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Ask Submissive Guide – New to Poly and Kink

Ask Submissive Guide – New to Poly and Kink

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the lifestyle, and have never had a true Dom. However, now there is a Dom that has shown interest in me, alongside his current submissive/fiancee. While it would be a long distance relationship (LDR), I am interested in the offer, but unsure as how to pursue. To give a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
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To Be or Not To Be – Poly, Mono, Mono-Poly Flexible

At some point in our community participation we will come face to face with the question of poly vs. monogamy. Even if it’s a fleeting thought of wondering if either is better for our personal relationships, we’re still confronted with the possibility. I think that even in examining the possibility it can force us to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Relationships
On Multiple Dominants

On Multiple Dominants

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. Such a Dominant may be considered to have prowess, charisma, [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Dear lunaKM, I am researching the poly lifestyle. I am looking for opinions on whether or not poly means both sides of the slash should be able to have other partners. Is there any iron clad rule about that? Thank you. There is no iron clad rule about any relationship style. If the partners all [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Opening the relationship when it’s already rocky

Ask lunaKM – Opening the relationship when it’s already rocky

Hello, my partner is submissive, and I am vanilla. We have be together for close to 2 years, but have known each other for much longer. Our relationship has been rocky for some time now, and I have recently agreed to letting my partner fulfill her needs. Although we have agreed to work fiercely on [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Transitioning From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy

Transitioning From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy

This is written as a bode of encouragement to those who are struggling in moving from a monogamous relationship to a non-monogamous one. This is not my saying non-monogamy is the only way, or should be your way. This is not in any way to be read as implying negativity towards monogamy. This is also [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: Power Circuits by Raven Kaldera

Book Review: Power Circuits by Raven Kaldera

After I read Real Service by Raven Kaldera and his slave Joshua Tenpenny, I knew I had to read more of their works because of how awesome Real Service is. I knew I would find their other books just as informational as I had Real Service. I wasn’t at all disappointed in Power Circuits. Power [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad

Ask lunaKM – Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad

Do you have any advice for someone in a triad that is constantly feeling like a third wheel because the other female sub puts constant emphasis on being “wife” and legally married to the male dominant of the relationship? Saying we are equal to him, but her actions and words don’t back it up causing [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

This is a guest post by Mina Button. She has written for Submissive Guide previously and you can find her writing here. When I first heard about the idea of mono/poly, a relationship in which one partner is monogamous and the other partner isn’t, I thought it could never possibly work.  Well, maybe it could [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Taming the Green-Eyed Monster – Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

Taming the Green-Eyed Monster – Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

This is a guest post by DeliciousVixen. As submissives, we sometimes face difficult circumstances with our Dominants. If you add being a submissive and being polyamorous into one dynamic, you just raised the bar. My Daddy has three other women that he has intimacies with. He must split his time evenly between all of us, [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships

Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships

There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don’t like to miss a single episode. What is a podcast you ask? And there really are adult kink-oriented podcasts? Why yes! A podcast is an [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Poly & Territorial Response

Ask lunaKM – Poly & Territorial Response

I am in a poly relationship with my partner and I really care for his other partner. For the most part, I am happy for all aspects of their relationship. However, I recently learned that he used nipple clamps that we had purchased together on her and this triggered an unexpected reaction from me. I [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #18 – Poly Dynamics

Note: Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge is retiring. Participation is low and I would like to devote my efforts to things that will engage readers. I want to thank everyone who has participated and made the Challenge interesting. Don’t be dismayed there will be plenty of opportunities to participate on the site in the future! This will be the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Living M/s Book Club – Week 4

Living M/s Book Club – Week 4

Welcome everyone to week 4 of the book club here on Submissive Guide. As a reminder, this book club is going to be a bit more free form than the last one. I won’t present questions in the post itself. Use this post as a forum thread and talk among the other commenters. I will [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Book Review: The Ethical Slut

Book Review: The Ethical Slut

You have figured out by now if you read my personal blog or the Weekend Reflections here that KnyghtMare and I have recently begun the process of opening our relationship to include froggy. KnyghtMare and froggy are now Dominant and submissive and are taking it on my lead as to sexual contact. It’s not easy [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews

Research Page: Poly in BDSM

Polyamory in BDSM is a complex and challenging living arrangement no matter who you are. Poly and BDSM separately are entire worlds themselves so to put them together can only mean that there is going to be a lot of negotiation, communication and openness. No matter where you go there is bound to be discussion [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Research Pages

Is Monogamy a Dying Trend? The Rise of Poly in BDSM Relationships

Monogamy isn’t dead. It is still the leading form of relationship in D/s and SM relationships, no matter what someone else might tell you. Human nature dictates that we aren’t wired for long term fidelity, but so many of us are perfectly fine in a one partner for all time relationship.  You can still look [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: Partners in Power

Book Review: Partners in Power

After a somewhat poor experience on one of Jack Rinella’s books earlier last year I was slow to give him another chance, but through urgings of readers I sought out another of his books called Partners in Power: Living in Kinky Relationships. He has redeemed himself through this book. Mr Rinella gives us an excellent [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
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