By lunaKM on August 25, 2010
Q: I am a relatively new submissive. I have had two previous D/s relationships. One was ended suddenly – just a week or so after being given a collar, he suddenly disappeared from my life with no explanation. I have since realised that the collar came without any understandings or pre-requisites should have been a [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged expectations, learning, needs, novice, questions, safe words, SehAnru, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on July 26, 2010
Q: I have question. I’m a Sub newbie under a Dom’s consideration for a D/s relationship. Our relationship is not just confined to the bedroom but throughout our entire relationship. The only time we follow “norm” conduct is in the vanilla world. My Dom has made it clear that he practices domestic discipline (non abusive [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, DD, domestic discipline, Q&A, questions, vanilla relationship |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2010
Each month I answer questions asked by readers like you. Come see what I’ve answered this month. Q: I’m quite new to the idea of being a submissive, but after a lot of research and buying a lot of books, I feel that I am ready to explore a bit more. I met an online [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged amazon.com, commitment, D/s relationship, Dominance, information, needs, novice, questions, submission, understanding, wants |
By SehAnru on June 15, 2010
I have to say; probably the worst thing you can do to a writer is ask him or her to write about him or herself. It is the number one reason why I am not writing an autobiography, okay.. yet. We are hyper critical about ourselves in that manner. But I am always open to [...]
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By lunaKM on May 26, 2010
Every month I ask for your anonymous questions and pleas for advice. Here are the few I got this month. First one is about introducing D/s into an existing relationship. I also cover 2 dominant relationship, just starting out and writing a letter of intent. How do I introduce my husband to the D/s or [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, expectations, experience, information, marriage, needs, negotiation, negotiations, novice, poly, questions, serving, training, Training Resume, two dominants, understanding |
By lunaKM on May 3, 2010
This is a response to the following request for advice: I have a Dom, and He loves me. But the things is, sometimes he act as my “boyfriend” then he acts as my Master. I am having trouble dealing with the fact that he wants that Master and sub relationship as my utmost and foremost [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, blind faith, challenges, defining roles, learning, novice, power exchange, questions, understanding |
By lunaKM on April 28, 2010
This month I have a few new questions for you! As always, if you have questions you’d like answered then shoot me an email and I’ll do my best to help you out! If you find that you have another piece of advice to give that I may have overlooked please leave a comment. Your [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, learning, novice, pain threshold, play, questions, safewords |
By lunaKM on March 1, 2010
As so many bloggers are known to do, I am opening up this site for your questions… even the personal ones. March is the month known in a small sphere as Question Month! If you have a question about submission, your own struggles or anything to do with BDSM this is your chance. I’ll also [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged advice, ask luna, ask me, BDSM, email, experience, question month, questions, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on February 24, 2010
Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My inbox is always open so you can send me questions whenever they occur. Last month I answered questions about appropriate greetings and topping [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, answers, ask me, emotions, information, novices, questions, series, understanding |
By lunaKM on January 25, 2010
This year I’m starting a new series of posts that will occur once a month just like the Roundtable did last year. Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged ask me, comfort, munch, munches, novices, questions, topping from the bottom |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By lunaKM on December 11, 2009
Gather around the table everyone, I’d like to learn about something I don’t know a lot about. I welcome you to add your thoughts and comments to this post and if you feel an inclination, send me a guest post letting me know what you think. This month I’d like to talk about money. Here’s [...]
Posted in Roundtable Discussions | Tagged budgeting, control, gift purchasing, guest post, inclination, money handling, questions, relationship, roundtable discussion |
By lunaKM on November 20, 2009
Gather around the table everyone, I’d like to learn about something I don’t know a lot about. I welcome you to add your thoughts and comments to this post and if you feel an inclination, send me a guest post letting me know what you think. This month I’d like to talk about chastity. If [...]
Posted in Roundtable Discussions | Tagged cages, chastity, chastity belts, choice, cons, control, guest post, inclination, love, opinion, orgasm control, questions, rt, submission |
By lunaKM on November 14, 2009
Submissive Guide.com is doing wonderfully as a start up site and I hope that each and every one of you has learned and grown in your submission since you found this site and it’s associated resources. I’m just one person hoping to provide you with something you may not be able to find somewhere else. [...]
Posted in Video Posts, Webmaster Notes | Tagged advice, ask luna, ask me, get advice, help, learned, mentor, questions, requests, Resources, rt, submission, submissive, suggestions, value |
By lunaKM on November 4, 2009
So, you want me to tell you how you can tell if you are submissive or not? Asking someone else if you are submissive is like asking a blind man what color your dress is. Is there some magical online quiz that can say whether you are submissive or slave? Unfortunately no and I don’t [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, choice, choices, community, connection, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dress, experience, happiness, help, inclination, learned, learning, Mindset, natural, online, personal choices, poses, prayer, questions, relationship, religion, ritual, rt, Service, serving, sex, slave, spirit, spiritual, standing, stimulus, submission, submissive, trust, understanding |
By lunaKM on October 26, 2009
I’ve been witness to a shocking new trend in relationships lately. Perhaps I’m old school or old fashioned but what I’m seeing in today’s society, and not just the BDSM culture, is the lack of effort in relationships. As I was raised I was taught that something worthwhile wasn’t always easy to achieve and you [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, BDSM, begging, communication, cons, disposable, disposable relationship mentality, disposable relationships, experience, family, happiness, love, marriage, online, questions, recommendations, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, spirit, spiritual, standing, understanding |
By lunaKM on October 6, 2009
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Please cross-post Welcome to the 3rd Annual Submissive Journey Weekend… I am proud to announce that registration for the next Submissive Journey Weekend is now open. We cordially invite those who identify as submissive, slave, girl, boi /boy, bottom, pup, etc. to a weekend of learning, growth and support. All genders, [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged BDSM event, bottom, classes, discussion, educational opportunities, event, experience, focus, gender, growth, information, journey, learning, love, questions, relationship, rt, Service, sex, sexual orientation, share, SJW, skills, slave, submissive, submissive event, submissive journey weekend, support, training |
By lunaKM on September 23, 2009
Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged aftercare, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, comfort, cons, consensual, D/s, development, Dom, dominant, dominants, help, journey, novice, online, play, Playtime, questions, RACK, relationship, Relationships, risk, risk aware, rt, safe, safewords, sane, scene, share, single, SSC, sub drop, sub frenzy, sub space, submission, submissive, subspace, toy, toybag, trust |
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