Mentoring, self-help and submissive exploration

Articles for tag 'questions'

Articles

New to BDSM and Sexual Experience

New to BDSM and Sexual Experience

Can a virgin with no sexual experience be a sub?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

It seems that no matter how long you’ve been doing this thing we call submission, there are times of rebellion, confusion, frustration and just not getting it right.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

Should you start saying you enjoy kinky sex? Is it bad to be kinky? What is kinky anyway?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

I’m going to guide you to the answers, but you’ll still have to do your own work as far as finding the answers that will work for you.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Ask lunaKM – Can I have a Dom if the Husband Doesn’t Know?, Alcohol Assault and Feeling Faint

Ask lunaKM – Can I have a Dom if the Husband Doesn’t Know?, Alcohol Assault and Feeling Faint

Dear lunaKM, I have recently come to terms that I cannot continue to allow myself to suppress my need to be a submissive. My issue lies with the fact I am now married. I love my husband but I’m not sure he has the ability to be Dom. I have fought my personal demons with [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

A frequent misconception with poly is that it’s orgiastic group sex all the time.

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

Ways that a submissive can teach without worrying about “being Dominant” in order for the education to happen and also ways that a submissive could take on education and share that knowledge with their Dominant as a part of their service.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more about pain play.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

It is okay to miss someone you loved. It is okay to reflect upon the relationship. The trouble lies when it becomes an obsession.

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Petitioning is an acknowledgment of structure and formality; it is definitely a humbling experience for a slave. It is also a way for a slave to solidly express their desires – no hemming and hawing, no beating around the bush, just a determined statement of the desire.

After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

Submissive Guide has a lot of resources on clean up, aftercare and check-ins that get lost in the archives. I’ve pulled together what I have here, as well as all over the web to make this a comprehensive post for all things “after the scene”. Bookmark it, share it, use it.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Page 1 of 712345...Last »

Become a Patron of Submissive Guide - And Get Exclusive Bonuses!Join the Tribe Today!