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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general “vanilla” etiquette are covered.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

Be mindful of the information you know about someone else that’s kinky. Sometimes, things can seem so very innocuous that information can ‘slip’ out casually – we may innocently drop in the ears of others. The fact is they either teeter on outing someone or can flat-out out someone.

Comments Off Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Safety
My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

It is very difficult to lead somebody. Exponentially so when she answers to another.

1 comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Training Collar

The Training Collar

Thoughts of a training collar occur when the Dominant and submissive have grown much more serious and that they are actively bonding and attaching to each other with considerations of a potentially long-term full-time relationship.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How I Started a Simple BDSM Protocol, and How You Can Too!

How I Started a Simple BDSM Protocol, and How You Can Too!

Protocol isn’t lovely to see because it’s complex, it’s lovely to see because it takes something so simple and makes it special.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship)

Other than fulfilling pleasure, your sexual needs are just as important as any other needs you have in a relationship; from love or happiness, trust and honesty, being taken care of or anything else you’ve determined is a need for you in a relationship.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex, Relationships, Sex and Sexuality
Personal Safety Advice when Dating and in New D/s Relationships

Personal Safety Advice when Dating and in New D/s Relationships

I felt it important to ask about personal safety. I was wondering about warning signs for dangers to avoid?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For?

Here are some basic things you should probably look for in a Dominant.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

The first meeting with the person that you’ve begun to build an emotional bond with can be a pretty daunting prospect. Here are a couple of tips and suggestions that will help you during your planning process and throughout your time together.

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

What can i say to those who snub their noses at the old school ways of BDSM to maybe make them see how damaging what they are doing is? Or even possibly help to change their attitudes?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Community
Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

The responsibility of a submissive doesn’t disappear at any time. You need to look out for yourself and learn to communicate effectively with those you wish to play with, whether it’s the first or 500th time you’ve done so.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
What Am I Entitled To?

What Am I Entitled To?

He gets nasty and acts like he is entitled to many submissives…I’m not getting what I need.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
What Do I Do When He Says “Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving”?

What Do I Do When He Says “Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving”?

He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Master has now said that he sees this as a major obstacle to our relationship and doesn’t know if He can continue being with me.

21 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Sex and Sexuality
Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Sometimes, I do feel weak for having these moments, but I have to realize that after all, I’m still human and have all those wonderful human emotions and thought processes to deal with.

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. For some, this time means a celebration of your relationship and the commitment that is about to happen. A formal collaring ceremony is what came about because of this need.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
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