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Simply Service eZine: May 2008

Simply Service eZine: May 2008

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from May 2008. Topics include Productivity Tools, Is Slavery Real?, Rules of Bedding and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Simply Service eZine: November 2006

Simply Service eZine: November 2006

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from November 2006. Topics include Personal Responsibility in BDSM, The Role of Slavery in Modern Society, a Dominant’s View of Service and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How can I tell my partner that I’m not going anywhere and am interested in a long term relationship and possibly marriage?

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
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M/s and When Life Happens: Unexpected Happenings

Over the past few months, my life has been a whirlwind of obligations, setbacks, injuries, working with an aging parent, and apparently an abundance of emails… ‘Life happened’ all over my perfectly scheduled routine and pristinely managed emotions. In the vanilla world ‘life’ is expected to happen – meaning, we expect the unexpected because that’s [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

My boyfriend and I have only recently taken the baby steps from a vanilla relationship to a D/s one. I feel like I’ve followed all the suggested steps about how to transition a relationship, I follow submissive guide religiously, I’ve read lots of books and done plenty of research. We’ve talked and set down guidelines. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Is He Ignoring Me or Has He Moved On?

Is He Ignoring Me or Has He Moved On?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Online Submission
Reconnecting When I Feel A Disconnect with My Submission

Reconnecting When I Feel A Disconnect with My Submission

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been with Master for almost 9 months, and although I love our relationship I feel like there is a disconnect with my submission. I know it’s a weird way to phrase it but I don’t know how else to put it. I have generally loved being Master’s “Good Girl” But recently I’ve [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/5/14 I think the most frequent question on every novices lips is, “where do I go to find people, partners and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Why is Submission So Hard!

Why is Submission So Hard!

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/20/13 I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
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