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The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Your first scene with your Dominant is coming up and so far they’ve been pretty foggy as far as what will happen. You’ve never been involved in BDSM before but you are excited and scared for the upcoming session. What’s going to happen? What will you expect to see and do? A scene is in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m very new to this lifestyle. I became interested in it because I work part time as a webcam model and found I really enjoyed doing as I was told. I am exploring online and trying to better understand what I like. However the Dominants I have encountered have issues with me. They don’t like [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

On my own blog I’ve recently been reviewing various BDSM toy suppliers that I’ve used but I thought it would be interesting to write a guide on how to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of shopping! Who makes [...]

Leave a comment Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12/1/12 We are surrounded by boundaries and fences, limits and “do no pass” signs. Everything we do has limitations and restrictions. So, it may come as no surprise that you too have limits that you will not cross; be it in your relationship or pertaining to sex and play. Some [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Preparing Your Body for a Scene

Preparing Your Body for a Scene

Getting ready for play is full of excitement and nerves. It can be so difficult to focus on anything but the upcoming time with your Dominant. Setting up a preparation routine will not only make the session more enjoyable for your Dominant but will put you more at ease to enjoy it also. So what [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Perspectives: Gags

Perspectives: Gags

Being introduced to a ball gag was a scary thing for me. I had always envisioned it as limiting my breathing and never thought to try it out before it showed up in a scene. The first ball gag I owned was small, spongy ball on a leather strap. It was small and I could open [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Lessons in Submissive Speech 6: Answering in the Negative

Just as saying yes or answering in the affirmative can be done many ways, saying no has many ways you can say it also. When a submissive gives a negative answer it can be a simple “no” or it can be as elaborate as the Dominant wishes. Some Dominants do not allow the submissive to [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills

Lessons in Submissive Speech 1: Addressing Individuals

In a BDSM context, it’s more common to have to learn how to address someone than in a non-scene situation. How many times have you had conversations with service personnel or with people you encounter in your day to day without first asking them their name or how they wish to be addressed? It’s a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

What is a Collar?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Considered by some to be the greatest symbol of their surrender, a collar is the outward symbol of their status as someone’s property. Collars are worn to denote submissiveness [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
An Introduction to Body Service

An Introduction to Body Service

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-5-11 One of the more intimate ways that we submissives can serve our Dominants is by learning and performing grooming duties usually left to themselves to do. It’s not as unusual as you might think. Upper class men and women of history used to have body servants and grooms to [...]

A Day in the Life: lunaKM

A Day in the Life: lunaKM

So the series is going quite well and I thought that it was time to share with you what an average day in service to KnyghtMare is like for me. I’ve had many people who know me in real life say that my life is interesting and it’s higher protocol than most people have. I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virginity. It’s valued and prized and then remembered. There’s even people who believe in a second virginity. Of course there are also BDSM virgins when people just get started. But, the question I got posed to me the other day was if you are a sexual virgin can you even know that you are interested [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Ins and Outs of Fetishes

The Ins and Outs of Fetishes

“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
What are Dress Protocols?

What are Dress Protocols?

I had a question sent to me via YouTube asking me about for information about dress protocols. I can only tell you what I am familiar with, so be aware that there are many many other forms of dress protocols and just as many (if not more) reasons behind them. I’m going to assume that [...]

20 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing?

Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing?

I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked, “if you are not expected to do [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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