2008
Discovering your submissive nature isn’t always a sudden process. For many people it takes some soul searching to see that you may enjoy being a people-pleaser or that when someone asks you to do something you happily do it without a second thought. For others it takes some social reprogramming to allow your full nature [...]
Posted in Mindset, Submission | Tagged abuse, acceptance, activities, amazon.com, bottom, choice, cons, defining moment, discovery, discussion, Dom, dominant, event, experience, focus, fulfillment, happiness, help, inner peace, learned, learning, lifestyle, love, masochist, Miss Abernathy, natural, nurtured, online, organization, owned, personal safety, pride, progress, purpose, relationship, roles, rt, safe, Safety, Service, serving, short, slave, slave training, Study, submission, submissive, training, value, writing |
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