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Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/15/14 As a novice submissive it can be an exciting endeavor to enter into a relationship right away before you know anything about BDSM or D/s, or even being introduced to the dynamic from someone you met online or face to face. People do it everyday. It is also one [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Newsletter Archive
Ask lunaKM – Can I have a Dom if the Husband Doesn’t Know?, Alcohol Assault and Feeling Faint

Ask lunaKM – Can I have a Dom if the Husband Doesn’t Know?, Alcohol Assault and Feeling Faint

Dear lunaKM, I have recently come to terms that I cannot continue to allow myself to suppress my need to be a submissive. My issue lies with the fact I am now married. I love my husband but I’m not sure he has the ability to be Dom. I have fought my personal demons with [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Office Hours for the Week of 10/7/13

Office Hours for the Week of 10/7/13

If you ever wished I was more available for conversation, advice or questions I will now be online in the chat room for “office hours” every other week. Why do I call it Office Hours? Much like a teacher would have times they are available for students to visit, I’m opening my “doors” for you [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Webmaster Notes

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

It has been a long lonely week here with KnyghtMare off at froggyKM’s. I haven’t been bored, but I’ve been very lonely. There’s plenty of work to keep me busy and yet my mind wandered to being alone often. It’s interesting how much you miss someone’s presence, even not in the same room, when they [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

4 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

What grand news I have today! This week, barring issues, I’ll be moving and preparing to debut new features in the community and if you’d like more information, check out the recent post. I’m really hoping to be able to give you more of a place to talk and get support and learn more about [...]

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Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Online Submission

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

I want to thank everyone who reached out last week when the Weekend Reflections post, and several others did not get posted. I was quite sick and healing as fast as I could. I’m better now, thankfully. This weekend KnyghtMare spent a few days with froggyKM and I had the home to myself. It is [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

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