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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-9-16 by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Simply Service e-Zine: April 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: April 2005

Today I bring you another Simply Service newsletter. If you have enjoyed the series up to now, you’ll want to read this one! From the newsletter’s description; Current contributors are all slave or submissive identified, and in real time relationships where obedience and service are necessary, valued skills, achieved over time. I have been fortunate enough to meet these [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Simply Service e-Zine: March 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: March 2005

Today I bring you another Simply Service newsletter. This was an exceptionally lovely one and I highly recommend you check it out! From the newsletter’s description; Current contributors are all slave or submissive identified, and in real time relationships where obedience and service are necessary, valued skills, achieved over time. I have been fortunate enough to meet these lovely [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Welcome to part three in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area. [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

This is a guest post by Mina Button. She has written for Submissive Guide previously and you can find her writing here. When I first heard about the idea of mono/poly, a relationship in which one partner is monogamous and the other partner isn’t, I thought it could never possibly work.  Well, maybe it could [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Book Review: The Ritual of Dominance & Submission: A Guide to High Protocol Dominance & Submission

Book Review: The Ritual of Dominance & Submission: A Guide to High Protocol Dominance & Submission

One of the more selective skills of a D/s relationship is protocol. Many of the misconceptions is that it’s hard to do and that only the more serious power exchange relationships participate. KnyghtMare and I have some moderate protocol all the time since I love it and he likes control so anytime he gets opportunity [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews, Talents and Skills
How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

It’s often the case that protocol develops in D/s relationships that start out with a bit of structure to them, whether the relationship intended it or not. While there are some casual style relationships that have protocol, I haven’t seen a lot of it when a relaxed relationship is preferred. Now with that said, I [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
photography; George L Stein, model; Lilly Rose

The Controversy of Safe Words during Punishment

A few months ago, a heated topic was being discussed in a lifestyle group that I’m a member of on Facebook. The reason the topic became so heated was because, well, of me. I wasn’t really surprised by this because well, I do have a tendency to create controversy. It was so bad this time, [...]

10 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

BDSM and Sex Sex and BDSM They do not have to go together, did you know that? While much of what we do in the bedroom can be considered sexual or sensual in nature it does not mean that you have to engage in sexual contact during play. Oftentimes during negotiation people will forget the [...]

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality
Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

“If your angry, take deep breaths. If your really angry, swear.” – Mark Twain My friend says on her blog, “Anger and I are old friends.” This is why I like her blog so much, because she is very realistic. You’ll probably see a lot of submissives say that they never get angry at their [...]

6 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Relationships
Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Is an action that is repeated the same way each time, usually at some [...]

1 comment Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should.  But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.  I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.”  In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it way [...]

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I had to really think about whether I wanted to review this book on Submissive Guide or not because it’s not directed to submissives. In fact the description of the book says that it’s for Masters and those new to BDSM that are called to Mastery. I started reading it with an open outlook though [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Why Do Dominants Insist on Being Called Sir?

Why Do Dominants Insist on Being Called Sir?

Why do Dominants insist on being called Sir? That was a question posed not that long ago in an online community that I belong to. They wanted to know why so many insist on being called Sir. Was it a matter of respect the Dominant thought they had earned? Was it a matter of protocol? [...]

22 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Hello :) simply put, I am not new to the BDSM lifestyle…but am very new to a serious D/s relationship. My Master has been wonderful when is comes to teaching me what his expectations are. I desperately want to do something special for him, a way to thank him for taking me on and all [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything, Rituals and Routines

What is Protocol?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. High protocol, moderate protocol, low protocol, even special protocol; these words are all used to describe something that seems mythical to many and commonplace for the few. So, what [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
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