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You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

There is this misconception that everyone shares everyone else in play or sex such as a party and that needs to stop.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive

31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Create a Butler’s Book For Stress-Free Entertaining

What to include in your own Butler’s book for entertaining, so that each guest will have an amazing time and you can showcase your best hostess skills.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: 31 Days to Better Domestic Service
Thoughts on Isolation and Feeling Alone

Thoughts on Isolation and Feeling Alone

The more isolated I am, the more isolated I want to be. The more I rely on Master to satisfy any needs I have, the less I want anyone or anything to interfere with that.

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I enjoy sub space because it separates me from the pain. I want to feel it, embrace it and hold it close. I’ve learned a few important skills that push those pain boundaries and bring me further into a sadist’s grasp. The most valuable of those skills is visualization.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

It was difficult to find any information about balancing my professional life with my submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, like me, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the professional world.

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

The responsibility of a submissive doesn’t disappear at any time. You need to look out for yourself and learn to communicate effectively with those you wish to play with, whether it’s the first or 500th time you’ve done so.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

It’s no secret that these conventions can get costly so I wanted to put together some tips for you to use to help you save a bit of money and still enjoy the event to its fullest.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex, Views & More...
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

A foot fetish is not necessarily related to submission, although for many guys the two combine well and there are a whole lot of varieties of activities and preferences for guys with a foot fetish.

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Ask one hundred submissives why they consider topping from the bottom as bad and they will likely come up with something relating to “forcing the Dominant’s hand.” They’d be right. The real, honest to goodness, truth is that forcing the Dominant’s hand is the only way you can bottom-top. How you do that is situational, different for different people or different reasons and you really can’t list the exact ways that it comes about.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

One common archetype of submissive men is the worm, a man who wants to be humiliated, degraded, and tormented as much as possible by most any and every dominant woman he encounters. Depending upon the male sub’s orientation, he may want to be treated this way by only dominant women, only dominant men, or regardless of gender.

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Domestic Challenge of the Day – Cooking for a Picky Dominant

Domestic Challenge of the Day – Cooking for a Picky Dominant

Do you have a Dominant that you are finding hard to please both of your palettes? Then you aren’t alone. One of the most common differences in partnerships is food preferences and people’s opinions about foods. I’ve come up with ways to work around the limits placed on me when I cook and I thought I’d share a few of them here.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics
Preparing Your Body for a Scene

Preparing Your Body for a Scene

Getting ready for play is full of excitement and nerves. It can be so difficult to focus on anything but the upcoming time with your Dominant.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

3 BDSM Scene Music Playlists For The Dungeon and Bedroom

Music always has a place in play for setting the right mood.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Know Thyself, Don’t Rush Into a Relationship Until You Know These Six Things

Know Thyself, Don’t Rush Into a Relationship Until You Know These Six Things

Being a single submissive preparing for a relationship is just about as much work as those of us in relationships. Personal development should be your main focus. I have six very important tasks that should help you prepare for a happy future.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
What are Dress Protocols?

What are Dress Protocols?

I had a question sent to me via YouTube asking me about for information about dress protocols. I can only tell you what I am familiar with, so be aware that there are many many other forms of dress protocols and just as many (if not more) reasons behind them. I’m going to assume that [...]

20 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing?

Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing?

I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked, “if you are not expected to do [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Challenges of Being Kajira in Today’s Society

The Challenges of Being Kajira in Today’s Society

Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. You can also read her post on what it’s like to be an owned kajira and a kajira’s strengths and misconceptions. There is so many stereotypes, misconceptions of what a kajira is; what gor is; what the gorean lifestyle is; what a bdsm lifestyler looks like; what [...]

8 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How to Give Good Initial Submissive Interviews for a D/s Relationship

How to Give Good Initial Submissive Interviews for a D/s Relationship

When you first start talking to a potential Dominant you go through an initial interview. A lot of times this is just a period where basic questions are asked and your answers help the Dominant gauge just how interested you are in them, how compatible you are with them and what your intelligence level is. [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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