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Why Safety is Preached to Novices and Why It’s Important to Know Anyway

By lunaKM on June 4, 2010

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/3/10 Being in the BDSM community for any length of time you are likely to come across the common sermons of SSC, Safe Calls and First Meeting Safety. When you are novice in BDSM I’d encourage you to listen to these sermons and listen hard; they could protect you as [...]

Posted in Newsletter Archive, Safety | Tagged advice, basics, community, lifestyle, mantra, newsletter, novices, red flags, rules, safe call, Safety, SSC, submissive guide newsletter | 1 Response

Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

By lunaKM on May 21, 2009

Today’s post comes from Skylerpet, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship with experience in online submission. Thank you Skylerpet! Online D/s is perhaps one of the most controversial subjects in the Dominance and submission community. The stance i will take on this subject, based on online D/s relationships of my own, is that yes; it [...]

Posted in Online Submission | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, bdsm play, blogs, Bondage, calendar, changing, chat, community, cons, control, cyber relationships, D/s, desires, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dress, dynamic, dynamics, email, emotions, essays, experience, family, favorite, friends, guest post, honesty, information, internet, internet tools, IRC, kinky, lifestyle, love, needs, online, online D/s, online dominance, Online Submission, online training, opinion, partners, pet play, play, predators, questions, real life, red flags, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, Safety, security, sex, short, skylerpet, slave, stress, submission, submissive, tasks, titles, trust, twitter, wants, websites, writing | 2 Responses

Identifying Fake Dominants and Posers

By lunaKM on April 7, 2009

This week’s video tip is on Red Flags of Fake Dominants. The question I was asked today is, “How do you identify fake Dominants and what are some red flags to be watchful of?” First, what is a fake Dominant? A fake Dominant is someone who is just out for sex, fantasy and an easy [...]

Posted in Online Submission, Relationships, Safety, Video Posts | Tagged changing, chat, common sense, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, experience, fake dominants, fantasy, first meetings, friends, information, on a break, online, play, predators, real life, red flags, relationship, rt, rules, safe, safe call, safety advice, sex, share, submission, tricks, value | 14 Responses

10 Red Flags of Bad or Abusive Dominants

10 Red Flags of Bad or Abusive Dominants

By lunaKM on February 20, 2009

Predators and abusive Dominants are everywhere. I’ve seen them and been subjected to them in a casual relationship. Thankfully I escaped into a kind and loving relationship that I wouldn’t trade for the world. But how do you know the person you are with is an abuser and not just  a strict Dominant? I’m going [...]

Posted in BDSM Basics, Safety | Tagged abuse, abusive relationships, assistance, BDSM, clothing, connection, danger, dangers, dating, Dom, domestic violence project, dominant, dominants, essays, family, guilt, help, internet, learning, leather, limits, love, national leather association, needs, play, predators, red flags, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, sex, support, trust, warning signs, warnings | 4 Responses

A Submissive Approach to Safe, Sane and Consensual

A Submissive Approach to Safe, Sane and Consensual

By lunaKM on February 2, 2009

When you first enter the more public BDSM community one of the largest catch phrases you will here is SSC, also known as Safe, Sane and Consensual. It is a security blanket approach to safety when playing and negotiation of play. As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and [...]

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