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Sub v. Slave: A Second Opinion

Sub v. Slave: A Second Opinion

By Guest Author on November 18, 2009

This is a guest post by Beth, as she will tell you, she’s a 24/7 slave of 2 years and would like to express what she sees as the differences between sub and slave. If you would like to read Rayne’s opinion, you can do so on this post. First off I would like to introduce [...]

Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, Beth, bottom, choice, choices, communication, cons, consensual, definitions, discipline, fetlife, guest post, learned, lifestyle, limits, online, opinion, play, punishment, punishments, Rayne, rt, scene, size, slave, slavery, submissive, training, twitter, writing | 1 Response

A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

By lunaKM on August 10, 2009

Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]

Posted in Online Submission, Relationships | Tagged BDSM, blogs, book, calendar, chat, chat room, clothing, communication, control, Dom, dominant, email, essays, event, favorite, focus, growth, help, infraction, learning, lectures, limits, negotiation, obedience, online, online D/s, orgasms, public punishment, punishment, punishments, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, self punishment ideas, self-discipline, sex, sexual chastisement, single, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, writing, writing essays | 6 Responses

Can I Be Abused in a BDSM Relationship?

By lunaKM on June 2, 2009

This week’s video post is about BDSM vs. Abuse. A BDSM relationship, especially one with sadomasochistic moments, is subject to questions all the time about it’s proximity to abuse. It is not uncommon to have people unfamiliar with BDSM to say that what we do is abuse and violence; we see it all the time [...]

Posted in BDSM Basics, Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, BDSM vs Abuse, community, cons, consensual, contracts, control, danger, Dom, domestic violence project, Dominance, dominant, experience, family, health, healthy BDSM, journey, leather, lifestyle, m/s, masochist, national leather association, natural, negotiation, newsletter, partners, poly, punishment, punishments, questions, relationship, rt, scene, Service, sex, slave, stress, submissive, trust, value | Leave a response

Carte Blanche – Repeating Misbehavior Patterns

Carte Blanche – Repeating Misbehavior Patterns

By lunaKM on May 14, 2009

Getting in trouble. We’ve all been there a time or two. It comes with learning and training new things as well as changing behaviors. Our Dominants generally don’t derive any pleasure out of punishing us and the guilt we put on ourselves can be more damaging than the misdeed in the first place. Allowing that [...]

Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, attitude, behavior patterns, carte blanche, changing, changing behavior, clean, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, dominants, energy, experience, focus, guilt, help, journey, learned, learning, Mindset, needs, normal, novice, play, progress, punishment, punishments, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, support, training, trust, wants | 1 Response

Two Dominants

Two Dominants

By Guest Author on April 11, 2009

Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them. [...]

Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, Aria, bottom, chat, communication, connection, cons, conventions, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, emotions, event, experience, fetlife, focus, guest post, help, jealousy, lifestyle, loneliness, love, Mindset, natural, normal, partners, play, poly, polyamory, punishment, punishments, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, scene, sex, share, submission, submissive, switch, trust, two dominants, wants, writing | 2 Responses

A Great Example of a Slave’s Rosary

A Great Example of a Slave’s Rosary

By lunaKM on March 21, 2009

On FetLife quite awhile back now, a slave posted her version of a rosary with her Master as the focus. As with any rosary or prayer beads, it is used in mediation and presents a spirituality in service that can be adopted and adapted to fit your relationship. I’ve always had a curiosity with religious [...]

Posted in Mindset, Spirituality, Submission | Tagged comfort, community, cons, desires, Dom, fetlife, focus, Gor, grace, gratitude, love, mantra, mediation, melly, prayer, punishment, punishments, recitation, relationship, ritual, rosary, rt, Service, share, single, slave, slavery, spirit, spiritual, submission, submissive, trust | 13 Responses

Submission By Choice: Learned Submission

Submission By Choice: Learned Submission

By lunaKM on January 5, 2009

Submission has been called a gift. It has been said to be a natural characteristic. Submission is also a choice. When I first entered the lifestyle, no one would have mistaken me for a submissive. I am strong willed, commanding and independent. I have a dominant personality. Nature, society and the way I was brought [...]

Posted in Submission | Tagged attitude, changing, choice, clothing, control, desires, development, Dom, dominant, friends, help, housework, journey, learned, lifestyle, look back, natural, needs, normal, personal development, pride, punishment, punishments, purpose, rt, Service, sex, submission, submissive, support, wants | 1 Response

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