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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general “vanilla” etiquette are covered.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

Every relationship can be enhanced by ritual and also every person in the exchange can get something from ritual. It’s not hard to get started either.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

13 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

I’ve been involved with local and regional BDSM groups since I first learned about BDSM in 2003. You get to meet a lot of people during events and some of them have quirks and perversions that you’ve never heard of. You’ll meet white collar, blue collar and poverty stricken people in the same room enjoying [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Is an action that is repeated the same way each time, usually at some [...]

1 comment Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I had to really think about whether I wanted to review this book on Submissive Guide or not because it’s not directed to submissives. In fact the description of the book says that it’s for Masters and those new to BDSM that are called to Mastery. I started reading it with an open outlook though [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Hello :) simply put, I am not new to the BDSM lifestyle…but am very new to a serious D/s relationship. My Master has been wonderful when is comes to teaching me what his expectations are. I desperately want to do something special for him, a way to thank him for taking me on and all [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything, Rituals and Routines
Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-18-12 The other night KnyghtMare and I went to a play party. We were having a nice time sitting and watching and socializing in the sunken seating area surrounded by raised booths. KnyghtMare was playfully swatting my breasts from time to time and at one point I raised my arms [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-4-12 If you can’t get out to munches in your community or conventions held around the world the next best thing is a website focused on kink education. I have nothing but praise for Kink Academy and the quality educators and topics that they cover on Kink Academy.  Here at Submissive [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
A Day in the Life: bonimiss

A Day in the Life: bonimiss

This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series. I saw luna’s request for a day in the life and was immediately interested but then I hesitated. I fear I suffer from “Not Doing It Right” syndrome but then I thought if I am doing it the way Sir specifies, I [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
…And Along Came Baby: Parenting and Submission

…And Along Came Baby: Parenting and Submission

As a parent of 2 children and the active property of my Owner and Husband, I thought perhaps it was time to begin writing some about the trials and tribulations as well as the joys and experiences of the parent slave.  I was surprised when I first began writing about this topic that no one [...]

18 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

Hi, my name is Laney and I am a hug slut. I admit it, I love a good hug. As such, imagine how hard it was for me, entering the world of BDSM where a hug in greeting is not always possible. At my dungeon, like all dungeons, we have a set of rules that [...]

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community

Chat Night Transcript from “Recovering from a Breakup” Talk

from chat night 10-4-11 (8:05:07 PM) lunaKM: Let’s start out with a little introduction period. Everyone please let us know the general area you are located, if you are sub, slave, property, other and anythign else you’d like to share with us. (8:05:07 PM) hachiko: I <3 blue (8:05:35 PM) pepper_di: i will start if [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
How More Than One D/s Household Lives Together

How More Than One D/s Household Lives Together

Sometimes it happens that there is more than one D/s or M/s family under one roof. Many wonder how this could work out. Sometimes this happens for financial reasons; while for others it happens simply because it can work and be fun. If your family is planning on moving in with another lifestyle family there [...]

1 comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Relationships

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