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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 5 of 7) – Flagging, Symbols, and Rituals

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Flagging not Flogging Flagging refers to non-verbal signals that serve as very specific cues in the scene. Most of them originated from the Gay leather scene of the 40′s and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/11/15 Often enough, rituals are reserved for “serious” M/s relationships and D/s that has gone 24/7. At least that’s what I pick up from the multitude of threads I read online and the people I talk to in groups. If you’ve read anything on this site before you’ll probably know [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines

Build Self-Esteem through Grooming Rituals: Series Intro

The concepts of self-esteem and body image hugely hot topics for individuals of all life styles, but I have found it is especially poignant in Dominant/submissive life styles because sex plays such a vital role in our everyday lives rather than just the bedroom. When you’re being asked to put your body on display for [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
Connecting With Your Dominant While They Are Away

Connecting With Your Dominant While They Are Away

Continuing from my previous article on preparing for your Dominant’s absence, today I want to talk about things you can do to help feel connected when you are not able to be together. In the last article you learned a few good coping mechanisms for times when you feel alone. Working on hobbies, hanging out [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

Welcome kallista to Submissive Guide contributors! It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Ask lunaKM – Is submission a need?

Ask lunaKM – Is submission a need?

Is it possible to have a need for submission? I’m in an amazing “vanilla” relationship, with a past of D/S for both of us. We both know of the other’s past, and recently began to incorporate some D/S components to our relationship. The issue is I feel like I have a need to submit. It’s [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Is an action that is repeated the same way each time, usually at some [...]

1 comment Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

SGBHC #10 | Review a Submissive Guide eBook

Welcome everyone to the Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge (SGBHC)!  I am so thrilled to see you here!  First, the challenge… Submissive Challenge #10 Review a Submissive Guide eBook Pick out one of the 3 free ebooks available on the site and review it. Share what you do and don’t like about it and how you [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
SGBHC #9 | Your Favorite Submissive Ritual

SGBHC #9 | Your Favorite Submissive Ritual

Welcome everyone to the Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge (SGBHC)!  I am so thrilled to see you here!  First, the challenge… Submissive Challenge #9 Favorite Submissive Ritual Do you have a ritual that reminds you of your submission or your relationship dynamic each and every time you do it? How did it get started? What does [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Massage as Ritual

Massage as Ritual

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3-17-12 KnyghtMare enjoys a foot massage on what used to be a regular basis. Every Sunday night I would fill the plastic tub with hot water and salts to soak his feet before his massage. After they had soaked I would towel them off and then with massage oil or [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #9 | Your Favorite Submissive Ritual

One of the things that people love most about this site is gaining new knowledge and viewpoints.  I have taken it upon myself to organize a day to take place once a month that will encourage bloggers to challenge themselves and explore their submissive choices! Read all the important guidelines  and FAQ on the Blog Hop [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
What Does It Means to be Collared?

What Does It Means to be Collared?

If you need to learn more about collars before reading this post, I suggest What is a Collar? What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some it is a new beginning in a journey. For others it is a step in the training process. It [...]

30 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-17-11 We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Throughout history people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, ceremony that comes from other parts [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
A Day in the Life: fuzzyP

A Day in the Life: fuzzyP

This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series. I was asked by luna to write about one of my typical days in service to my Dominant. While that task is straight-forward enough, the challenge lies in making one of my typical days entertaining and illuminating for you, the reader. [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Male Submission
…And Along Came Baby: Parenting and Submission

…And Along Came Baby: Parenting and Submission

As a parent of 2 children and the active property of my Owner and Husband, I thought perhaps it was time to begin writing some about the trials and tribulations as well as the joys and experiences of the parent slave.  I was surprised when I first began writing about this topic that no one [...]

18 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
5 Ways to Reset Your “Feel Submissive” Button

5 Ways to Reset Your “Feel Submissive” Button

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7-23-11 Submission – it’s hard work. For the 24/7 types it’s an all the time thing. So what happens if you wake up one day and you don’t feel like submitting? You could voice it as a break or get really cranky every time you are asked to perform your [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Newsletter Archive
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