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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 7 of 7) – In Closing

The last part of Ambrosio’s series on Leather and Etiquette. This article contains further reading, links, and resources you can use to improve your own knowledge!

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Simply Service e-Zine: April 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: April 2005

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from April 2005. Topics include Adding members to a household, mental orgasms, written communication and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

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[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Adding rules to a dynamic, whether for the first time or continuing a list is not easy.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Simply Service e-Zine: March 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: March 2005

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from March 2005. Topics include Protocols, Working Outside the Home, A Feminist Perspective, and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Low and high protocol events require different rules and behaviors. Here’s how you navigate them, they aren’t as scary as you think!

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Here’s what has helped Mina learn about jealousy in a mono/poly relationship – it just might help you too.

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Book Review: The Ritual of Dominance & Submission: A Guide to High Protocol Dominance & Submission

Book Review: The Ritual of Dominance & Submission: A Guide to High Protocol Dominance & Submission

If you are interested in protocol and want to read about high protocol and what it might look like in your dynamic I suggest you give this book a try.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews, Talents and Skills
How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

I’m going to cover the basics of protocol, some different types of protocol and then talk about how to develop your own protocol in your relationship.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
photography; George L Stein, model; Lilly Rose

The Controversy of Safe Words during Punishment

Receiving punishment without having a safe word in place isn’t for everyone.

10 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed relationships then you haven’t broadened your thinking enough. It’s not just the full-time “lifestyle” submissives that can benefit from rituals, rules, and protocols in their lives. Submissives that dabble in the bedroom only have a lot they can do to enhance their experience in play and sex with their partner.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Sure it may turn you on, but you still get to decide how far you go to care for that. After all, BDSM is about exchanging sensations and exploring your body’s responses to stimulus. It is not always sex.

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality
Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Everyone handles anger and frustration differently, but I think most would agree that the best way to deal with anger is to cool off before saying or doing something you will regret later on.

6 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Relationships
Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

Rituals and protocols can add richness, structure and even a little fun to a D/s relationship. Knowing the difference between the two can help the submissive better understand the desires and intentions of the dominant, and to be more pleasing when performing them.

1 comment Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should. But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I’ll definitely recommend this book to anyone who says they want a Master in their life or are thinking they are a Master. It’s easy to read with a lot of personal introspection expected. You’ll finish this book a better Master or slave – that I really believe.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Why Do Dominants Insist on Being Called Sir?

Why Do Dominants Insist on Being Called Sir?

Was it a matter of respect the Dominant thought they had earned? Was it a matter of protocol? What really was the issue behind not wanting to say that 3 letter word to a Dominant?

22 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Ask Anything | Protocol For Giving Your Dominant a Gift

Hello :) simply put, I am not new to the BDSM lifestyle…but am very new to a serious D/s relationship. My Master has been wonderful when is comes to teaching me what his expectations are. I desperately want to do something special for him, a way to thank him for taking me on and all [...]

Comments Off Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything, Rituals and Routines
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