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Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

I listened to a podcast from Erotic Awakening the other day that talked about The Slave Journal. The idea for this document is not the same as having a journal or blog to document your life in and I thought it was an excellent idea and a useful tool for many relationships. Maybe even yours! [...]

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/22/12 Disclaimer: I do not have children nor are they in my future. The post below discusses the issue of deciding to have children for a variety of reasons besides a natural progression of wanting them, having a partner that wants them and then working towards that end. When KnyghtMare [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

Research Page: BDSM Checklists

As you may already know I spend a lot of time surfing the internet and reading about a lot of topics that pertain to BDSM and submission on a daily basis. One of the things I encounter almost everywhere I go are BDSM checklists. Interestingly enough it’s one of the more common requests on the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals

[Video Post] Introducing BDSM to Your Partner

On the heels of a fantastic three-post series on this very subject I’ve been receiving requests for advice and help on how to introduce BDSM to your partner, so I’m going to talk about the key points I think will help any partner open up about BDSM with their mate. It is a scary proposition [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should.  But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.  I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.”  In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it way [...]

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships
The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/21/12 Submission definitely isn’t easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife  challenge you to continue your submission. I’m a bit hesitant to say that it’s common to struggle as a submissive, but I do know that a lot of what I [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Ask Anything | Painfully Shy and New

Ask Anything | Painfully Shy and New

Hello, I’m very inexperienced in the world of D/s. I’ve read lots of information to try and help me understand myself and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is what I’ve always been looking for. I’m at a stage now where I feel that I need to talk to other submissives [...]

3 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submission in Marriage – Shifting from Husband and Wife to Dominant and Submissive

Submission in Marriage – Shifting from Husband and Wife to Dominant and Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-08-11 Sexual exploration and adventurousness can happen at any time in a couple’s life; and even more so once they are committed to living their lives together for a long time. One of the ways that I’ve seen couples explore their sexual selves is by adding an element of D/s to the [...]

For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter

This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Safety

Overcoming Frustration and Anger as a Submissive

Frustration is a normal human response. It can get out of hand and escalate to anger if not handled well. As submissives we seem to deal with frustration more openly than others in the lifestyle. Let’s start with a definition from wikipedia about frustration. In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset
A Day in the Life Series – Post Requests

A Day in the Life Series – Post Requests

I want to hear what your relationship is like! In December (edit: no deadline, on-going series) I will be running a series of your posts telling us what a typical day is like in service to your Dominant. Every one of you is welcome to write a post. Your submissive life is just as interesting [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...

The Real Truth Behind the Fear of Topping from the Bottom

There are a lot of things on the internet talking about topping from the bottom as being a bad bad submissive thing. It’s made people terrified that everything they do could be crossing that terrible line. It’s not true. I’ve mentioned it before and I’ll say it again. Bottom topping isn’t as bad as it is [...]

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Video Posts
Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

From Submissive Guide Newsletter published 1/9/10 Every year many people sit down and make a long list of resolutions they’d like to accomplish in the coming year. It’s a grand idea and one that I tend to participate in every other year or so. But the downfall of this sort of plan is in the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Training Resume
Submissive Skills: Service Topping For Your Dominant’s Pleasure

Submissive Skills: Service Topping For Your Dominant’s Pleasure

Every relationship dynamic is different. If you’ve been following this blog for any length of time you have been exposed to some very unique relationships and the submissives in those relationships. There are submissives who are pets, some who are slaves, others who, like you’ve read recently, are hunt sluts for their owners. Today I’m [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Chat Night Transcript for Speaking Submissively

Chat Night Transcript for Speaking Submissively

This chat was held on December 2nd, 2009. ~lunaKM> So tonight I wanted to talk about speech and how the way we communicate can impact our submission. Nia> tonight’s topic really struck a chord with me angel> same here ~lunaKM> I’ve been doing a bit of non-scientific research of my own when I am out [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
One month into my first real time D/S relationship: A Training Review

One month into my first real time D/S relationship: A Training Review

This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]

26 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
5 Ways to Express Your Gratitude to Your Dominant

5 Ways to Express Your Gratitude to Your Dominant

With Thanksgiving (USA) just around the corner I thought it would be fitting to write about gratitude, and how to express your gratitude to the one you serve. Sure you can say thank you. That’s standard. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank  you, but what if you want a few more [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
Chat Night Transcript From What is Service Talk

Chat Night Transcript From What is Service Talk

lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
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