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The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships

Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships

There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don’t like to miss a single episode. What is a podcast you ask? And there really are adult kink-oriented podcasts? Why yes! A podcast is an [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

I read a forum thread the other day that rubbed me the wrong way. So I thought I’d talk about it and share my opinion on the subject. I would love to hear how you would answer this same question. The topic was asking what a submissive’s/slave’s responsibilities were in a relationship. Out of the [...]

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Video Posts

What is a Scene?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A very commonplace word in BDSM discussions is the word ‘scene’ but rarely do we define what that is with novices. Also, experienced people take for granted some of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM – According to Our Readers

The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM – According to Our Readers

The following is a compilation of the most purchased BDSM-related books on Amazon – by our community. They are organized by the number purchased through affiliate links in the past year. Conquer Me: girl-to-girl wisdom about fulfilling your submissive desires by Kacie Cunningham Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant

7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant

When you are looking for a Dominant for the first, or last, time you have a few reasons to wonder if the person you see is compatible with you. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time getting to know someone if they are not going to be your perfect, or almost [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
5 Ways to Stop Thinking of Work When You Come Home to Your Dominant

5 Ways to Stop Thinking of Work When You Come Home to Your Dominant

Working outside the home is a requirement for most submissives in D/s relationships. Not everyone gets to be a stay at home submissive. We have family and kids, mortgages and debt to pay. Working is a part of living. But work does not have to be our life. It’s a struggle to change your power [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

Picture this: it’s Valentine’s Day and you have a romantic evening planned for you and your honey. How do you prepare yourself and your bedroom for a night of passion and bliss? Do you light candles, lower the overhead lights, play soft, alluring music, perhaps use incense? Maybe you even spread rose petals on the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

When I was twenty, I met my first dominant in person. I was extremely excited and nervous about this because for months before meeting in person, we had talked a great deal through emails, online chatting services, and phone calls. The weekend he and I had planned to meet was over Memorial Day weekend. This [...]

20 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
“Becoming a Slave” Book Conflict and Questions

“Becoming a Slave” Book Conflict and Questions

i found you, Luna, by internet search and may i say that you are, to me, a godsend. i have been “asked” by the One i hope will someday be my Master to read “Becoming A Slave”. this book has presented a lot of problems for me in that now i am questioning slavery vs. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 1

Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 1

Welcome everyone to the first week of another book club here on Submissive Guide. This book club is going to be a bit more free form than the last one. I won’t present questions in the post itself. Use this post as a forum thread and talk among the other commenters. I will be participating [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/1/12 As with anything on Submissive Guide I do my best to provide you with accurate opinions and general viewpoints on topics pertaining to BDSM and submission.  Readers such as you, tell me in a variety of ways what I should be focusing on from time to time by the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Submissive Advent – Day 16: Prayer

Submissive Advent – Day 16: Prayer

Today is day 16 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. This has been all over the internet but it’s a great find. Read it and connect to your own submission today. A [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Submissive Advent – Day 12: Proud Mary

Submissive Advent – Day 12: Proud Mary

Today is day 12 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am often asked if being submissive means you have to be humble, meek and reserved. It always puzzles me to think [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
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