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By lunaKM on February 8, 2010
Reading across the blogosphere you will encounter these words almost synonymous to each other: Discipline and Punishment. The words are far from the same however some dynamics treat them the same. In fact for the longest time I have used the word punishment when I mean discipline. It’s even possible that Master has used these [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged definitions, differences in words, discipline, discipline and punishment, ideas, punishment, similarities |
By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on November 2, 2009
I love reading BDSM fiction, erotica and other service books. I broke my kinky teeth on the Story of O so I can’t ignore it on this list, but it’s not the best of the best. I’d like to offer up the books that I love and enjoy to read; most of which I like [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged amazon.com, BDSM, bdsm books, bdsm fiction, book, book list, books, erotica, kinky, love, play, punishment, rt, safe, series, Service, slave, submissive, toy |
By lunaKM on August 10, 2009
Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Relationships | Tagged BDSM, blogs, book, calendar, chat, chat room, clothing, communication, control, Dom, dominant, email, essays, event, favorite, focus, growth, help, infraction, learning, lectures, limits, negotiation, obedience, online, online D/s, orgasms, public punishment, punishment, punishments, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, self punishment ideas, self-discipline, sex, sexual chastisement, single, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, writing, writing essays |
By lunaKM on August 7, 2009
We all have those little voices in our head that tell us what to do. Sometimes it tries to convince us that our disobedience is okay. The voices are very convincing at times and then we have guilt riding with us until we come clean. Perhaps you’ve heard these voices yourself: “Come on, he won’t [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships | Tagged choice, clean, coming clean, discipline, Dom, dominant, guilt, honesty, infraction, little voices, obedience, punishment, rt, rules, share, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on June 24, 2009
“Go to your room!” Yes even adults in power exchange relationships get treated like children sometimes. A common tool for Dominants in their punishment arsenal is removal. You can be removed from the activity and sent to a time out area. For me that’s the kitchen. Ugh. I hate when I’m banished there. I can [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged 2WBSP, apologizing, atonement, banishment, communication, connection, cons, cyber relationships, Dom, dominant, dominants, email, event, hands, infraction, online, Online Submission, power exchange, punishment, relationship, Relationships, rt, separation, short, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on June 15, 2009
In a recent video post about Submissive PMS I had someone email me with some questions that I thought deserved a new post. If you haven’t seen the video or attached post, please go to the article and read it first! Now on to his questions: 1. What’s a subbie to do when, for whatever [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged bad mood, changing behavior, corrective action, discipline, Dom, dominant, dominants, email, event, focus, help, love, mantra, masculine, meditation, PMS, punishment, questions, rt, separation, submissive, submissive pms |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2009
This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings. Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where [...]
Posted in Relationships, Video Posts | Tagged 24/7, Aria, attitude, blogs, control, D/s, deeper roles, discipline, Dom, dominant, dynamic, focus, health, help, intimacy, maintenance spanking, masochist, orgasms, play, punishment, purpose, relationship, roles, rt, scheduled spanking, sex, short, spanking, submission, value |
By lunaKM on May 14, 2009
Getting in trouble. We’ve all been there a time or two. It comes with learning and training new things as well as changing behaviors. Our Dominants generally don’t derive any pleasure out of punishing us and the guilt we put on ourselves can be more damaging than the misdeed in the first place. Allowing that [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, attitude, behavior patterns, carte blanche, changing, changing behavior, clean, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, dominants, energy, experience, focus, guilt, help, journey, learned, learning, Mindset, needs, normal, novice, play, progress, punishment, punishments, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, support, training, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on May 12, 2009
This week’s video post is about masochism and submission. I mentioned this in the post about myths that submissive’s aren’t always masochist. I thought this topic deserved a more in depth discussion. I’m a masochist. I get sexual pleasure from pain. That’s wired into me. I’m also submissive. It’s who I am. For me, [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Video Posts | Tagged BDSM, discussion, Dom, Domestics, dominant, dominants, email, female, learning, Masochism, masochist, myths, play, punishment, questions, rt, Service, sex, sexual pleasure, submission, submissive, value |
By lunaKM on May 1, 2009
Today’s task is to learn an appropriate pose to take when apologizing for wrong-doing. If you need to review the past posts in this series, please take a look at the leading post. This position is hopefully something you don’t have to do often but since we are all human, it is going to happen. [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, apologizing, Dom, dominant, hands, help, infractions, kneeling, learned, learning, positions, punishment, review, rt, series, slave positions, sorry, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
By lunaKM on April 16, 2009
Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged attitude, balance, cons, definitions, depression, Dom, dominant, emotions, event, experience, guilt, help, IRC, needs, play, punishment, questions, recognizing guilt, resolving guilt, rt, sadness, self-care, sex, stereotype, submissive |
By lunaKM on April 15, 2009
Today’s post comes from Skylerpet, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship who volunteered to write an essay for me after seeing the Weekly Tips on YouTube. Thank you Skylerpet! Pet play is one of the most unique, one of the least known and in my opinion one of the most fun and entertaining sub-cultures [...]
Posted in Playtime, Relationships | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, begging, Bondage, bow, chat, collars, communication, cons, D/s, Dom, dominant, email, experience, female, focus, Gor, hands, help, human animals, human pet, learning, lifestyle, movement, needs, opinion, owned, pet play, pets, play, protocol, punishment, questions, relationship, role play, rt, rules, safe, Safety, scene, sex, short, skylerpet, slave, stress, submission, submissive, switch, tall, tips, toy, toys, training, tricks, writing |
By Guest Author on April 11, 2009
Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them. [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, Aria, bottom, chat, communication, connection, cons, conventions, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, emotions, event, experience, fetlife, focus, guest post, help, jealousy, lifestyle, loneliness, love, Mindset, natural, normal, partners, play, poly, polyamory, punishment, punishments, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, scene, sex, share, submission, submissive, switch, trust, two dominants, wants, writing |
By lunaKM on March 18, 2009
Continuing the work on your training resume, I’d like to talk about mapping out how you dream of your submission being. This is a discussion of ideals and dreams. You can be as fanciful as you want right now, we will narrow things down as we go along. There are 3 things I’d like to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Submission, Training Resume | Tagged activities, D/s, desires, discipline, discussion, dreams, dynamic, dynamics, focus, Gor, help, ideals, information, kinky, learning, links, mind maps, needs, online, play, poly, protocol, punishment, relationship, Relationships, resume, ritual, rituals, routine, rt, rules, Service, skills, slave, slavery, structure, submission, submissive, training, Training Resume, wants |
By lunaKM on March 2, 2009
Rules, instructions and assignments are things that are given to me by my Dominant for very important reasons. To follow them should bring me the pride and happiness that I feel for him, and remind me that he cares for me. Rules are in place to keep me in line, place my heart and mind [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged activities, Bondage, checklist, comfort, commitment, cons, control, development, Dom, dominant, fulfillment, happiness, help, love, Mindset, owned, pride, punishment, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on February 24, 2009
In this week’s video tip I talk about what training is to a submissive and the value it has to a D/s relationship. When someone thinks of slave training, what is the first thing that pops into your mind? Is it a submissive on their knees going through the paces that their Dominant puts them? [...]
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