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[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

Welcome to a mini-series here on the channel that I’m going to call Define This! In this series you are welcome to ask me to define terms found in the BDSM and D/s lexicon that you don’t know and I will make a brief video defining it for you. Sounds simple enough, right?  I want [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Video Posts
Ask Submissive Guide: Getting Angry Over Punishment

Ask Submissive Guide: Getting Angry Over Punishment

Hello, I have a question. I’m having a hard time getting past just being angry when my Dom punishes me. Specifically corporal punishment. I understand what I do wrong but it is so hard to just lay there and take it as they say. I don’t want to start a conflict with Sir, I just [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals

About Punishment

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Punishment is one of those areas which is not what it seems. Before you can develop tools or methods of punishment you have to look at the concepts behind the issue itself. To [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

Recently I was in a discussion about safewords, but it wasn’t the usual definitions and whether they are truly useful so I thought I’d work though my thoughts on it here and share it with you. The question that was presented was whether safewords should be allowed during punishment and if they weren’t was that [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
When Play is No Longer Play: Recognizing Abuse in a BDSM Relationship

When Play is No Longer Play: Recognizing Abuse in a BDSM Relationship

There seems to be this very misguided idea that it is entirely acceptable for the dominant partner in a relationship to participate in aggressive play when they are angry, so long as it is referred to as a scene or as being kinky. I am going to tell you on no uncertain terms that if [...]

8 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Ideas for Discreet Punishment

Ask lunaKM – Ideas for Discreet Punishment

Hi! My boyfriend and I both want a BDSM relationship, but we both still have roommates. He’s hesitant to continue discussion on rules he would like for me to follow due to the fact that punishment for these rules would be hard due to lack of privacy. Any suggestions about discreet punishments? Having a BDSM [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Online Submission
Ask lunaKM – Is He Doing This Just For Me?

Ask lunaKM – Is He Doing This Just For Me?

Dear lunaKM, I have been in a vanilla relationship for quite some time and lately we’ve been trying out sub/dom. I’m a sub but not only in the bedroom. I like to be told what to do and punished if I don’t complete them. I’m the kind of person that needs that punishment because I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – A Disconnect with Submission

Ask lunaKM – A Disconnect with Submission

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been with Master for almost 9 months, and although I love our relationship I feel like there is a disconnect with my submission. I know it’s a weird way to phrase it but I don’t know how else to put it. I have generally loved being Master’s “Good Girl” But recently I’ve [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
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The Controversy of Safe Words during Punishment

A few months ago, a heated topic was being discussed in a lifestyle group that I’m a member of on Facebook. The reason the topic became so heated was because, well, of me. I wasn’t really surprised by this because well, I do have a tendency to create controversy. It was so bad this time, [...]

10 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Safety
The Punishment Place: Dealing with Punishment as a Slave

The Punishment Place: Dealing with Punishment as a Slave

This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. Sometimes I get punished for not following a rule, doing something I know I’m not supposed to or vice versa. Those punishments seem perfunctory. It’s an integral part of our lifestyle, this discipline and punishment. Maybe just to keep the roles we each live clearly defined. [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Views & More...
What to Do When Punishment Starts to Feel Good

What to Do When Punishment Starts to Feel Good

You are in trouble and awaiting corporal punishment. You are anxious, sad, depressed, frustrated about the whole thing but you know that you did something wrong and need to atone for it to get on the right path again. No one likes getting punished (at least you shouldn’t), so what happens if, as the punishment [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Humiliation as Punishment – Is it Healthy?

Ask lunaKM – Humiliation as Punishment – Is it Healthy?

Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment?  I mean, it’s fun during scenes.  You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts.  During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone.  That’s why you’re being [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

from The Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/16/13 When fantasies abound about slavery they often go something like this: The slave is always nude, chained or caged waiting for the Master to decide what to do with them. They make no decisions themselves, the Master declares that he will tell them when to eat, sleep and piss. [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Learn How to Set Goals and Reach Them!

Learn How to Set Goals and Reach Them!

Today I’m excited to announce the launch of a brand new eCourse, Setting Goals, here at Submissive Guide. This ecourse is all about finding and achieving your submissive and life goals and today it is just $10. Sign up for the eCourse today. If you’ve ever wished you knew how to set goals and keep yourself accountable [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Submissive Advent – Day 16: Prayer

Submissive Advent – Day 16: Prayer

Today is day 16 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. This has been all over the internet but it’s a great find. Read it and connect to your own submission today. A [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
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