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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 2 of 7) – More Specific Guidelines

In this part of Ambrosio’s series on Leather protocol and etiquette; appropriate behavior at munches and other gatherings where socializing happens as well as how to handle trolls and other inappropriate behavior.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

What does it mean to hit the wall? Let’s explore how deep the rabbit hole goes and become more aware of our own limits during play.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
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Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

Maturity ripens a slave in the most delectable way. Learn about Mama Vi and her confidence in Leather as an older slave.

Dealing With Submissive Burnout

Dealing With Submissive Burnout

There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. The good thing, burnout isn’t a permanent problem.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
The Training Collar

The Training Collar

Thoughts of a training collar occur when the Dominant and submissive have grown much more serious and that they are actively bonding and attaching to each other with considerations of a potentially long-term full-time relationship.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness

Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness

I learned a few lessons and truths that every submissive should keep in mind when your Dominant is under great strain. Here’s what you can do to help your own Dominant through grief.

5 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
How to Ask for What You Need as a Submissive

How to Ask for What You Need as a Submissive

Don’t be afraid to speak up when you need or want something different. You never really stop negotiating in D/s.

10 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
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Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference?

There is no right or wrong way to serve. I do think some slaves are more prone to reactive service and there are some slaves who are more proactive.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Service
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Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For?

Here are some basic things you should probably look for in a Dominant.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
How Being Too Eager Is Not Always a Good Thing for a Submissive

How Being Too Eager Is Not Always a Good Thing for a Submissive

Being too eager can endanger your rational thought, your emotional and physical well-being and create a line for Dominants to take advantage of you. Here’s where eagerness gets tricky.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why is Submission So Hard!

Why is Submission So Hard!

Submission is hard. It’s not an escape from the world and it doesn’t make you any less of a responsible adult. Being a supportive partner requires work and devotion.

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

The responsibility of a submissive doesn’t disappear at any time. You need to look out for yourself and learn to communicate effectively with those you wish to play with, whether it’s the first or 500th time you’ve done so.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

If all we have for responsibility is to be obedient then we are getting the easy job. And that’s just not the way I see submission. There is no power exchange if you just have to obey commands.

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Single Submissives Need Personal Responsibility

Single Submissives Need Personal Responsibility

Knowing how to keep yourself safe and guard your vulnerability until you can expose it to the one you trust is a valuable trait.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

Even when things seem okay. He is constantly in the negative. He is not tending to His personal affairs at all & is under quite a bit of self-imposed, weight. I have my own room, which I love. However, I feel so lonely, neglected, etc. What can I do? He says I am impertinent, impetuous, & insolent. Yet, I feel like He wants me to Dom myself. I hope you can help.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

It’s hard sometimes to open up and talk about what’s going on. Yes, it is much easier for one party to just assume that the other party knows what’s going on when in reality; they don’t even have a clue. How is a slave’s Master to know that the slave is struggling with keeping in the mindset they need unless the slave speaks up?

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

This post is more about the D/s decisions surrounding children that have come to my attention through requests for advice and by reading discussions on forums. Below are my personal opinions about these topics and anything I say here should be weighed against your own morals and beliefs. Make your own decisions about your life.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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