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The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2

In part 2, you’ll learn how to figure out what you need in a D/s relationship and what is expected of you within the blossoming relationship. It’s all about what you want and need and getting as much of that as possible. Live happy. Don’t settle.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Breaking up is traumatic and should be managed like grief and loss. It can’t be rushed and everyone deals with it differently. But as long as you have patience you can help your partner make it out the other side.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

I am looking for opinions on whether or not poly means both sides of the slash should be able to have other partners.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

50/50 isn’t the balance of a TPE relationship. Each role gives 100%.

4 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

It is very difficult to lead somebody. Exponentially so when she answers to another.

1 comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything
BDSM Relationships: Strings or no-Strings

BDSM Relationships: Strings or no-Strings

So what sort of BDSM partner is it you’re looking for? It seems like such a simple question, after all when we think about BDSM we immediately picture a casual encounter where anything goes. However that is simply not the case, much like any situation involving two consenting people the options available to you are [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Sponsors
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Intro: Where were we again? It might be in poor taste to pick up where I left off after nearly a two-year hiatus from Submissive Guide, but I felt that long distance relationships was as appropriate as any to begin with, if not a little ironic. My Dominant and I are on the cusp of [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
When Play is No Longer Play: Recognizing Abuse in a BDSM Relationship

When Play is No Longer Play: Recognizing Abuse in a BDSM Relationship

There seems to be this very misguided idea that it is entirely acceptable for the dominant partner in a relationship to participate in aggressive play when they are angry, so long as it is referred to as a scene or as being kinky. I am going to tell you on no uncertain terms that if [...]

8 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Safety
How I Identify as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

How I Identify as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/22/14 I’ve written a few times about the change in my personal relationship with KnyghtMare and I. He had play and relationship needs that I couldn’t meet and it was creating a rift between us. The only solution that we could see was to open up the relationship. It evolved [...]

Are D/s Relationships Better than Vanilla Ones?

Are D/s Relationships Better than Vanilla Ones?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6-7-14 I see it all the time on discussion boards and we talk about it at social gatherings. I’ve even thought it a time or two. D/s relationships are better than vanilla ones. We see them as deeper, more intimate, better at communication and meeting the individual’s needs as well [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/5/14 I think the most frequent question on every novices lips is, “where do I go to find people, partners and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
How Do I Let Him Know I’d Like Some Attention?

How Do I Let Him Know I’d Like Some Attention?

Dear LunaKMI am fairly new to the Dom/s relationship and have talked to a Dom online texts and but the phone. I am having trouble with understanding all the dynamics and was so relieved to find your site, thank u by the way. Here’s my question … He requests a morning text and a nightly [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Online Submission
Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/01/14 It’s common for relationships that are D/s in nature to start out in the bedroom and then slowly move to fill part or all of your life. But the daunting task of adjusting to that transition is enough to scare people away from ever doing it or from maintaining [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

The Top 3 Books I Recommend to Everyone New to BDSM

Since the late 90′s there has been an increase in the number of books available for people wanting information about BDSM and D/s style relationships. I can’t say it’s a saturated market, but it is overwhelming sometimes trying to find quality material to read that won’t leave you confused or stuck in a “this is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Book Review: Conquer Me

Book Review: Conquer Me

This is a guest review by Astryyd. I have always been a person that thinks somewhat out of the box for most of my life and have never been one to ‘go along’ with a crowd. My relationships always seem to defy convention and so too my journey into the world of submission which is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Reviews
Why Confidence is Important to Submission

Why Confidence is Important to Submission

At first, I originally had something else planned for my next article, but for some reason, the word confidence keeps going through my mind. Not one of those normal passing thoughts, but one of those thoughts that keep lingering and I can’t shake to save my life. So, I figured the only way to clear my [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
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